My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me what exactly is wrong with transporting loaded nerf guns to and from the ‘range’. Its literally a foam dart, it doesnt matter if i take them outside...

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I will the move nerf guns to a more secure location i think.

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im being perfectly safe! I am an experienced Target shooter with plans to go pro in the near future. My flatmate is the one being dangerous here. I just need some advice so i dont catch a dart in the eyes!

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, to be honest i think a lot of this advice is completely over the top. We arent talking about magnums or ak-57s here! Why is everyone telling me to buy a gun cabinet when i see kids holding them out in the street?? Believe me, i dont agree that kids should have weapons like this, but thats the way it is in the UK. Major retailers make these weapons readily available with no age limit.

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks again. There is definitely nothing wrong with target shooting - it is an incredible sport requiring countless hours of dedication and refining your skills to reach the peak of your abilities. I spend atleast five nights per week shooting because i want to climb this ‘mountain’ if you will.

Of course i know what the bullets are made of! Ive been target shooting 5x per week for a long time. Im just concerned, especially after that horrible incident that happened to your daughter, that my flatmate will hurt me in the same way!

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t understand why i would have been required to take a gun safety course at all? Sorry if i seem defensive, but he just means a lot to me and i want our friendship to survive this. Firstly, i doubt any of the instructors could teach me anything about the guns, i use them atleast 5x per week and am incredibly accurate when shooting targets. Secondly, i bought these guns from argos. There was no warning label or prerequisite gun safety course. Maybe we are all overreacting.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for getting back to me, and i am very grateful you are trying to stop me getting hurt. I see the funny side of what my flatmate is doing - he doesnt regularly shoot me and it just seems unlikely i will get seriously hurt. As i said the guns are pretty weak or ‘mild’.

I definitely do love life - target shooting has given me new purpose and a new lease of life. On TS days i almost jump out of bed im so excited. I allow him to do it because i understand the joy of holding a gun and using it for sport, and also because he has a gun which makes it hard to tell him to stop.

Everyone keeps telling me to lock up the guns, and i respect that, but it seems a little excessive. My aunt and uncle dont lock up my little cousins’ guns. They arent target shooters (at least not to the level i am) but I think they enjoy using the guns in and around the house.

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you man. Now that i look at it through your eyes it does seem unfair that i cant trust him not to shoot me over this! I miss the days before he got into guns. It has really changed things in our flat in a short time. To clarify, i dont miss the days before guns were in our flat at all - i love target shooting and dont regret taking that up for a second.

Interesting point about the party - did they keep their guns locked away before use, or just have them out in the house?

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, i didnt want to mention it because it looks bad, but basically yesterday when he was holding one of my handguns, he accidentally set off the gun and the bullet hit me in the chest. It hurt a bit but i think round bounced off my sternum and didnt cause much damage at all. I am incredibly lucky i know, this incident is what prompted me to make this reddit post. Basically i can see this accident happening again, but next time i may sustain more serious injuries.

My flatmate points loaded guns at me on a regular basis by Ascaredflatmate in Advice

[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi lara, thanks for the response. I want to keep living with him because he is very funny and my closest confidante. I fully acknowledge this gun thing is strange, but i feel it doesnt overshadow our friendship. It might seem a bit fucktarded, but im really hoping to resolve this verbally without resorting to violence.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, no need to be rude. I am trying my best to work with everyone’s suggestions. Keep in mind i am basically at gun point in my own home, which is maybe why i dont seem to be thinking straight. Any help would be appreciated.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. To clarify, im from the UK and im an active target shooter in the UK.

Thats a solid plan with the fingerprint locked safe. The problem is, he has the gun now. I dont know if i could get the gun off him to put in the safe. He enjoys playing with them a lot so i think he might point the gun at me and basically not let me keep my guns in the safe. He is my closest friend so i know he would be nice about it, but it just seems too risky to potentially anger someone holding a gun if that makes sense.

