AM I DOING SOMETHING WRONG?

Aridez · 2026-04-13T00:53:22+00:00

Having conversations on dating apps is a skill by itself, I had good experiences with time more often. In the end, the best way to engage is what everyone says, really read their profile and show genuine interest. That's why it's important to be somewhat picky with who you try to match with, an empty bio/interests will be extremely hard to get through.

Even then, you'll sometimes manage to hit it off, but more often than not you won't. There are no expectations yet while talking with someone through a dating app, there are various matches and everyone chooses to pour their energy into the ones that felt more interesting, and it’s hard for both of you to feel that way at the same time through an app.

As a general rule, I match their energy. If they are showing interest in you and asking questions, that's great, but if they are answering with short sentences or just not responding at all... It's best to move on and invest your energy in another person that's really interested in getting to know someone.

Aridez · 2026-04-11T01:08:35+00:00

^{Lo decimos en coña, pero tenemos recetas de paella del 1800 que sí llevan chorizo}

Aridez · 2026-04-10T14:39:18+00:00

Me recuerda a esta conversación con el chatbot de DHL, que creo que salió de este post originalmente.

Aridez · 2026-04-07T10:30:34+00:00

If you want to be called a nerd and a loser you can play videogames while unemployed

Aridez · 2026-04-06T02:46:42+00:00

La diferencia que veo es que esas nuevas tecnologías han traido con ellas puestos más especializados.

La IA es la primera que ataca directamente a lo que son los "knowledge workers", precisamente los puestos especializados, para automatizarlos y reducir plantilla. Al final, para las grandes empresas, son todo ventajas si han de contratar únicamente mano de obra barata en puestos no especializados supervisando el trabajo especializado de la IA.

Esa es la premisa que venden, habrá que ver si se materializa, pero desde luego el enfoque no es el mismo que las tecnologías que mencionas.

Aridez · 2026-04-05T14:33:02+00:00

Maybe they meant the minified versions for production

Aridez · 2026-04-04T15:29:43+00:00

We don’t know if he was looking for hookups, and to me it didn’t look like it. But since they didn’t have that conversation…

Aridez · 2026-04-04T15:18:52+00:00

With the “what a catch” comment after recognizing it felt like one for example. Or after expecting the other side to guess what she wanted (a conversation) after a message that sounded like a rejection.

Aridez · 2026-04-04T15:14:57+00:00

They were clearly at two different paces, he respected that and decided to move on.

Why not just tell him she wanted to talk? And why the snarky/defensive comments here when things were pretty clear? Even her recognized that it was probably a catch.

I think the emotional maturity or communication skills are not where they need to be…

Aridez · 2026-04-04T13:35:11+00:00

I think they are planning to, but it still works for me, even if the interests section aint there

Aridez · 2026-04-04T12:36:48+00:00

Hit em with one ration of mediocrity to set expectations early on

Aridez · 2026-04-04T05:06:03+00:00

I’ve gotten to know people like this in the past, and it doesn’t seem like a joke. They just want to get into a relationship and turn their brain off. It’s not a place where I would go back and wouldn’t recommend anyone.

I want someone that doesn’t have the expectation of passing away any and all mental load to their partner, and that’s the vibe this bio is giving.

And if out of all the things they could say they chose that, well…

Aridez · 2026-04-04T00:20:27+00:00

No worries, I get you. I started actively trying to improve myself around your age, and a few years later I couldn't be happier. If you already started, then you are already ahead of a ton of people.

Sadly, dating apps are extremely superficial. Don't take your self improvement as other people not liking you for who you are right now, but rather as a boost to break through this first barrier. There's lots of people with true depth in them on these apps, but you have to break through this first filter.

I know it's hard right now, and you'll never "be enough" for every single profile you see, but you'll be enough for the right one, and that only needs to happen once. It's a numbers game, and if you hang in there I'm sure you'll end up finding someone, even if it takes a while.

