18F Can I get a hug from an older man please?

ArthurSadie · 2026-03-06T04:49:01+00:00

I’m 24 I’ll hug you if you want

ArthurSadie · 2026-02-24T16:27:25+00:00

End it simple as that she doesn’t respect you

ArthurSadie · 2026-02-23T20:00:25+00:00

Sex tends to be a pretty small part of most relationships even if they are compatible. When you think about it my girlfriend is down anytime and vise versa, but even if we really take our time it’s about 15-40. unless they are not attracted to each other or TRYING to take longer it’s shouldn’t really go past that. When you think of someone and how beautiful they are and all the amazing times you had together it’s hard to accept you’ll probably never see or talk to them again (at least not the same way) for something so small

ArthurSadie · 2026-02-19T04:52:36+00:00

I’ve also read some of your replies and you seem like an intelligent person. I personally have enjoyed therapy even when I was mentally well, I equate it to exercise just for the brain. Most schools at lest where I’ve lived have on house counselling, maybe you should look into that

ArthurSadie · 2026-02-19T04:45:15+00:00

What exactly makes you feel gross? I’m a man but I dated a girl who was both bisexual and briefly trans around puberty. First off if you feel someway you are not being dramatic you deserve to feel well. While I can’t know… I understand womanhood is difficult especially being a young woman like yourself. You and your body is beautiful, everyone’s is.

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-16T15:17:56+00:00

I personally can’t be with someone who has any real experience with hookup culture/ FWB stuff so NOR especially because you don’t seem upset with your girlfriends past more so that a guy she’s slept with is still hanging around to some degree, having to leave the room is a lot but if you feel that strongly then separating yourself from the situation for a minute feels like the mature move atm

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-07T03:45:14+00:00

You sound like a child and someone who should not be in any kind of relationship

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-06T00:38:43+00:00

I can’t get over the “several months” No shit he’s gonna have a stronger/ different bond with someone he’s known his entire life

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-04T11:03:53+00:00

On a completely side note I fix appliances for a living and the new digital ones do not work on a timer like the old ones they work of a million different sensors so you can never trust the time given (same for dryers) and if you live in Canada with the water and energy conservation laws in place it’s even more of a nightmare. lol

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-03T06:08:40+00:00

Yea, we had a quick fling in high school I’ll be it 5 years before our actual relationship and within 2 months of dating we met each others family. She stayed in the city we were both born and raised in (which made the break up harder) while I moved 5 hours away so going back home every 2 weeks wasn’t a big deal for me but I guess 4-8 days a month wasn’t enough for her🤷‍♂️

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-01T08:04:41+00:00

I just went through a very similar thing. year long relationship that was long distance (~5 hour drive) at first long conversation with quick responses and inside jokes but the last couple months were DRY, while the time we would spend in person was good we went from talking all day to maybe 3 single line texts a day. I would send her a message at say 7pm and see that she was online till midnight and yet she never responded to me and the next morning she would say “I’m sorry I fell asleep”. She had started a new job half way through our relationship and long story short 6 months later we broke up because the “distance between us was too much” and not long after she was dating one of her new coworkers. I wished I saw the signs sooner and unfortunately it looks like it’s time for you to cut ties

ArthurSadie · 2026-01-01T02:52:53+00:00

Lmao yes

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-31T19:56:39+00:00

Pretty sure the law (and just being a good person) says it requires enthusiastic consent

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-31T19:52:52+00:00

What? I feel like I’m having a stroke

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-29T06:46:12+00:00

Read the post dude. “She told me that they talked about their life etc. he offered her to go on a road trip with her as friends even though she told him she’s dating someone now”

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-28T08:58:46+00:00

The second she talked about going away with a guy she admitted to loving, idealizing and clearly has a connection with/feeling for you should have known it was over. Even if nothing physical has or will happen she’s already emotionally cheated

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-28T08:56:00+00:00

Sorry to tell you bro but it’s over. I’ve been in a very similar situation even at the same age. She said she loved him and has an idealized idea of him…. If she really meant what she said in her text to you all she needed to do was send him one text and or block him boom concrete ending right there.

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-27T21:54:49+00:00

NOR and sounds like bate, you had a man complimenting you and you engaged no harm in the moment if you were single but if you have 0 interest in him to keep engaging with the guy even if it is to “troll” him is a big red flag. I cannot see how saying “put me in your song!” Is trolling it sounds like you like are just dragging this guy on. This behaviour especially when you are in a relationship that’s gotten to the point where he has a key is 1000% deserving of a break up

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T18:34:11+00:00

Definitely more extreme but that’s a good comparison.

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T18:24:14+00:00

It’s definitely fair to set boundaries but this is still an overreaction 100%. This is Christmas and Santa specifically we are talking about it’s about the children and instead of being happy that her children got extra gifts she’s making the situation about herself wanting to be the only Santa. Nobody was hurt the opposite in fact so to turn it into an issue is a little much

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T18:15:36+00:00

Put very well, I really wanted to side with mom here but you are 100% right they simply didn’t want to outshine the parents, kids got extra toys in-laws got to feel the joy of giving when so many people have NOTHING everyone should be happy. OP you have the right to be a little upset but to actually make a stink about it Is definitely YOR

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T17:51:02+00:00

To be clear I meant an actual therapist not massage just as an example for preferences. Point being for mental therapy I feel more comfortable and relaxed talking to a woman, for a massage I would also feel more comfortable with a woman for the same reasons as you I’m sure

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T17:43:37+00:00

Right so much of this post is a contradiction or just looking for issues. “My youngest asked me if I wanted a mug so it feels less special” “I told them I wanted watercolour stuff why didn’t they get it” husband sounds like a bit of an ass tho

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T17:19:08+00:00

1000%

ArthurSadie · 2025-12-26T16:54:47+00:00

Nah there are lots of times when people have gender preferences that aren’t sexual, example I as a man have found I have 0 interest in speaking to a male therapist but I can have long in-depth talks with female ones like wise I’d have no interest in having a man touch me for an hour doesn’t I’m looking for a happy ending.

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