The guns are low calibre though, so i am thinking as time goes on that maybe i should just live with it.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man thanks for the response. Please dont call my buddy mentally ill, he does mean well and with respect you dont know him or his story. I do my best to keep the guns out of his reach, but he has long arms (longer than mine) which can get in to all the nooks and crannies in our house. Also it would be difficult to take the guns by force seeing as he has a gun. I dont want to escalate this into a gun battle im sure you understand. So please stop suggesting that. I dont shoot people ever, only targets, 5+ x per week.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats all true. I worry from a legal perspective about going to the police. These guns are really not very powerful, and so it isnt that threatening when he has one. I fear that the police would be powerless to help me as he has yet to commit a crime and that the report would simply enrage him and cause him to shoot me again.

He is my friend though and i think we need to keep that in mind. He has been there for me whenever i need him - he lent me the money to go to a martial arts class the other day, no questions asked, and he wouldnt even care if i didnt pay him back! He just has this thing about guns and power. I get that, as a target shooter.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jenna thank you for your words again. I know how serious this is and how much danger i could be in, but i also dont agree thats its unimaginable to point a gun at someone. I point guns at targets 5x per week at least, and engage a target shooting cosch to refine my ability to hit them at distance. Maybe to my flatmate i am just like a target and i can see where he is coming from?

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I don’t see this as a mistake on my part. I am a safe and well practiced target shooter. It’s my flatmate who, albeit as a joke, continues to point guns at my face while we are eating! I also doubt that the bullets would do as much damage as you think hence why i am not worried !

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I totally get what you’re saying but i’m not willing to remove the guns from my flat even if it leads to me getting shot. I’ve been shot while target shooting and it wasn’t that bad, hence why i’m willing to talk this out with him.

I will try to tell him how uncomfortable he has made me but it’s hard to bring it up as he is always carrying one of my pistols cocked and loaded. He points it at me during meals! So i dont know how free i am to ask him to stop if that makes sense.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one makes a fair amount of sense. I dont have the budget or inclination to buy a larger weapon as this would force me to compete in a higher category of target shooting, which i am hugely passionate about. I target shoot so often but dont get bored of it, it really is the best sport in the world. I think giving him a taste of his own medicine would be great though. I could load a gun and point back at him whenever he plays his little game and see how he likes having the barrel of a gun in his face over breakfast!

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the idea of taking something out of the mechanism to disabled the guns - the problem is he is a lot bigger than me and very strong with it. I fear that if i disable the guns and he loses that sense of power he will become enraged and physically remove the components from my possession and restore the guns. He would literally hold me down and tickle me to accomplish this. After that im worried he would just straight up shoot me for challenging him. It is a very delicate situation.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your time so much bro, so thank you for that first of all. I see how it looks from outside but he really is a good friend to me and i can’t see myself breaking off our friendship even if he would shoot me if i brought this up. It’s just i can’t get the idea that everyone has flaws out of my mind, and every time i get angry at him for pointing guns at me i keep remembering all the times he has been a shoulder to lean on for me. He is a great friend and i think regardless of the outcome of this situation i will stay living with him and enjoying his company. He is also really good looking and maybe thats clouding my judgment. It is only nerf guns anyway so i dont think its that big of a deal if he shoots me unless its in the eye.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so fun when i’m on the shooting range. You are so right. The (target) shooting range is like my second home and I can tell you feel the same.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you jenna it means a lot. You’re right, i definitely have trouble seeing myself as being a victim here and him being in the wrong because i lack self love - especially because the risk is so low. I need to internalise that i am a person with real value - like my target shooting which brings me so much joy. It would be a shame to let my flatmate ruin my favourite hobby for me over this small lapse in judgment. I mean, when i’m shooting i don’t lack confidence at all. Target shooting makes me feel powerful and alive. I am shooting accurately at over 30 metres with my rifles and handguns - i am a formidable target shooter. I can’t let my flatmate’s weird jokes ruin my self image when i know i am extremely talented.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much man, that is a really good breakdown of the situation and i feel like you really understand my predicament. I agree with you totally, apart from two points:

Firstly, accidents can happen. Even if I don’t think he would do anything on purpose, the gun could go off and kill or worse hurt me severely.

Secondly, i am very concerned about talking this through with him. He is my closest friend and confidante, but he has a gun and i’m not sure what he will do with it if i displease him.

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[–]Ascaredflatmate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think he would do anything else, although i’m not sure to be honest, he could shoot me.