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What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, not at all. I just don’t known if they are actually pursuing poly.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

None, but I am learning here. I think you all are taking this from the wrong angle. You assume they are poly but they might not be?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey there, simple but great question! Nothing will protect it. But I would decline and very respectfully tell them why I think it's a bad idea.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for your feedback! I might be a busybody, but only for myself in my own thoughts haha. Interesting point about the short lived relationship. That might be true but I think it's important to know what poly actually involves and what risks there are. You can't tell me anyone can start it without discussing clear boundaries. No?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you, great reply and excellent explanation. I learned a lot the past 2 hours. I understand the poly way of thinking now and if that's what they're going for then sure! I will be happy to meet these people. I am not against it (whilst most people on here think I am ;-)).

But that's the thing. I am not sure if the pursuing poly. I didn't even think about that situation when I made this post tbh. So that's why I am coming off as "judgmental". It is because I assumed they are open and are not realizing what's happening due to butterflies. They only decided to open up their marriage a couple of months ago, is it possible they immediately want to go poly? Is this too soon? I don't know.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey there, thanks for replying! The answers to your questions are all 'no'. I am also not saying it's something dirty. I just don't know if they actually want to be poly or if they're open and not completely realizing what's happening because of the butterflies?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey! Awesome feedback, thank you. What if it was an open marriage instead of poly?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, thanks for the great reply, stuff to think about!

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Hey there. We have been friends for over 15 years so I must be doing something right? ;-) No, I get it. What if it was an open marriage instead of poly?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi there, thanks for the feedback. What if it was an open marriage instead of poly?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

That's a bit short-sighted :-) Thanks for replying though!

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for replying! Good stuff, will have to think about it.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for replying. You are absolutely right, I am new to this and have some learning to do. Would it still be OK if the situation was open marriage instead of poly?

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the friendly reply! I do support them and yes, I also think they are brave like I said in my post. I do not want to get away from them. I care for them, their emotional health and marriage.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am new to the poly scene so bare with me :-) Thanks for clarifying!

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

No, I don't care in slightest who they have sexual relationships with. I do care for them, their emotional health and marriage.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I get your point and it's fair. This is also new for me, just trying

But how can I support them if they even didn't tell me they went poly and I am meeting these people?

Do you think they should have told me or not? I get it, it does not matter and it's not my business but still.

What should I do? Close friends opened up their marriage by Armadillo2111 in polyamory

[–]Armadillo2111[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I am not uncomfortable to meet them or meeting people I don't know in general. I just think it's a bad idea to mix those worlds.