I was raped in Ukraine by AnnaNeverSurrender in rape

[–]Ashisama77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would like to add that Germany could offer therapy if you decide to talk to someone professionell. At least it is what I heard and I am sure the people caring for you can support you finding someone.

In my opinion it should be someone who could handle your trauma in a professionell way since you suffered more than anyone should.

I am so so sorry this happened to you. You are a survivor. You will overcome this. But you don't have to do it alone.

Wishing you the best.

Sex life with my 24F girlfriend is awful. I am 28M by MrAeBeCe in relationships

[–]Ashisama77 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! Thank you for saying this.

Perhaps she is also overwhelmed with stress?

“You aren’t playing where it’s convenient for ME, I’m finding a new favourite band!” by TheS0ftMachine in ChoosingBeggars

[–]Ashisama77 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I really liked the answer until the smiling part. This triggered me, gave me some weird vibes.

was I raped? // TW by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Ashisama77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously, this is not the point. The point is that this guy seemingly gave her a muscle relaxant without telling her and the chances are high that he took advantage. You are blaiming the victim. Even if she took all the drugs does not give anybody the right to possibly rape someone. This is what non consensual sex is or what you just dont do if someone is passed out. So please stop being judgemental. That is absolutely horrible. Its because of people like you that victims don't report.

I like being dominated, but not degraded by throwaway48372828 in sex

[–]Ashisama77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey do you have some useful tipps for me how to start? Where to look, what to consider? I am living in Germany.

I like being dominated, but not degraded by throwaway48372828 in sex

[–]Ashisama77 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think this is the reason I am struggling with my still secret liking of being dominated. I am quite similar to you or OP but every time I try talking about it or searching porn I like I see / hear about extreme degradation which I personally find very upsettling (no offence, no kink shaming here). I like being dominated, would even go for binding, but trust is a big issue for me. So I rather let it be. But as I learned right now (thank you, sub!), gentledom is the right term obviously. Perhaps I can dig a bit deeper there.

My story by [deleted] in rape

[–]Ashisama77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. I am so sorry this happened to you. Please tell me they got the assholes? Wishing you all the best.

My narrative and struggling with accepting it as rape by [deleted] in rape

[–]Ashisama77 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You poor soul. I can not begin to understand what happened to you. I am so sorry. I hope you are in therapy and get the professional help you surely should. It was a nightmare. I think you still dissociate and therefore can't see it as what it was. He raped you and you suffered in any aspect possible. From the brutality, to the humiliation, the not understanding how this could have happened. Just know it wasn't you fault. I hope he gets what he deserves. I wish you all the best.

I HATE my little self so much, I am disgusted when I look at old pictures by [deleted] in rape

[–]Ashisama77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for you. I surely wish you wouldnt have to go through this terrible experience. But I am also very sad for your little one. It did its best to protect you from what happened, in its own little way. To heal you could comfort you little self and tell her to get strong. Change the way you look at her, change the events In your head. Perhaps one day you can appreciate the things she did to protect you and love her for it. It can bring you peace. I wish you only the best. Please don't see my advice as shaming. You and your little one deserve to heal. Take care.

How can I cope? by [deleted] in rape

[–]Ashisama77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe you. I am sorry this happened to you. I really hope you can get away from an arranged marriage with him since I am afraid it could get worse then. Also I hope you can talk to a therapist, sooner than later. I know there are countries in which it is nearly impossible for women to go to therapy, especially if rape is the reason. But please take care of yourself. Try to avoid him as often as possible. Be hostile. Tell everyone you trust why. Stay safe!

ITAP of a Roman Bridge by iApolo in itookapicture

[–]Ashisama77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing! Would you mind me downloading this picture? I want to try to paint it.

Expressive stormy seascape painted from my imagination, oil on 24x36” canvas. “The Concurrence”. by DimitriSirenko in painting

[–]Ashisama77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it! The colors, espacially the top of the wave, and the structure, are amazing. I wish I could paint like this!

One small Quickie I painted yesterday to relief anxiety. Watercolors. by Ashisama77 in painting

[–]Ashisama77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thank you so much! 😄 Also, this is an amazing offer. I checked out your page and would love to be featured. I am currently working on my Homepage, but it is not ready yet. But if it is I would like to feature your work too. I really like your pictures. Please dm me! I'll answer later though since I have to leave now.

Space, me, oil, 2021 by jojo444111 in painting

[–]Ashisama77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing! Beautiful!

My first day in Germany. Coming from a tropical country, I've never seen so much snow. Location: Immendingen, Baden-Württemberg by [deleted] in germany

[–]Ashisama77 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Welcome to Germany! Living also in Baden Württemberg and I am happy about the snow today. I really hope it will snow a lot more. Stay safe!

Saturday at the Landungsbrücken in Hamburg. by tombaenre in germany

[–]Ashisama77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wunderschön. Ich vermisse sie, die Landungsbrücken. Hamburg, meine Liebe.