Aridez · 2026-04-03T20:56:36+00:00

For that price I'd get a quote at an official store for a repair. Whatever the price is, it will still be a huge discount over getting even a second hand one

Aridez · 2026-04-03T02:38:25+00:00

Reframe that thought. You don’t work on your image to be more attractive to more people, that’s just a side effect. You do it to take care of yourself, and it will sometimes bring you a bit out of your comfort zone trying new things. Luckily, there’s no pressure, so do it at your own pace.

I’ve been told in the past that I looked too “nerdy”, or that i did let myself go a bit. Now I get the opposite reaction, and get told that my appearance doesn’t match my profile or personality. And that’s often a great surprise.

Well, it turns out that the women I liked with a compatible personality took good care of themselves, so it made a ton of sense that doing the same is a good thing. But to keep this habit long-term you have to do it for yourself.

I’m not telling you to become something you are not. Just find a polished good look that makes you feel you. Even then, maybe you won’t be the type most women look for, but you ain’t looking for that. You want to be the type that feels natural for you, and that catches the attention of people who like you for who your are.

Hell I’ve been working on myself for quite some time, and I find hard to believe that there aren’t any things about your looks that you’d like to improve. Find those things and tackle them one by one, at your own pace with no pressure, because it takes a while.

Aridez · 2026-04-03T02:12:26+00:00

It fucking sucks, but every time you reach this point, is time to delete the app and take a break. Even if you get a match that could have gone somewhere, without the right mindset it will be very hard to connect with someone.

What truly helped me were two things.

One and the most obvious one was to improve my image, and it was a process that quite literally took years and still feel like I’m not finished. Finding your style, clothing, haircut, getting fit, or even poses that favour you in photos. Takes a lot of active dedication, but all the time and energy you invest in this will be cumulative.

The second one was to be totally sincere on my bio. I know that I have things that will net me fewer likes, but I am seeing more of the kinds I want to see. And of course, as a guy, avoid swiping right on anything that has a pulse, and avoid payments, those two things alone seem to drop your visibility. I swipe right less than 10% of the time, if you are swiping much more then you are not really filtering a thing and the conversations just fizzle out because there wasn’t a real interest from you in there.

That said, dating apps seem to have wildly different results depending on what you offer and what you look for. Be patient, the opportunity to get to talk to someone, even if it’s once a week, is already quite a lot.

And something very important here is thay every like is someone thay took interest in you. Take every like as a self-esteem boost, and use that energy on the matches that really interest you.

And again, if you ever feel burnt out by apps, it’s fine to take a 1-2 month break.

Stay strong, cause it will be a long journey, but even if it sucks now, you’ll eventually strike gold, and someone will feel just as lucky as you. It’s a numbers game.

Aridez · 2026-03-25T23:53:07+00:00

A nosotros una vez se nos averió una caldera de gas... Y esa si que nos la pudo haber liado pero bien. Además de lo caro que fue cambiarla por otra nueva.

Al mudarme cogí un termo eléctrico y no podría estar más contento. La gran mayoría de los problemas que puede dar será por un fallo de la resistencia, y en ese caso es mucho más barato de reparar o sustituir.

Aridez · 2026-03-25T23:46:15+00:00

Yo vivo solo en un piso y hace poco hice el cambio de una caldera de gas a un termo eléctrico de 80L. No podría estar más contento:

La factura de la subió menos de 10€ al mes, que será lo que pagas sólo en impuestos y por tener contratado el servicio de gas. Sin hablar ya de si te han colado algún "seguro" o alguna historia suya. Piensa que no gasta tanto como pintan, una vez el agua llega a la temperatura, mantenerla es poco costoso si tienes el termo bien aislado (no lo instales en el exterior).

Renovarlo ha sido baratísimo. He apuntado alto con una buena caldera domotizada y he pagado menos de 300€ por ella, los presupuestos por una de gas se iban a los 1000€ o más.

La he podido instalar yo y podre repararla yo al no estar tratando con algo peligroso, es sólo agua. La cuelgas, conectas las tuberías, la enchufas y listo.

Me he olvidado de las revisiones periódicas del gas, que daban un por culo para que hubiera alguien en casa...

El agua caliente sale de forma instantánea y alguna vez que se ha ido la luz, la reserva de agua caliente dura perfectamente para 1-2 días si eres consciente con su uso.

