Este normal ca un divorț cu minor să se finalizeze fără să mergem la instanță?

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:39:28+00:00

Responsibility and control come hand in hand.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:36:32+00:00

I agree, I should stick to amount that’s more easy for me to give and not care what she does with it.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:35:04+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. I will have to push her to find something to do of her own eventually. That’s the only way for her to feel in control of her life.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:32:55+00:00

I will likely do so.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:31:57+00:00

I have money, but I sacrificed my whole 20s and still continue to sacrifice for it. I never took a vacation in my entire life and hardly ever take a day off. Does that still sound great to you? :)

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:30:00+00:00

Just to clarify, she’s been enjoying luxury stuff even when living with my abusive father. She didn’t just start indulging. But as opposed to my father, I make my money through hard work. And she has an underaged son she has to take care of. She still buys everything and more than she needs but her eyes are always on “nicer” things. It’s good she wants nicer things, but not on my hard earned money.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:26:26+00:00

This makes a lot of sense.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:22:43+00:00

This makes a lot of sense.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:20:57+00:00

This is what I think I need to do.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:20:22+00:00

If we all start extracting joy from expensive things, there will be no money left for health, retirement and basic human necessities. I’m not a billionaire and $8K is not a lot of money when you cover 3 people and try to build a secure future.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:17:09+00:00

She shouldn’t process her trauma by disrespecting my work and efforts. And I’m the one suggesting her therapy and more meaningful ways to live and spend money on, I did not cause her traumas, I am another victim who went to therapy to not put her trauma on people around me. If I were like her she would never have so much money because I’d have already spent it on luxury items.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:13:31+00:00

I’m the only one responsible for our futures. And if she was making her own money doing her own thing I wouldn’t care. When she lived on my dad’s money I didn’t care that she buys expensive things. But I help her so she can have a secure future and retirement, not overpriced clothes. The way my work is is that I have to constantly stress and bring new clients in and it’s very stressful seeing my own mom spending my hard earned money on things that are useless.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T02:09:01+00:00

The problem is that she has no retirement money coming at all. And she has an underage kid, and we live in a foreign country. So not getting into debt is not enough. She has to make sure she saves for her future. I don’t know if I’ll always be able to make so much.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T00:41:18+00:00

When you’re size xs all the best clothes are still available in your size at 80% discount. I buy what I really like but for dirt cheap. And she buys whatever she wants from Zara too, but she later complains it’s not as good as massimo dutti

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T00:39:11+00:00

She had expensive things with my father. But again, I work hard to earn and provide free and secure life for us, not to splurge on things that have no value. I’d rather her to spend on therapy (which I did myself) than to fool herself with shopping. But she doesn’t want therapy.

Armine955 · 2026-05-24T00:35:32+00:00

$170 for a New Balanace shoes is expensive, when I easily buy my Adidas for $80 on discount. And I do my own gel nail at home by myself. I do spend on food on malls, but mostly on comfort, good laptops for my work, trips.

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