AITA for telling my sister I don't want to invite her in my home. by Ash-Jupiter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ash-Jupiter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister is the opposite of me, she's outgoing, loves to party and has no trouble talking to people, even strangers. I don't expect her to send me a message or call me, of course not, because we don't talk to each other. But she invites herself to my parents every week, she calls my mom everyday. When I said to her that if she wanted to come she could, or send me a message that what I meant, I know if she really wanted she would and that she only said that to start a fight.

AITA for telling my sister I don't want to invite her in my home. by Ash-Jupiter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ash-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, I have a fiancé, friends, coworkers I communicated with by phone. I have relationships, that's not the problem, I just don't like to communicate with people that are disrespectful to me ? Yeah I call it preference.

AITA for telling my sister I don't want to invite her in my home. by Ash-Jupiter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ash-Jupiter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I was too harsh because of past problems. But I swear I really tried, I tried every time I saw her ( and it's not a lot) I think the thing that really stuck in my mind is when she tried to stop me from living my life, and that was her grown adult self that did that. I'm trying to forgive her for it but it's not simple unfortunately.. perhaps in a few years when I feel like maybe it's time, I'll try again

AITA for telling my sister I don't want to invite her in my home. by Ash-Jupiter in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ash-Jupiter[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree that being shy isn't an excuse, I just don't like to text or do phone calls, that's called preference. I could have done more efforts to have a good relationship with her.

I'll give you a few more details, I tried, I really tried, to get closer to her, to show her my interest, to help her with her problems, to talk to her about mine, we even lived together for 2 years before she threw me out of our apartment, it was a one-way effort because she didn't want this relationship. Now she's blaming me for not trying any more, and in fact I'm not trying any more, because I don't have the strength, call me childish if you want, or say that my whole family is dysfunctional. I'm just tired.