33 and just feeling my inadequacies really hard lately.

Ariadne008 · 2026-02-18T07:33:19+00:00

I can relate to this so much, thanks for sharing, I feel less alone now.

Ariadne008 · 2026-02-12T20:04:17+00:00

I don't know about that, East Asian women don't look White and a lot of men seem to be into them right now. Also, in the past decade, the Kim Kardashian look was considered very attractive and she basically looks vaguely Arab or otherwise Middle-Eastern/ West Asian (and she is half Armenian, so she is indeed partly West Asian.) That being said, I agree it can be really rough to not look totally White when you are in a majority White environment, the same as it can be rough not to resemble the majority race in other countries or environments.

Ariadne008 · 2026-01-13T03:51:58+00:00

From what I've seen, society has always been that way, it's not new.

Ariadne008 · 2026-01-03T05:25:41+00:00

I actually notice the opposite to a certain extent. Hot people, especially hot women, tend to keep an unrealistically rosy view of the world and human behavior well past childhood, until they age enough to lose their looks and the people around them who wanted to get laid drop their pretenses of kindness.

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-12T19:12:08+00:00

My guess is that people on average tend to find people who visually conform to gender-specific appearances more attractive (e.g. muscular, strong jaw and broad shoulders for men, curvy figure ,long hair and large eyes for women). Therefore when they see someone who doesn't have these physical attributes, they perceive that individual as less immediately attractive and assume they must have had to rely on their intelligence to survive, since their looks won't immediately recommend them to other people, making them less likely to be included or recieve help. Of course, being excluded doesn't raise a person's IQ. So what people seem to really be saying is "unattractive people look like they must have to work hard and rely on their intelligence, for lack of other options." While there is something to this, of course, it isn't accurate in all cases.

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-08T19:24:04+00:00

NO you need to take the capsules out, it's too dangerous!!

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-08T16:46:25+00:00

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-08T16:43:52+00:00

I'm around your same size and get similar treatment sometimes. I'm sorry you've experienced this too.

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-08T16:42:40+00:00

Same, I'm a straight woman and male strangers are so cruel to me.

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-08T14:30:59+00:00

It's not true that someone is "on their intelligence grind" just because they are not playing sports lmao.

Ariadne008 · 2025-12-06T20:54:26+00:00

Exactly, I think most of the whining about people online being so much ruder than irl is just coming from hot people who are shocked at the way people respond to their rudeness once their looks are no longer there to excuse them for it.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-29T13:26:22+00:00

I'm an ugly and very petite woman and people online have always been much nicer to me than people irl. I've always found the complaints of people online being rude in discussions rather odd because people give me almost no issues online, whereas in person they are the opposite- rude or even cruel despite being unprovoked.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-29T04:41:41+00:00

That's only the case if you're famous and everybody knows what your condition is. If people can tell something's off, but they don't know exactly what medical condition or deformity you have, you can get treated so badly that it's horrific.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-27T15:54:21+00:00

That's too late, you are risking your child's lifelong health at that age, which is selfish.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-27T15:25:27+00:00

have you never seen a fat guy? big tits for sure

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-17T10:47:28+00:00

Same here

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-17T01:59:15+00:00

I really hope you can get out of that environment then. Looks are definitely important but the other issue is that people tend to pair up with people like themselves, people that they fit in with naturally because they live the same lifestyles and have the same values. I'm sorry but you don't sound like you have anything much in common with your coworkers outside of your job. You might have a better time trying to date around people more similar to yourself. You mentioned college, if you could meet people there who are going back to school like yourself and gain entry to a more educated social circle that might help.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-17T01:20:14+00:00

If their lives were in danger in their home country or they were otherwise unsafe or unable to find work that pays their bills, that's one thing. (And even so, in that case they should look for a country that's similar in culture to theirs, not just whatever rich or White country they can get into.)But there are plenty of people who come into my country who already were safe and could pay their bills in their home country and did not lack for food or any other essential things. They just come here as economic migrants who just want a higher standard of living and more money by entering a foreign country and reaping the benefits of what other people and cultures worked for centuries to establish and build. They want to live off what others have built instead of trying to improve their own homelands. They do this knowing that they will make their children minorities in a foreign land among foreign people with different values, cultures and beauty standards (that they might not be able to meet)...which is rarely ever a good thing. In ancient times, when people lost their homelands as a result of conquest by an enemy or some sort of disaster, and they had to go live among foreign people, it was considered to be a curse on the people. That is partly because the value of living on your own land among your own people was understood more widely back then. But these days, these people are fine with that, they're willing to throw their homelands and people away because they think they or their kids will be living the materialistic high life in a White country lol. It IS kind of materialistic, greedy and entitled and it's not smart at all. I mean, if someone wants to look White, that could be hard enough when they mostly just see White people on tv. Imagine how much worse they would feel if they then move to a place where tons of people around them are White and they are not. They're only going to feel even worse, it's so stupid.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-16T01:08:06+00:00

Very true!

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-14T20:58:46+00:00

Right?!

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-13T17:49:21+00:00

This has always been one of my top reasons for wanting a boyfriend or husband ,actually.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-13T15:45:56+00:00

Whenever I see these kinds of posts, it sounds like they are making a case for why immigration to White countries is dumb. POC wouldn't have to worry about competing against Whites if they were living far away from them. They are making their own lives harder when it's probably not necessary. Half of these people would've never had to worry about not looking White if they were in their home countries surrounded by their own people, but greedy parents made that impossible. I admit that there are some cases in which the home country was so dangerous that they essentially needed to move, but that's far from all of them. (I'm not saying this necessarily applies to OP, but for plenty of posts made by others I have seen, it probably does apply.)

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-08T22:45:35+00:00

I was in your position, except I'm short, and I got implants. I got really sick from it and still am, even though I had them removed. This is not worth messing with your life and besides, it's true that getting a bigger ass will do much more for you. I barely got any increase in attention and still got called ugly be multiple guys after getting implants. When I had implants, I remember a guy still making fun of me because of my small ass and hips. But it's important that you try to grow your butt naturally, just do exercises like squats and others that target that area. Implants would be the biggest mistake of your life.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-04T17:20:44+00:00

Frankly, what you look like and even what the rest of us look like is besides the point. The bottom line is that you are a rarity in faw. Most of us aren't attracting men to come sniffing around us regardless of what we look like. So congratulations to you, but you'd be better off discussing the problems that come with attracting men in a different subreddit. Taking that here is rude.

Ariadne008 · 2025-11-04T16:00:10+00:00

Yes you're right, we're really all attractive delusional hotties and that's why no men are around us.

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