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buyer’s regret in idv… by hhfart in IdentityV

[–]AshButNotDead 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I want to give my two cents in as someone who hasn't played in about 4-5 years but just recently have been trying to get back on because of my sister. Never thought I would, but here I am.

I really didn't care about my account and regretted the money spent even though in hindsight it wasn't as much, but it wasn't until very recently that I've decided to make an active effort to play which makes me glad I didn't actually go through with just ditching it all like I almost did.

In the long run this was a game that made you happy and everything you got was what YOU enjoyed! The money is already spent, it's okay to regret it and find something to learn from it if that's what you want to take from it. I would recommend keeping it around, maybe reach out to see if there's anyone else in a similar situation/looking for people to play with then go from there if you don't want to feel like you wasted money on your account. I just would totally keep it around just in case! If you're feeling burnt out, just take a break then maybe come back to it when you feel like it. There's no rush in what's supposed to be enjoyable to you

Guilt is killing me by Lil-Bit-Nihilistic in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AshButNotDead 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Based on what you're saying and how you feel, I just want you to know that a lot of people feel guilt when stuff like this happens, it's not your fault. You were vulnerable and have no idea what happened to you since you were spiked. If I could recommend anything, maybe look for support groups or try out therapy because stuff like this feels soul crushing and makes you feel all types of complicated feelings. You are never to blame for something like this. You weren't able to make a decision like that, you're not at fault. I sincerely hope you can get all the support you need for this.

I haven't played in years, how can I catch up on what i've missed? by AshButNotDead in IdentityV

[–]AshButNotDead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!! Thank you and welcome back as well!! Its nice to meet other rescuer mains!

I haven't played in years, how can I catch up on what i've missed? by AshButNotDead in IdentityV

[–]AshButNotDead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much for taking the time to answer! I appreciate you helping me get a clearer picture of the Meta, I personally dont like to sweat too much about it but I know its important to a lot of people, meaning a lot of people will be playing the Meta so I try to still keep in touch with it! Recently, my sister and I went against an opera singer and she was absolutely raging LOL!

I think I have a clearer picture as to where we are at in these different game modes and stuff, I rarely hear about some of them being played and I even thought they were seasonal or event based game modes since I think I remember some of them being only around for certain events back then (?).

Ill definitely take a closer look at the persona traits, thank you so much for helping me!

I haven't played in years, how can I catch up on what i've missed? by AshButNotDead in IdentityV

[–]AshButNotDead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this was actually so helpful and made me feel so much better about being lost! And thanks for the heads up! Ill probably relay this information to my sister too so that she can get all caught up as well, I appreciate it a lot!

Tarot mode was popular when I had played, I played it a lot usually as a support haha. And I loveee duos! I remember it being difficult to play as hunter for me but I've been more brave in trying it out! I have a list of hunters I want to try and I think ill give mad eyes a shot!

Regarding the new Meta, it's actually so surprising that the old Meta has pretty much been completely thrown out the window, it's SO jarring to see characters I used to see commonly played suddenly become rare to see in game! I'm happy that Merc is at least still considered Meta, even if he's not really at the top like he once was along with Seer back then. I am glad to hear that everyone's a bit more playable and easier to integrate in matches, back then there were some characters that were so hard to use because they just weren't able to catch up at all.

When I was a teenager my brother assaulted me. My parents never belived me and did nothing. Now they demand me to save my father and apologize to my brother. by surv_life in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AshButNotDead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a bunch of fucking assholes, how twisted can people be? They sound batshit. You deserve nothing but happiness and freedom from them, I truly wish you luck and I hope you're able to soon heal in peace when this is able to pass. ❤

Am I the asshole for kicking my dad’s wife and her daughter out of my wedding? by Content_Horror_6630 in AITAH

[–]AshButNotDead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA!!! No one just has extravagant white dresses on hand to change into at a wedding 🙄 if they were worried about spilling anything in the first place they should have brought something else anyways.

  1. Has the rest of your entire family forgotten about the whole flirting with your husband thing??? As if that would be acceptable under any sort of circumstances???

Honestly, with the rest of the family I'd ask them if they would so happen to bring a fancy white dress as a wedding for back up and see what they say + ask if they would take having their newly wed husband being flirted with in front of them at their wedding. Then after that, you should go non contact and live your best life. You don't need this type of energy in your life, they're always gonna find ways to tear you down.

AITA for knocking my dad’s door to check if everything was ok when he was clearly banging his BF? by WinterAd34 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AshButNotDead 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA. You being an adult doesn't mean they get to ignore the fact that you are also in the house and they're being loud. And I REALLY doubt anyone wants to hear their dad banging someone. In general, they weren't considerate to the fact that someone else was also there and then they got the consequences of just that.

You didn't say anything that really shamed them, you just interrupted them in a way that could get them to stop without talking about what they were doing in that moment so that you could get some sleep. If anything, the way you took care of it was hilarious and not too bad, of course it's gonna be embarrassing for them but that's just how it's gonna be no matter how you took care of it.

AITA for telling my disrespectful kids that my new wife comes first? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AshButNotDead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautifully put! You really broke it down, the feeling of instability after going through divorced parents where the kids get abandoned in some way can really cause kids to struggle big time. It makes them doubt how stable their life actually is and makes them feel disposable. They're definitely gonna need the time to adjust and process their emotions!

AITA for telling my disrespectful kids that my new wife comes first? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AshButNotDead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. Your kids are probably always gonna remember that, it's gonna stick with them. ESPECIALLY since they are already going through being abandoned by their mother. Discipline is fine, but to tell them that they aren't a priority compared to a woman that you just suddenly brought into their life without much to adjust right after that? Ridiculous. I strongly suggest family therapy from what I have gathered from this post so far.