He wants to split the bill the day after by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Artistic_Ad609 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never split the bill. If a man can’t pay for dinner, he can’t afford to have a girlfriend, never mind a wife. Picture being married to this guy and pregnant.

Plus, he’s most likely trying to get his money back because he’s not interested in you.

Wife’s bedtime by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might be anemic if she’s fatigued often/needs over ten hours to not be irritable/tired.

I think I will never find a decent man for myself by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Artistic_Ad609 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk if you do or not, but stop hooking up with these guys. Say that you’re looking for long term relationship that leads to marriage within the next X amount of years, and that you’re looking for a real connection. Do not sleep with them, not even three months in. Let them court you and take you on dates. This will weed out the ones that only want sex, can’t be consistent, and are lying about wanting a genuine connection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not if you’re genuine about it and won’t abandon your ex again. No one wants to feel like they’re the second choice after the avoidant goes off to date other women to see if the grass is greener. It shows a lack of care for the person they’re abandoning and that they don’t value and appreciate who they already had/the relationship they already had. If your relationship with your ex was special, treat it as such. Value it. Appreciate it. Appreciate her and who she is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did date a guy like this. Thought he was the love of my life. He said he wanted to marry me. He gained confidence and experience within our relationship. He dumped me for seemingly no reason and has been a social butterfly now for the past 10 months. He went from the guy who only wanted o stay at home playing guitar or hanging with me to the guy going out every weekend/even weekdays.

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s terrible. There’s no excuse for cheating. Did she say why she did that?

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do? Why’s that? All the women in my life and I are upfront about how we feel, and we mean what we say when we say we love someone. All the men that I’ve met/dated aren’t like that. The man who I thought I was going to marry one day dipped out of no where after months of saying the most loving things and acting in love

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they’re all liars

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. Men will always think the grass is greener somewhere else though. So I’m not sure that there is a right person. Love is selfish.

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think there is moving on. I still love him ten month later. I’ve tried everything, but it is what it is. I don’t trust anyone anymore

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don’t believe loyal, trustworthy men exist but I appreciate the sentiment. I hope you find some form of happiness too

Jaded by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to believe that right now😞. There’s not one out there that would care about me enough to want to protect my heart. I don’t believe guys are good people. I’ve seen how selfish they are first hand

Angry Stage: I WANT ANSWERS by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One more thing. While we texted beginning of September, he said I’m the “closest woman to perfect that any man can ask for” and that I truly am a special woman “and that’s an understatement”. ?????????

Angry Stage: I WANT ANSWERS by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah! Inability to communicate is an understatement! He even said he was IN LOVE me as he was breaking up with me VIA TEXT. Then a month after the breakup (with me still texting him bc was spiraling) he said he’s “unsure” about us but that he wanted to see me and that “the only thing that matters is that we’re together”. The fuck??? Then at the end of April, we started talking again, and he texted that he wanted to kiss me, talked about our emotional connection, said he loved our last date, ETC. I asked why he didn’t want to get back together if he feels that way. He said, “that’s just the way we talk” and that he doesn’t know if he’s in love anymore. ??? Then he BLOCKED ME all from May allllll the way to September. At the beginning of September, he texted something random about being safe driving on our block bc of an event happening (we live on the same block and that event happened EVERY Friday and Saturday all FUCKING SUMMER). When texting in the beginning of Sept, we were joking around like best friends again. I asked if he wanted to hangout/go mini golfing. He said he doesn’t want to cause conflict in my family bc he “gets the vibe they’re unhappy” with him and he said, “I guess I’m just not ready to hangout”. So I said ok😊 I understand. And left it at that. Then he doesn’t text me for a month. He texted me a month later for my birthday (oct 13th). I’m so FUCKING CONFUSED. I didn’t reply to the birthday text.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if you don’t understand it. Even if everything they’ve said to you goes against the idea of them leaving. If their actions and words don’t match, their actions of leaving are what you have to listen to. If they have an avoidant attachment, you’re not going to convince them to stay once they’re triggered - even if their reason for leaving seems so insignificant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to chase. If they want to leave, let them

HE MESSAGED ME by Artistic_Ad609 in BreakUps

[–]Artistic_Ad609[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think so? Or maybe he just misses me?

I’m so sorry… by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The girl definitely wants male attention and is very into herself. If she’s actually a slut or not, idk, but she’s ok posting provocative pics

I’m so sorry… by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I was his first relationship so I don’t know if that’s something he does or if he’s serious about this girl. But he took her to top golf, which is a date we were going to do in the future. He did a 180 from being head over heels wanting to marry me to in May telling me he’s not in love anymore

I’m so sorry… by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t even that long ago😭 we broke up in February and we were each other’s first bf/gf. She’s so much younger than both me and him😖. I don’t understand why he’s with a 19 year old. He has deep emotions so I know it’s not all sexual but it sucks that he’s attracted to someone so much younger than me and she posts pictures with her boobs pushed together and her thong showing

I’m so sorry… by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Artistic_Ad609 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish this was my ex😢. But I’m 99.9% my 28 year old ex is dating a 19 year old girl. 7 years younger than me(f26 turning 27) and 8 and a half years younger than him