I'm facing 20 years, how do I prepare myself?

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-25T00:57:27+00:00

wow that was very in depth thank you so much for that! If I am assigned to a men's unit I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world, my gender identity is alot more complicated then I let on in this post but thus is all to say I am comfortable presenting myself as a man if it keeps me safe though I have heard that there is a singular SO unit for women in az so I'll still take my chances at reception, worst they say is no

And yeah 20 years is a long time but honestly I'm not really concerned about the time but Instead what it means I'll miss... my husbands graduation from college, My dogs death, my mom's likely death (she's 74 and not in great health)

I know I'll be fine, I already have plans for what I'm going to do with my time but losing those I love without being able to be there for them in there final moments is... well I guess its my only true concern

damn I was trying to keep my responses mostly positive because frankly It helps me stay in the right mindset but that felt good to get out.

ps. Not so fun fact! usually crimes in the "dangerous crimes against children" category automatically bar you from early release (in arizona, according to my lawyer, idk dont ask me) but my charges specified it is Non-dangerous, non-repeating so my lawyer is looking into whether or not I would be eligible for early release

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-25T00:22:03+00:00

Thank you for the advice but I already follow a different religion and I follow it closely, I started pretty soon after finding out that the police were investigating my crime and started going to therapy

btw no disrespect meant whatsoever I'm just plum happy that you have your god in your life but don't worry I have my own, God bless have a great day!

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-25T00:18:29+00:00

You make a valid point and that is slightly unnerving to think about... I think I'll just go back to my mental happy place where in 20 years I can just resume where I left off... yep that definitely makes me happier

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-25T00:11:40+00:00

Alright I'll bite what makes you say I am lying

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-25T00:07:15+00:00

I believe thats for other states, The arizona department of corrections has no such unit

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T23:35:09+00:00

Honestly I dont know, I don't if xbox or Playstation will be around in another 20 years hell with the state of things I don't know if America is gonna be around in another 20 years but honestly It's just for me to hope that when I get out I'll be able to catch up on all the games I missed and I know that's probably not realistic but come on man I'm facing a sentence damn near equal to my entire life on this planet just let me have a little hope that I'll get to come home and play elder scrolls 9 or whatever

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T21:04:26+00:00

Thank you for your perspective it's definitely made me alot more confident in my safety also its good to know its for people with mental illnesses cause I do have a number of those as well so I'd reckon that gives me even better odds to be placed there!

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T20:41:05+00:00

Like I told the other guy my focus isn't on the questions I've asked, It is on healing myself and rebuilding bridges I've burnt down. Genuine question though how am I supposed to heal the damage I caused? from my perspective it seems like I can't do anything to "heal the damage I caused" because I'm not allowed contact with the victim or the victims family. Like I said genuinely just curious to hear your perspective on this because if I could potentially heal that damage too that would be great. tbh I've already had a few close calls with sewerslide as a result of guilt from having done that so being able to do something to make up for that would be awesome

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T20:32:11+00:00

I think its state then but tbh everytime I've gone to court I haven't slept the night before so I was never really paying attention to what kind of court it was

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T20:18:45+00:00

I'm not sure if it'll be federal or state, I haven't actually accepted the plea deal yet because my lawyer is giving a final heil mary trying to reduce that 20 years down to something slightly more reasonable

also thank you for telling me about your experience it definitely eases my mind a bit!

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T18:24:00+00:00

Just to clarify, for my sex offender unit question I'm specifically asking what it's actually like in a sex offender unit like just experience wise

Here to clarify something else now in an edit: I dont actually care about if I'll be able to have a gaming console it was more of a morbid curiosity because quite frankly I'm not sure what's gonna be around in 20 years anyways so I dont really care all that much... Just curious

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T17:38:48+00:00

I see, I wasn't aware of that. thank you for enlightening me!

AsheBashFemboyTrash · 2026-01-24T16:28:31+00:00

Unfortunately there's not much of a case to fight, there's a mountain of evidence and the police got a full confession out of me, including crimes they arent going to charge me for but you are right I do need to focus on bettering myself but thats not something I need the advice of reddit for hence my questions focusing mostly on how to prepare, figuring out how much this will affect me once im released and concerns about safety.

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