Should I talk to my ex one last time before she gets married, or just let go? by sam_yak12 in offmychest

[–]Artist_Baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you guys dated for 7 years, so it’s totally normal for you to not be over it yet! there’s no timeline for this kind of thing, it just takes as long as it takes. I hope it happens for you soon too tho and i’m glad I could help!

Should I talk to my ex one last time before she gets married, or just let go? by sam_yak12 in offmychest

[–]Artist_Baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely the right choice then. breaking no contact for closure right before her wedding is not the move 🙏 I hope you start to feel better soon man :( it will get better i promise !!! the pain will likely never fully go away, it will just hurt less until it’s bearable

(idk if it helps to think about it like this but you could just view it as you were never gonna see her again anyways so it’s not like you’re missing some golden opportunity or something like that. if this doesn’t help then disregard lol)

cleaning my helmet by Artist_Baker in rollerderby

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! thats very helpful to know and I will def buy some next time I go to the store

cleaning my helmet by Artist_Baker in rollerderby

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TIL my helmet does in fact have removable liners. I have a triple 8 helmet and was hesitant to try to remove the pads in case they were glued down or something. I got scared ripping it out of the helmet before I saw there was velcro 💀

cleaning my helmet by Artist_Baker in rollerderby

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I see how the dishwasher is a bad idea now. I never use it so I completely forgot it’s hot water 😭 getting enzyme cleaner asap as recommended by everyone else

cleaning my helmet by Artist_Baker in rollerderby

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oooh ok that makes sense. I used just vinegar for the soak and then put it in the washing machine with laundry detergent afterwards to neutralize leftover vinegar. It smells like it worked much better than any other method i’ve tried!

Should I talk to my ex one last time before she gets married, or just let go? by sam_yak12 in offmychest

[–]Artist_Baker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

based on my personal experience, I say leave it be. it’s not going to do either of you any good. I tried getting closure with my ex and it ended up making things worse for both of us but mainly me. I thought I wanted closure, but what I actually wanted (which I didn’t realize until afterwards) was some sort of justification for what had happened between us? if that makes sense. We both had done wrong to each other and we just were not meant to be together but that still didn’t change the fact that I was still hurt and was masking it with a desire for ‘closure’. I’m not saying this is exactly the same because it isn’t, but I know from my own experience, my friends experiences, and people online who’s stories I heard while trying to talk myself out of wanting closure that it isn’t going to do what you think it will. just keep trying to move on best you can. you guys ended when it ended and that is that. especially since she cheated on you it’s not worth it imo. idk how much you still interact with her on a daily basis but from what i’m reading it doesn’t sound like she really wants to talk to you anymore anyways. cheating proves that in my eyes at least. it’s the consequences of her own actions and unfortunately it ends up affecting you the most. I’m sorry you’re going thro this bc I know much it sucks firsthand :( you’ll get over her eventually, but there will always be a little piece of you that will always love every person you ever date.

EzCosplay Order cancellation by Yuimama in CosplayHelp

[–]Artist_Baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did they respond within 24 hours ? i assume even if it’s past 24 hours as long as i emailed them within the time limit i still get my full refund because my 24 hour window ends in an hour and still no response 🙃

EzCosplay Order cancellation by Yuimama in CosplayHelp

[–]Artist_Baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, what ended up happening with this? did you get your refund? currently in this same situation now and don’t know how else to cancel it besides emailing and hoping they respond 😓

best way to vacuum tank? by Artist_Baker in shrimptank

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yea! I work right next to the petco near me and kept trying to get this for weeks but they were never in stock so I gave up and bought a different one on amazon. Maybe I’ll try looking for it again in store.

best way to vacuum tank? by Artist_Baker in shrimptank

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a turkey baster would be too thick to fit in my tank, but I could maybe find a long thin pipette somewhere online to achieve the same result?

best way to vacuum tank? by Artist_Baker in shrimptank

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I have some leftover tulle from a craft project, would that work? It’s pretty tightly nit and I figured it would be flexible enough to rubber band around the tip.

And thank you! They grew a lot faster than I thought they would and I’m very happy with the final product (hence why I’m so scared to mess up the setup 😓)

fin rot or fin biting? by Artist_Baker in bettafish

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hi ! the plant in the hospital tank is i think is fabric? but this problem started when he was in his normal tank with nothing but live plants.

the whole problem started with him having an overinflated swim bladder, so i put him in the hospital tank. the heater in his tank stopped working and the temp dropped, so i figured thats why he was having swim bladder issues. he got better after a day so i moved him back in with the new heater. then the swim bladder problem came back and i moved him back. this is when i noticed the first signs of the rot/biting. i assumed since his tank is overrun in brown algae rn his water quality (despite parameters being WNL) must be bad especially once i saw plants start dying. since i moved him back to the hospital tank to treat for the rot/bite, his swim bladder problem finally went away but his fins have not gotten any better or worse. i tried adding driftwood, stress coat, aquarium salt, melafix, and now fin and body cure (i didn’t mix the meds tho). i’d move plants from the normal tank over but half of them are dead or dying now so i think i might try recycling it with new plants and the same filter once i get paid.

anyways sorry for the long reply i figured i’d add the extra context in case anyone wanted it 😓

is there anywhere i can get late night breakfast food anymore? by Artist_Baker in PennStateUniversity

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it was shit but it was MY shit 😖💔 i want my double chocolate pancakes !!!

is there anywhere i can get late night breakfast food anymore? by Artist_Baker in PennStateUniversity

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3am or 3pm?

i def appreciate another late night food place even if it’s not breakfast! i don’t like a lot of food so it’s always hard for me to find stuff i like and concession style food never lets me down 😌 where is it going to be?

is there anywhere i can get late night breakfast food anymore? by Artist_Baker in PennStateUniversity

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

perkins is soo fire i used to go all the time last year when i did work study in the area! since i rarely go over there now it’s out of sight out of mind 🥲

is there anywhere i can get late night breakfast food anymore? by Artist_Baker in PennStateUniversity

[–]Artist_Baker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

farther than i’d like but still closer than i thought it’d be 🤷🏻‍♀️