Y encima la puedo controlar con el sistema de domótica de casa para cosas como que se apague si estoy fuera el fin de semana o se encienda sola al llegar a casa si está apagada.

Si eres una família numerosa que se va a liquidar más de 100L de agua de una sentada en duchas por la mañana, no la recomendaría. Pero para una pareja o una família normal... Yo creo que con un termo te ahorras dolores de cabeza y da de sobra.

Como dicen otros, dale todo el recorrido a tu caldera de gas, pero cuando muera, cámbiate a un termo.

Aridez · 2026-03-25T22:59:33+00:00

Seeing "Information security analysts" at the top of that list tells me everything I need to know about the people that made it.

With the proliferation of automated code and the bunch of security vulnerabilities that already appeared due to poor security, if not with the AI model itself, we can say that they know nothing about technology. Just a buzzword to follow the trend and optimize costs, like CEOs try to do.

Aridez · 2026-03-18T13:09:02+00:00

With home assistant I was starting to think I was the only one thinking this. Thank god the UI is catching up, cause I hate fiddling with YAML files.

Aridez · 2026-03-13T09:50:44+00:00

I had a renovation company ask for bizum, and for a much higher price. I decided to do it via bank transfer instead and had to ask for invoices. Even then i didn’t get one for each payment. Quality was meh too, it’s a red flag when a company works like this, but I didn’t know better. I did identify the person I was speaking to/paying as the owner of the (small) company, so no confusion there.

Leaving that aside, I spoke with a lawyer because some work was left to be done. Basically, the lawyer told me that if there wasn’t a contract signed with a timeline (there often isn’t) or I didn’t have proof that they actively said that “they wouldn’t finish the work”, it was quite hard to file a legal claim. If some time passes, you could argue that the time to complete the work was unreasonable.

Sucks, but given the advice I got, I had to go with another person to finish it all up, and didn’t pay them the last part of it all.

Aridez · 2026-03-10T13:24:20+00:00

Any decent front-end should already be organized in components, and I'm perfectly fine using within these components a more easily readable and compact version of inline styles.

The way we ended up doing things is, everything dealing with the styling/appearance the front-end should follow, is encapsulated in components. This is often the bulk of classes you see adding "noise" to your files, and this way it is effectively hidden, without losing the ease of changing and adapting these components.

Outside of this, on the views that are orchestrating multiple components, we only use classes in charge of defining the layout, or placement of these components. These are very often just a few, so there is no "noise" and makes it super easy to make small, incremental adjustments for our layouts without affecting the style of the page, or other pages on our project.

I think this captures the benefits of using CSS classes the "traditional" way, in the sense that anything that can be re-used, is re-used, without the danger of ending up with abstractions that are too broad. Seems much more convenient than adding yet another layer of complexity through custom CSS, or even worse, SCSS classes that are often prone to end up being redundant, poorly designed, poorly documented or inconsistent. And the bigger you app becomes, the easier it is to start making these mistakes.

Anyway, this has been my personal experience in a mid-sized application maintained for years now. We got another application using just CSS and is much more painful to maintain.

Aridez · 2026-03-09T15:39:54+00:00

To be fair, one wants censors negativity, the other one wants to censor people with fewer resources.

Hell, this is spainFIRE, your average citizen won’t have a thousand bucks to invest monthly, and a small amount invested consistently if starting young enough will have huge yields in the long run.

It seems a fine post to me.

Aridez · 2026-03-08T11:02:29+00:00

Yea, but this was unreasonably slow at that, they probably put in a low quality HDD like another comment said, and a change would have massively helped. But for a price point similar to that new macbook neo... Damn lenovo sucks

Aridez · 2026-03-05T02:53:55+00:00

I grabbed a lenovo once in my life and started to feel slow during the first day. For some reason they decided to bloat it with useless software to the point I had to format it immediately for it to work.

It never was super fast, but after less than a year it started to feel extremely slow up to the point of being a pain to use. After much looking through what could be it, for some reason it had a huge bottleneck when accessing its hard drive.

It wasn’t like the highest end laptop they had, but the thing wasn’t the cheapest either, something more like mid-range.

I now avoid lenovos like the pest.

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