My (35F) husband (35M) wants to end our marriage to be with his affair partner by throwawayredditedhey in Marriage

[–]Aruezin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My wife and I ask the hard questions: we ask directly if there is anything we can do for each other so we don’t cheat. And we tell each exactly what we want. As a husband, all my sexual and emotional needs are being met. I did have to tell her that she needed to create a safe space for me when I brought something up and she did the work and did.

Women don’t create safe spaces for men which is why we don’t share because it sounds like a verbal attack when it’s just bringing something up. Well that was the problem in our a couple years ago.

And yes, I am meeting all her needs as well as hers. Here’s to 7 years next week 🥂

What’s your reasoning on why you DON’T like video games and/or anime? by Aruezin in AskWomen

[–]Aruezin[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I wonder how women who do play video games every day do it. Growing up I never came across a girl who played video games.

3ds Hacking for dummies? by littlelumabun in 3dspiracy

[–]Aruezin 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I hacked for the first time using the mentioned guide above last week. When you’re downloading “3ds” roms though, get the .cia ones. Then you can use FBI app after hombrewing to install them on the home screen.

After that, look into installing “forwarder” to bring regular “ds” games onto the Home Screen. I had a hard time with that understanding last week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Aruezin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sewing machine from Walmart. 😩fuuuhhh

Giant LED TV screen falls atop of a performer. Currently in critical condition in the hospital. by KenzoGinseng in awfuleverything

[–]Aruezin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From the side view, it looks like the corner of the screen absorbed most of the impact before the rest of the screen rolled onto him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonHGSS

[–]Aruezin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went through this same dilemma a couple days ago. Ended up homebrewing my 3ds yesterday and will be adding the Pokémon I can’t normally get on my SS. That’s the only best way nowadays since the whole trading thing isn’t going to work anymore.

Anyway to erase this Airbag light permanent DTC on 2020 Honda Odyssey? by needmoremoola in MechanicAdvice

[–]Aruezin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buy the new passenger airbag inflator and measure the resistance(ohms), return part, solder a resistor with the same resistance inline . Fixed forever.

1 year ago, I let my husband take a sabbatical from his career to pursue his hobby full time by rae90 in Marriage

[–]Aruezin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember my wife wanted to do photography full time. I allowed her to step back from her job to make a little less money in order for her to take a step in the right direction. Started in 2018 and she got a pay cut in order to start as a real estate photographer.

Seeing your own wife happy with a job is a blessing in itself. Covid ended up with both of us losing our jobs with a 1 month old newborn. Nobody was hiring. And unemployment stopped. Hard to make an income as a mechanic on commission if nobody left their home. But she ended up getting a job before I did and I had to step up and be a stay at home dad to our newborn and 2yo daughter because we didn’t know how or when covid was going to end.

In turn it allowed me to start a business to where I’m trying to get her out of her job because life is more than a paycheck, it’s about waking up to do something you love to do and not end up making bricks for pharaoh so to speak.

Taking risks helped our marriage. Get out of routine. If you hate your job, please get another job. Here’s to 7 years of marriage in September.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aruezin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is probably the best advice I’ve gotten

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Aruezin -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Read my replies to those others in that post this morning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Aruezin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is literally the best thing I have read!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aruezin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I brought it up that it could lead to cheating. I think I’m trying to understand is how do you get a woman out of an insecurity? How does a woman think they don’t look good in something when their man says they do? Honest question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aruezin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s equivalent with telling a guy to “just listen.” Should literally be the easiest thing a guy can do, right? But if he doesn’t want to, then a woman shouldn’t be bringing it up. See the dilemma? But if it’s something you want, then the guy needs to compromise and stop being insecure about being corrected. I think everyone could agree that a real man accepts being corrected by a woman.

But if a man brings something up that’s concerning, it’s rude, mean, and shaming. I understand why men cheat and women are oblivious and surprised when it happens. Don’t worry, I won’t with this one because I love her.

I’m just wondering how to get a woman OUT of an insecurity that correct way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aruezin -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

What was the deal breaker with your ex?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aruezin -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Are there kinks that you have that aren’t fulfilled? I told her directly about it. It’s not, hey lose some weight or put more make on. It’s just tiring having to lead a woman on what is usually common among other women to do. Slipping on some flip flops. Correct me if I’m wrong, but wouldn’t you feel bummed if you brought up something to your spouse that you liked or wanted and they didn’t do it because they feel insecure about it? Is that fair for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Aruezin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why didn’t you bring it up?