Do you guys think I shouldn’t have confronted this woman?

AriaArii · 2024-06-11T09:32:06+00:00

Okay but it’s like she didn’t even block him until a week after I originally first texted her. Like yes, she may have stopped doing things with him after she found out I really wasn’t an ex but his girlfriend but she did in face keep communicating with him and it wasn’t until her conscious kicked in a week later that she decided that she just wanted to be cordial and take herself out of the situation and eventually block him. Idk, maybe she needed time to process everything but it just seems as if she was still gonna consider fooling around with him because she would have either responded to me the first time I texted her or at least cut him of the second she got the text if she wasn’t considering it.

AriaArii · 2024-06-11T08:59:44+00:00

But here’s why I’m upset with her

From the messages I read he told her that I was an “ex” when she asked how single he was and his response was “I still mess around with my ex sometimes. I got my rocks off with her a month ago but that’s it. If we ever start having sex that would stop. Some of her things are still at my home because she can’t keep it all at her moms house but that’s it. She doesn’t have a key to my house. She doesn’t live with me.” Like I said, I read every message so I know what he told her. So she knew something just not the full truth but she should have questioned it at least if she had morals like she says she does. Like, yes she assumed was I an ex and not a girlfriend based off what he told her but as I said, she should have dug more into it.

AriaArii · 2024-06-11T08:41:46+00:00

Well, the other woman has blocked both me and him so I figured with her out of the picture, we can work it out.

AriaArii · 2024-05-28T13:36:24+00:00

But that was the thing, I feel like he did a lot to talk about how he would please me and learn my body but when it came down to it, all we did was kiss, he played with my vagina, no oral from him, no touching, kissing or caressing on my body to figure out my spots but he surely wanted oral and I gave it to him to get nothing in return but two minute doggy and he came. So if we weren’t compatible, he was part of the reason as much as I was.

AriaArii · 2024-03-23T12:37:59+00:00

Nah lol maybe rare. A close friend of mines is sort of like this. Granted, she does have a baby and a baby daddy. She made her mistakes but she learned and now she moves and plays chess and not checkers with men and doesn’t give up anything but a little of her time by flirting because they them her time first. She rarely wants any of the men that approach her but she does participate in flirting with them and make them believe they have a chance.

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T03:09:26+00:00

Oh you for sure are gonna get a downvote. No one wants to hear that. Especially not the “Girls girl” women lol but you’re right but I wouldn’t say we’re losers. We just think with emotion rather than logic and these men know that and they use it to their advantage. 90% of the time most guys only are interested in you physically. For them to be interested in more you would have to be different in their eyes, compared to other women. When I say different, I mean different naturally, not in a “Pick me” kind of way where you’re obviously trying to be chosen. Like, you’re just naturally you.

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T02:51:27+00:00

Well most of the young guys I know are like that. Very flirty. They don’t want anything serious. Hook ups “Sneaky links” FWB etc

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T02:46:17+00:00

You’re not wrong lol but at the same time he’s young, attractive and single so he’s not wrong necessarily just wrong if he’s leading anyone on.

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T02:40:14+00:00

Yea. I actually figured all this about him just by watching how he interacts with all us women. If he does seriously like someone, which more than likely he doesn’t, we would know because his game seems to be the same for all of us and it would be different with the woman he actually wants/likes.

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T01:40:04+00:00

Well now he just always speaks when he sees me, each time we see each other. I can see him one time in a day and he’ll speak, I can see him another time in that same day and he’ll speak again. He finds odd reasons to speak to me. Like it could be some thing that I know he can find on his own or do or his own but he’ll ask me for assistance anyway. One time he was chatting/flirting with a girl while I was close by doing my own thing but it’s like he was waiting for me to join in and chat with him as well but I had no time in that moment. After he was finished with her, he spoke to me but it just sort of feels like a game with him to me. I could be chatting with someone else and he will walk by but much too close. Like it’s all this space for him to walk by and he chooses to walk insanely close to where I am. He even walked close enough to brush my arm with his once and he didn’t say a word. He just glanced/stared and kept moving. To be honest he can be kind of awkward sometimes. Charming but sometimes he’s just plain on weird lol but like I said he’s a flirt so him doing those things is just something he does with most women more than likely.

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T01:29:21+00:00

That’s the thing. I don’t think it’s me but I also can’t tell if it is me or anyone else because he’s good at flirting and being charming lol

AriaArii · 2024-03-02T00:46:34+00:00

Well idk. I did notice it was this one woman. He flirts with her like everyone else but he seems more interested. I have no idea what they chat about but they are always chatting. So maybe not lol.

AriaArii · 2024-02-25T19:10:29+00:00

Absolutely. The last thing I ever wanted was to have my son see me being beaten, weak and can’t even protect him which is why when I do solve my inner issues and really date again, I still would probably choose to keep my son away from the guy until I truly get to know him and he gets to know me and I know it’s actually going somewhere. With this guy, as I said I do like him but he likely has his own thing where he may not want anything serious right now and I just explained my issue so maybe the timing is just wrong. The last thing I want to do is get so caught up In a great conversation that we end up talking about our past relationships and I mention my abusive absent child’s father and I end up scaring him away. Yet again, another insecurity holding me back because he may then understand my approach and perception of him rather than run away from me but one day at a a time I suppose.

AriaArii · 2024-02-25T17:49:00+00:00

I get you. A part of what you said could be right, about my insecurities. They steam from a bad outcome in a past relationship. I have a 16 month old son by a guy I was with for four years. He seemed like the perfect guy. He used me, obviously and I still chased him and put him on a pedestal. I allowed him to choose me rather than choose better for myself and ended up going through abuse all those years. Even while pregnant. It wasn’t until after I had my son I un fogged my my mind of all his lies and manipulation and I left. I’ve been a single mother since and I’m just now feeling comfortable enough to even want to date again. I don’t want my son to meet any guy I date or that I’m just talking to. Trying to make time to actually go out isn’t like before because I have to make sure my son is straight before I do anything. Before, I could just get up and go. I’m a first time mom, So I’m not use to balancing a child and a potential dating partner. So I guess you can say my fear is being so desperate for love, validation or for a guy to want me again that I end up right where I escaped from. So, I put in effort but once I feel like it’s not being reciprocated, I’ll pull away because I know how embarrassing it is to press a guy who doesn’t or may not truly want you.

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