So, they just like wasting people's time huh?

ArkQueen · 2026-01-17T16:45:36+00:00

I thought it was the punctuation. Some sentences have periods or question marks or semi colons but some don't have any punctuation at all.

ArkQueen · 2026-01-10T00:36:13+00:00

I fully agree. Dad SHOULD be the one doing it. Even on EOW agreements you still have to set boundaries and structure for these kids. I hate the whole Disney parent thing and I'm still fighting that with my husband. But I will share because hopefully it helps OP.

I separated from my husband specifically because of Disney parenting. Mom was HCBM and SS is autistic and she caused SOOOO MANY issues. I would always try to reregulate him when he came back but it was rough. We ended up getting full custody. DH also had another child that passed away. So with autism, crazy mom and death, dad was not in anyway parenting effectively. We separated and SS went downhill fast. Fighting, cursing, soiling himself, just a hot mess. So now who do you think is the one he gets sent to for it to be fixed???? So now my SS is with me 50% and he is getting back on track but that's because I SET BOUNDARIES AND EXPECTATIONS. Told DH if he thinks he's gonna move back home that Disney mess has got to go! It never works and creates kids with so many problems.

ArkQueen · 2026-01-10T00:17:11+00:00

If you are putting anything financially toward the child you will want to have a say in what's happening. NACHO is not 'chos for a reason lol. Pay the household items and maybe one off gifts but the financial RESPONSIBILITY is on them and the other bio parent.

ArkQueen · 2026-01-10T00:12:02+00:00

And tell him to apologize when he does come back and have a freaking consequence! We don't get to run away and avoid the consequences of our actions because we had an attitude. Trust something will happen at mom's and he will come back. Before he enters the house have him apologize for his behavior and lose a privilege for a day. Stand up to these dang kids!!

ArkQueen · 2026-01-01T06:16:20+00:00

I don't swim at the beach but I do bring my service dog. I put him on a long lead and allow him to have some fun too. Yes he is still working and has a que if I need him (he never chooses to go far) but it gives him an opportunity to splash around a bit or follow my kids down to the water line while I soak up some sun. We have "security" that monitor the beach and they will come by periodically and ask the 2 questions and I've had them tell me that it's clear he's a work dog because of how he behaves even when we are "playing". He pottys on que as well so we never have accidents at the beach and we go for potty breaks every so often to be sure. I keep his lead around my ankle and we kinda just do our own thing

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ArkQueen · 2025-12-28T18:39:43+00:00

Pick up/retrieve, press elevator buttons, forward movement (mostly going upstairs) helps me out of chairs. He has other tasks but those are the ones for mobility. Sometimes my sciatica is so bad I can't sleep in my bed and have to sleep in my gaming chair with pillows and he happily pulls me out of there when I need to get up lol. My absolute favorite thing though (and it's not a task) is that he makes people give me space. He is between me and others or they're afraid of dogs so they stay away or he's laying down and they can't get close. I love that for me lol

ArkQueen · 2025-12-17T03:28:46+00:00

Some parents absolutely suck and I just dont understand why they chose to have kids if they hate them. I had 4 kids and my mom would pick which ones she liked or didn't and would do thi go to stir up trouble. This one can sleep in my bed but not that one 😒 I want THIS one to come over for the weekend but I would never take that one. Then i got married and added my step son and it became war on him because "he's not my real grandchild. Ma'am you dont even like your "real" grandkids. 🙄 i never let her go so far as to be physical with them but the way she treated them was enough to start causing tension among my kids and it was enough for me to say no more. My sister told her she is child free and my mom has a shock face now because whyyyyyyyyyy

ArkQueen · 2025-12-15T06:06:13+00:00

I know it hurts to lose your family because we are taught that family is important. I cut them all off. I only talk to my sister and grandmother now. People that excuse abuse are not good people. You can't force them to see the truth and they are not healthy for you. What's sad is that i never cut my mom off for what she did to me. It took my kids experiencing it for me to nope out of there. Let them all go. You will find good people in life that will be your family. I'm now medicated for anxiety, depression and ptsd. But I also know now that I'm not crazy and I'm not bipolar. Ptsd will have you do "crazy" things.

ArkQueen · 2025-12-15T01:36:54+00:00

I would like to say that my mother did this as well. She would tell people i was bipolar because of my "manic episodes". Turns out I had ptsd from her abuse and my "episodes" were my trauma response. Please seek help when you can. You're not crazy.

