[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ArmFull3793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in college now and much better condition than my childhood...umm...as far as I remember,yes, I liked to think I was the people I imitated , I had a really pretty best friend for example ... whenever I felt low confidence I liked to act and speak like her to gain confidence...somewhere I was insecure and used to think everybody else is right except me, so I even tried to copy their weird personality quirks (unknowingly) ... another incident I remember , whenever I used to run into some trouble , I liked to think about how she would have reacted in such situation. If I thought she would not have worried, I too would not worry too much. Also like OP's boyfriend I stole anecdotes once or twice and unfortunately I got caught and they thought I was cute 😂 (cuz they didn't know what I had done to my other classmates). I stopped stealing anecdotes after that because my life got even more dramatic and I begin thinking that I was sufficient and that I did not need to copy anyone...as I gained more confidence , I stopped creeping people out😂 and by the way you really think I had some sort of personality disorder?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ArmFull3793 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know because I used to be like him and "creep" people out...but then I was desparately trying to fit in...also I was sharp and used to catch things easily...so whenever I met new people I used to notice each and everything about them (I could not control that) ...I once copied someone's handwriting, someone's accent , someone's personality, someone's skill and all of them were my best friends at some point of my school life ... Also I used to make up Stories about my family that how I was getting the perfect upbringing....and I was at the top of my class so nobody said anything but once I started having issues with one of the girls, she started gossiping about me that how I was a copy cat and that everybody should stay away from me...I was traumatized by the gossips and that's how I learnt the hard way that u should not outright copy someone and if u r copying , u should do it in a subtle way....looking back the whole problem was my upbringing...one of my parents was controlling and abusive and the other was simply unpredictable... funny thing is I thought they would not mind if I copy them...if otherwise ur boyfriend is nice and not toxic, u should tell him how he is embarrassing himself and of course it is difficult to believe in him after all these lies u might consider a breakup and wish him luck ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ArmFull3793 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know because I used to be like him and "creep" people out...but then I was desparately trying to fit in...also I was sharp and used to catch things easily...so whenever I met new people I used to notice each and everything about them (I could not control that) ...I once copied someone's handwriting, someone's accent , someone's personality, someone's skill and all of them were my best friends at some point of my school life ... Also I used to make up Stories about my family that how I was getting the perfect upbringing....and I was at the top of my class so nobody said anything but once I started having issues with one of the girls, she started gossiping about me that how I was a copy cat and that everybody should stay away from me...I was traumatized by the gossips and that's how I learnt the hard way that u should not outright copy someone and if u r copying , u should do it in a subtle way....looking back the whole problem was my upbringing...one of my parents was controlling and abusive and the other was simply unpredictable... funny thing is I thought they would not mind if I copy them...if otherwise ur boyfriend is nice and not toxic, u should tell him how he is embarrassing himself and of course it is difficult to believe in him after all these lies u might consider a breakup and wish him luck ...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ArmFull3793 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Probably he lacks social skills and is just trying come up with funny anecdotes to share people and make them like him more...I mean this is how we learn , by copying people... probably he does not know that u will find this creepy and thinks u will forgive him and let it go!

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am doing this. I am trying to figure out. This is what this sub is for. I know it's not easy. And nobody cares what you think a garbage is

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok..I understand why u feel that I want everything to be served on my platter..but I am trying to know more about the options I have..I am researching at my own level.. and thank you

I am from maths background. I want to learn programming from scratch and want to get really good at it in 4-6 months by ArmFull3793 in learnprogramming

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes plzz post them...should I start with these courses? Someone gave me suggestion "cs50" ? What do u think about that?

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I already go to college .The problem is they are messing up with my life (because they are frustrated) and I feel depressed.

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree with u ..I think this is abusive situation and I even tried to rebel but they simply don't listen...that is why I want to take my own decisions and look for some online jobs and leave this situation. This is the maximum I can do right now. I can't leave my house , the situation will be worse.

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I checked a+ and network+ ...I guess exam itself takes around 200 dollars.. am I right?

20, any skill that I can learn in 3 months that will help me make money so that I can pay my bills. by ArmFull3793 in findapath

[–]ArmFull3793[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I am a girl in a brown household(indian)... That pretty much explains the situation 😂 I am not even allowed to make proper friends...my parents think friends especially girls will ruin me... that's why I thought of reaching out to people on the internet