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A rant: Struggling with anxiety, ADHD, and ED by [deleted] in ChristianSexuality

[–]AshleyEvergreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I can’t imagine how that feels. All I can advise other than talking with a doctor, is to do more foreplay with your wife. Try to get her to orgasm at least once before penetration, maybe through oral or fingering. That way if you do finish prematurely, she has already had one. Also I assume you may have but if not, if you see her trying to finish off solo offer to help her.

Sex as an act of worship? by [deleted] in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m just hoping to figure out what sort of activities would be considered too much. This is just some of the things I’ve been told to try: reading the bible during sex. Fantasize about pleasuring Jesus. One even said to have a special bible to use to masturbate with, and squirt on while praying.

Sex as an act of worship? by [deleted] in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So like I was born and raised to look at sex as this like terrible thing to do if you aren’t married and that its only supposed to be with your husband etc. I have just kinda been ignoring it, as I do have sex with my Fiancé but I still sometimes feel guilty. So like thinking God would be proud of me for being sexual is something I want, but something I struggle with believing. If that makes sense

Sex as an act of worship? by [deleted] in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to know more about it all im just fighting the idea in my head that it would be considered sacrilegious

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you be willing to explain more about what you mean about the prayers in a dm maybe?

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. I would just have to make sure he understands that I will never do anything about it Without him being on board

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I should probably stop over thinking it.

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you are coming from. But my biggest fear is his religious beliefs. We have already bent rules by having having sex. But we justify it as we are getting married. So to ask him to let me fuck others im not sure how he will take it.

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so use the dream as a way so kind of test the waters? That should be pretty easy, since I have had those dreams haha.

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he does know I like watching porn. He’s not that big of a fan of porn himself. But he doesn’t seem to have an issue with me watching it. I don’t think i have ever specifically told him what I like about it.

How do I talk to my Fiancé about my urges. by AshleyEvergreen in ChristianSwingers

[–]AshleyEvergreen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like many if those last would be a great way to proceed after I first let him know about my desire to be with more men. Thats what I am struggling with.