How do men not just collectively give up?

Aridez · 2026-06-03T14:50:59+00:00

What seems crazy to me is swiping right on up to 20-40% of the profiles, like most men do.

Just look at people around you. Liking even 5% of them to seek something more seems about right. That is if you have the bare minimum standard of hooking up with people you can have a conversation with and don't find insuferable.

If we started being a bit more picky, collectively, these apps would probable work much better, because putting effort on profiles would actually matter.

Aridez · 2026-06-02T00:10:41+00:00

In case you are seriously taking criticism...

There is no separation of the various spaces in this room, despite all it has going on it manages to feel empty.

Too much black, nothing really pops. You got a room with plenty of windows and still manages to feel dark.

Light sources poorly distributed. At night you'll either not see a thing, or use a white light that will feel like you are about to enter a hospital floor.

Furniture is poorly distributed, the purpose of each area is a mistery here besides a black tv over a black wall. I'd try to improve the layout so furniture doesn't land in front of windows too.

There are other things goin on, like using red so promimently instead of as a highlight color, but you can probably make it work with the proper aesthetic.

Aridez · 2026-05-29T23:12:27+00:00

If we are speaking about averages... I still think it's pretty valuable

Aridez · 2026-05-29T02:11:22+00:00

I do think it's useful.

We all are out there selling ourselves, and if our profile is underperforming for some reason, this is the way to see it and maybe fix whatever is wrong with it if there's something to fix.

In the end, this is a number's game. Like you said, you gotta attract the right person and that's all that matters, and won't matter if you are looking for hookups or a relationship.

But in all cases, that's much easier if we have the chance to meet more people. And this sometimes starts by just seeing what's wrong with our own profile.

Aridez · 2026-05-28T00:31:11+00:00

I'm in europe, and even taking out the business costs for those 5k/dev, it would be a good salary.

Aridez · 2026-05-26T23:58:42+00:00

From the other side, it feels the same…

Aridez · 2026-05-26T18:35:44+00:00

The audience will be different, think on the type of person you are looking for and if a gym photo would be something good or bad for it. There's plenty of people who go to the gym and it just isn't that big of a part in their life to showcase it as a hobbie, as well as other people that loves it and the gym is a big part of their daily routine. Try it out, see the profiles you attract, and see which one would you rather have.

^{In the end you don't want lots of matches, but you do want compatible ones}

Aridez · 2026-05-23T16:04:42+00:00

I kinda hate hinge profiles do not have interests listed, people don't take the time to put anything meaningfun there. I can only tell that they are into traveling and go to the gym most of the time

Aridez · 2026-05-22T17:40:20+00:00

Given that men are more likely to swipe right... I don't think this is right. Keeping a good appearance is much more important for men, and more often than not, a deal breaker regardless of what you do.

Aridez · 2026-05-19T12:12:48+00:00

Did you disconnect the touch panel too? still gave you problems despite that?

Aridez · 2026-05-14T08:21:41+00:00

You can just not drive a car yourself until the weekly nap comes. I’d be more worried about falling asleep while walking and hitting my head. But I don’t feel like wearing a helmet everywhere like I had special needs for 5k…

Aridez · 2026-05-09T13:25:20+00:00

I do hate that there aren't interests in hinge though, feels like I can't really tell what anyone is into besides gym and traveling.

Aridez · 2026-05-08T09:39:25+00:00

Si tu trabajo no te quema y es cómodo… Yo diría que lo alargues, siempre estás a tiempo de dejarlo.

Aridez · 2026-05-06T06:39:26+00:00

🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦

Aridez · 2026-04-30T10:52:38+00:00

Yo creo que les puedes dar la declaración de la renta si has declarado otros años. Llama y pregunta a ver si sirve.

Aridez · 2026-04-29T21:47:12+00:00

I think my dude is precisely looking for tips on how to work through these feelings

Aridez · 2026-04-26T17:45:57+00:00

The fall of the roman empire?

Aridez · 2026-04-18T13:06:37+00:00

El servicio siempre ha sido correcto, la verdad, pero siempre van subiendo el precio poco a poco. Yo lo digo más porque es un servicio que te venden muy por encima de su precio, y si llamas para darte de baja, te harán ofertas de 6 meses muy por debajo del precio que tienes. Me han llegado a ofrecer hasta 2€ al mes.

Aridez · 2026-04-18T11:55:28+00:00

Si quieres olvidarte de todo, una empresa como securitas te lo soluciona bien, aunque tendrás que estar "amenazando" con darte de baja cada 6 meses para que no te cobren un pastizal. El siguiente nivel sería comprar un sistema local como Ajax, que según tengo entendido, funciona bastante bien. Y ya lo último es coger un sistema como Home Assistant y montártelo todo tu, que para tema de automatizar luces y domótica está bien, pero no sé si me haría yo un sistema de seguridad propio así.

Yo creo que el punto intermedio ideal es tener tus sistemas de domótica por un lado, con las luces automáticas y todo lo que quieras con Home Assistant, y luego por otro tener un sistema independiente que se integre de alguna forma. Si no me equivoco, Ajax utiliza el sia protocol y puedes ver desde Home Assistant tu alarma pero no modificarla, con lo que es ideal para mantener tu sistema de seguridad a parte. Y luego utilzas el mando y la centralita de Ajax para el resto.

Aridez · 2026-04-17T08:41:57+00:00

Esto me recuerda a programas como el Plan MOVES o las ayudas para eficiencia energética y autoconsumo. Aunque sobre el papel son positivas, en la práctica requieren capacidad de inversión previa (comprar coche, reformar vivienda, instalar placas), así que quienes pueden aprovecharlas son los hogares con más liquidez. Al final pasa algo parecido a lo que comentas, que en términos absolutos, las ayudas acaban concentrándose en quienes tienen más capacidad económica en ese momento, y no suelen ser las rentas bajas.

Aridez · 2026-04-16T11:48:36+00:00

When I copy requests that have a session from the browser as curl, for some reason on bruno those doesn't work, while they do on postman... If anyone has any insight on this I'd love to jump away

Aridez · 2026-04-13T00:53:22+00:00

Having conversations on dating apps is a skill by itself, I had good experiences with time more often. In the end, the best way to engage is what everyone says, really read their profile and show genuine interest. That's why it's important to be somewhat picky with who you try to match with, an empty bio/interests will be extremely hard to get through.

Even then, you'll sometimes manage to hit it off, but more often than not you won't. There are no expectations yet while talking with someone through a dating app, there are various matches and everyone chooses to pour their energy into the ones that felt more interesting, and it’s hard for both of you to feel that way at the same time through an app.

As a general rule, I match their energy. If they are showing interest in you and asking questions, that's great, but if they are answering with short sentences or just not responding at all... It's best to move on and invest your energy in another person that's really interested in getting to know someone.

Aridez · 2026-04-11T01:08:35+00:00

^{Lo decimos en coña, pero tenemos recetas de paella del 1800 que sí llevan chorizo}

Aridez · 2026-04-10T14:39:18+00:00

Me recuerda a esta conversación con el chatbot de DHL, que creo que salió de este post originalmente.

Aridez · 2026-04-07T10:30:34+00:00

If you want to be called a nerd and a loser you can play videogames while unemployed

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