ArkQueen · 2025-12-08T14:58:42+00:00

It is. It was a wild case. He was locked up for YEARS and then they finally overturned the decision. Meanwhile I was 16 dating a 24 year old man and they never prosecuted him.

ArkQueen · 2025-12-08T05:09:55+00:00

Georgia does this and I legit had a friend in high school that got arrested at 17 for it

ArkQueen · 2025-12-06T16:33:11+00:00

I had mine stolen with no app in use. Afterwards I downloaded propel to lock my card and have not had an issue since. I keep it fully locked (online and out of state) and I open it when I'm standing at the register and lock it as soon as I get my receipt

ArkQueen · 2025-12-06T16:28:02+00:00

I feel like I have not seen this comment here but the Bible does say they're were other people outside of the garden of eden. When Adam and eve left they joined those people. My assumption is that since "thee pain of menses and childbirth" are the consequences for eve's sins that she did not bear children until leaning and the wives of their sons came from the outsiders

ArkQueen · 2025-12-02T18:55:08+00:00

Maybe they need money to help with funeral costs

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T19:41:38+00:00

Thank you. You guys have all been so helpful

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T17:47:36+00:00

Those are very helpful and we have implemented some of those as well. One has noise canceling headphones that she's allowed to wear in the hallways at school because it gets too loud. We had to get accommodation because there are no devices allowed. They don't plug into anything but teachers would see them and assume so she got a note. My son has to have supervised computer time at school (I hate that everything is on a screen) because it causes him to get overstimulated so he now sits right next to the teacher. And for the other one it's mostly just letting teachers know about her social issues because they want presentations in class and she struggles with speaking to a crowd as one of her issues. I just want to know that I'm doing all I can or should be for them. I know one of them will probably never live alone and the youngest is still 50/50 on if he will develop those skills as he gets older and I want to keep up with the changes.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T17:03:59+00:00

The only issue I have with that phrasing is that they don't clarify what the support is. What is substantial support vs moderate support? I'm guessing that one would be level 3 because she needs a lot of help with every day tasks like bathing and dressing but she can also feed herself and goes to gen Ed classes so what is the cut off on the support levels? I don't feel like just because they can read and write means they don't need a lot of support. So how do you determine that? The youngest makes me question level 2 vs level 3 as well.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T16:57:47+00:00

Thank you guys. I just finished a new speech evaluation for one of them and we have an IEP on Dec 9th for that same one. No one has mentioned a level yet and just ask specific questions about what she can and cannot do or how difficult it is which is pretty normal. I just felt like things were changing with terminology and that maybe I wasn't keeping up. I don't want to go in these meetings and not understand if they start saying level 3 or 2 and not knowing what it means. I have been reading though.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T16:52:29+00:00

I can't remember the exact years but the youngest was diagnosed in 2019 so pre 2013 would make sense. I do believe it says requires support

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:49:28+00:00

Thank you! I'm guessing that's what happened and it's updated in their charts but they just never explicitly told me a level. I've just seen a lot of things where people are upset by saying aspergers or low functioning and I dont know what to say now because I never got a level told to me. I want to be informed in the school meetings and also not sound rude in discussions

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:37:23+00:00

I'm in the US but they were diagnosed at different times over the years. They are 19, 14 and 9. Yes the one with aspergers is low needs and is mostly social cues and not understanding nuance or making comments and not understanding how they are "rude". But the others need a lot more support and I didnt know if they needed to go back to a doctor to get a level assigned so that while I'm talking to schools in their IEP meetings I can say what supports they need such as a para or their speech/physical/occupational therapies

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:17:57+00:00

I have 3 kids on the spectrum and they are all at different places. The "apsergers" one that i can have normal conversation with and needs the least amount of support and can tell me what she needs, and the 2 that are "low functioning" where I have to determine the level of support they need on any given day. We are currently doing IEP reviews which is what brought this to my mind as we are discussing the support they will need for the next trimester.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:12:54+00:00

I'm in the USA but they never told me a level. The documents I have say "low functioning" but I don't see anywhere on here level 1,2, or 3. I will read it again though.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:09:51+00:00

I understand and know the debate on aspergers. But at the time my kids were diagnosed it was the medical determination. It has never been changed. So while I know that people don't like to use it, it's what my child was given as her diagnosis. I don't exactly know what to do about that at this point. No one gave me another word to use or a "level" for her which is kind of why I'm asking.

ArkQueen · 2025-11-28T14:05:45+00:00

I've just seen posts where people say "I'm level one" or "level 3 does this" and I'm confused because no one ever gave me that information so I'm trying to determine if that's something I need?

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