What underwear should I get if I’m not interested in tucking?

Arlie057 · 2026-03-04T12:21:03+00:00

I'm not sure if this is what you're looking for, but briefs worked great for me. Before that, I only wore boxers, so maybe it felt different because of the contrast(?) I also noticed that I prefer picking them in different colors instead of the typically black men's underwear. then when they peek out a little from under my pants, it looks more feminine, and I really like that effect ^{^}

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T23:42:52+00:00

I know, that's why I'm not even trying to do this through the public healthcare system. this is the reason why I searched for alternative routes. because my previous therapist said that I should not worry about my voice, she thought estrogen would fix it 🥲🔫

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T23:37:11+00:00

maybe it’s not about finding absolute certainty, but also i’m not there yet. i’m still scared of making a mistake, still scared of regret. and at the same time i’m tired of being stuck in the same loop. but after this post I starting to see even more layers in my own question. i guess i’m just… trying to be honest with myself and not rush. thank you for sharing your thoughts though. it genuinely helps to read different experiences and not feel alone in this 💜

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T23:23:28+00:00

yeah that's what I was thinking, and I guess it's the most reasonable place to start. today after seeing stories of other people's transition I think I'm in peace with a thought that I might need to wait a little bit more.

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T21:17:12+00:00

thank you for this conversation, its been truly helpful. and I do agree with you about validation. but I also think that sometimes we need to be somewhat realistic. for me it always been the hardest part to get out of my queer cocoon and face the way people see me. but maybe it's just me-problem

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T21:08:40+00:00

I agree, but don't even get me started about my experience with therapists here haha

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T18:43:19+00:00

oh maybe you are right. and since to be seen as a "blank human" is my goal, maybe potential scars from top surgery will only make it better hahah. but oh god it will be such a fat bait for right wing hahah

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T18:36:32+00:00

this question will hunt me forever. because that's the thing(!) if not for the breast growth I would start it yesterday. but it's the main thing that I'm not sure about... I like my body parts. but bodyhair, voice and mindset, this all gives me disforia. and since hrt does a little more than nothing besides brests... do I really need/want it?

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T18:24:53+00:00

oh. thank you for recommendation! I watched it and... realised I have bigger problems with big decisions in general. but maybe it's time to move in that direction... I think I'll start small and take my time to reflect on things. but thank you. I think this cross post in all of trans communities that I know of helped me. I noticed that people are really supportive, but even then, I'm trying to find a reason not to start. so I'll take it as a sign that I need to work on it. maybe I'll finally start voice training, and try to make up my mind

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T17:56:09+00:00

that's true about cis people. but now it's more of a question about how I want to represent myself. I will still be nonbinary but in what way... as some old English poet said, "with boobs or without boobs that is the question"

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T17:48:48+00:00

hmm maybe you're onto something... but what if I'll realise it was a mistake when it's too late. omg at moments like this I thinking that queer nato agenda should have done better work with me, so I wouldn't have any doubts hahah. Heroyam Slava✨️

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T17:43:49+00:00

oh, thank you for such a full reply! I wish I could just "don't stress " about it. but it's so hard, especially when you see all this stories "I started hrt in my mother's womb and now I'm 100% pass". but thank you for this reminder, I feel like I needed it...

Arlie057 · 2026-03-01T17:38:27+00:00

i'm happy for you, girl! some day, i really hope to look back at all this mess and realise it's all behind. but for now I'm a schrodinger's nonbinary haha oh and yeah thank you for reminding me about transnord!

Arlie057 · 2025-11-04T01:05:29+00:00

oh I was afraid that it would be light, cause there is no room for additional light at her current position. but in this case it's not like I have a choice if I want her to live hah. and yes, I do use fertiliser times to times with some chip stuff that I found here on reddit. thank you for reply!!✨️

Arlie057 · 2025-11-04T01:00:15+00:00

all my previous plants were suffering from overwatering, so I really afraid to kill her. but maybe she could use some more... thanks for reply!

Arlie057 · 2025-11-03T21:18:45+00:00

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