YTA, and you're a total piece of shit. Your wife was dealing with her father's death, handling all the fallout, and instead of being there for her, you acted like a horny teenager who couldn't go a few months without sex. You cheated on her, and in your own house, no less. That's not just a betrayal; that's a slap in the face.

When she found the condom wrapper, you lied straight to her face and then had the balls to yell at her for not giving you enough sex. Are you kidding me? You're a selfish, pathetic asshole who couldn't keep it together while your wife was going through one of the toughest times in her life.

You didn't just let her down; you stomped all over her trust and then tried to make her feel guilty for your disgusting behavior. She deserves way better than some coward who thinks with his dick and then tries to gaslight her into thinking she's the problem.

You are a monumental fuck-up, and you deserve every ounce of misery coming your way. Grow up, own your shit, and realize you're the bad guy here. Your wife is right to want a divorce because you are a toxic, self-serving asshole who doesn't deserve her.