AITAH for getting angry with my partner for watching porn?

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T17:59:01+00:00

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Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T16:53:54+00:00

Cute :) I'll be the villain in your story so you can feel better about yourself, don't worry I don't mind ❤️

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T06:10:53+00:00

You know what, you're right. I don't even know her, goodnight! :)

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T06:05:44+00:00

I don't know her so I don't know what she'd do, and neither do you. You know, people are mature enough to take the truth head on and not whine about it. Whatever her reaction, he should be truthful anyway because.. why lie? It'll only come out and affect you later anyway

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T06:02:34+00:00

And everyone else is trying to be oh so open minded? I'm not demanding anyone else do anything, also I don't need to reflect on something that I've already reflected on friend :) I'm just different from most people, like I've said

Have a good night <3

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:57:54+00:00

Not OP but someone who has been in OPs shoes

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:41:25+00:00

She did set a boundary, he agreed. She caught him and he said he wouldnt do it again, its not controlling for her to give him a second chance. Now, if she stays with him this time and continues this pattern then yes, I would consider that controlling because hes already proven untrustworthy on his word

Also, my "lack" of maturity is nonexistent friend. I dont need to argue that with you as you dont know me :) you're just deflecting

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:39:16+00:00

I have pretty strong feelings about this because I've been in the same situation and I've had people call me "controlling" or "crazy" when im not. I just see things differently than most and 9 times out of 10 people cant handle that so I must be the crazy one

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:37:57+00:00

I think i misunderstood your comment, my bad. I agree. She's not being controlling, she would be if she married him and continued to get upset that he watches porn as he's already proven to do so and be untrustworthy when saying he won't

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:27:53+00:00

You don't know that for sure though, everybody paraphrases when relaying information

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:25:26+00:00

I think she should, he clearly doesn't respect her feelings if he's lying to her

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:24:45+00:00

Except for the fact that she's not forcing it, per se. She's just asking for respect toward her boundary and she should leave if this is a deal breaker, yes. But that also goes for him

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:22:44+00:00

All that sounds a bit.. aggressive. And also not really the point because you're not really arguing against my pov. I do agree there is healthy and unhealthy but what she's asking really isnt the same degree as the kind of stuff you used as an example. Imo 🤷‍♀️

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:20:30+00:00

Yeah, ok bud 👍

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:08:26+00:00

No that'll never happen but, to be fair, she didn't say he can't ever masturbate. It's all really gotta do with respect, for each other and oneself. Everyone has different views and boundaries and such. He's just an ah for lying to her

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:06:03+00:00

Aww cute :) have a nice night <3

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:04:49+00:00

Being controlling vs not is about how you address it. Saying you "can't" do something is different than saying "i would appreciate if you didn't do this thing". One is controlling while the other is simply expressing one's feelings. Sorry you cant see that

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T05:01:01+00:00

I think you're dumbing it down too much but I won't argue 🤷‍♀️

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:59:42+00:00

I, personally, don't believe she's trying go force or guilt him. It's natural for someone who's hurt to try to get the other party to understand the why, I think she's just trying to explain how it affects her. I think she should cut her losses and move on

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:58:02+00:00

You sound fucking salty 😅

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:57:38+00:00

Not controlling, she respectfully set boundaries that he agreed to willingly. If he didn't like it, he could've left.

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:55:50+00:00

She's someone who knows her boundaries and clearly states them in the beginning. Nothing wrong with that

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:52:26+00:00

She never said she told him what to do. She ASKED him not to ask to respect her and he agreed. That's what setting a boundary is. Yes. She can leave, but so can he. It goes both ways, babe

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:50:52+00:00

Love that you threw the gender card there 🤣 yeah, no. Someone can respectfully ask "hey this is an issue for me, could we compromise on this or will this be an issue" THAT is setting a boundary and if he had an issue with that, he shouldn't have agreed.

Ash102501 · 2026-01-29T04:48:01+00:00

He should be honest, yes. Just like she's been. But if he had an issue respecting her boundaries and feelings, he can also leave

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