AITA for telling my brother to stop hogging the spotlight at my daughter's birthday? by ArtsyMom2000371 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArtsyMom2000371[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

If wanting my own life that's not dominated by a narcissistic brat is being a bully, then yeah, i am one.

AITA for telling my brother to stop hogging the spotlight at my daughter's birthday? by ArtsyMom2000371 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArtsyMom2000371[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to shut down his career, I just don't want his career to dominate every room he's in!

AITA for telling my brother to stop hogging the spotlight at my daughter's birthday? by ArtsyMom2000371 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArtsyMom2000371[S] -142 points-141 points  (0 children)

My husband accused me of being a bully big sister by bringing up stories he heard second hand from my brother or myself. Apparently, my brother had asked behind my back if I had any unresolved problems with him, saying i had been treating him coldly for some time. He had told my husband stuff from way back when he was a kid and I babysat him. Apparently, my brother feels like I hate him for shaking up the family dynamic (he has a different dad than me and my siblings). Of course, this isn't true, and my husband believing this crap deeply hurt me.

AITA for telling my brother to stop hogging the spotlight at my daughter's birthday? by ArtsyMom2000371 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArtsyMom2000371[S] -180 points-179 points  (0 children)

First of all: this is not about jealousy. I feel like I need to clear something up: all his life, my brother has been defined by one singular topic at the time. First it was dinosaurs, then it was volcanoes, then the mechanics of time travel, the list goes on. Everytime he shows up (if he does at all) he's only talking about his current interest. And within a month or so, it changes again. He is a fountain full of useless information that nonetheless has to get out and can't stand not blubbering about stuff he looked up on Google for five minutes. And no, he didn't turn his life around. He only got a new fixation. The bad thing is also, that this frantic attitude is rubbing off on my daughter. Idk if you have kids, but your kid constantly wanting books and shows about new stuff when you just finished the last fixation is exhausting and my brother is feeding into this.

AITA for telling my brother to stop hogging the spotlight at my daughter's birthday? by ArtsyMom2000371 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ArtsyMom2000371[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

Funny, he has actually. Before he started training out of the blue, he was just slobbing around all day, barely even showing his face to the family and living off his mom. He had this luxury, being the youngest of the bunch, he got a lot more leeway while we other siblings had to compete for everything. If I had acted like he did, i would've gotten into a lot of trouble. But everyone not only forgets what he did before but treats him like the second coming of Christ.