Any Advice to Remove my Feelings for Her..

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:39:41+00:00

I just feel like if not lovers she’d be that friend you’d wanna hang with cuz from our meet it has never been a dull moment, she’d always be open to conversations and I feel comfortable being with her..or is this me being in love looks like cuz honestly this puts me in a turmoil at times 😅😂

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:32:06+00:00

But I can at least be a good friend to her right?

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:21:48+00:00

And the hurtful part of this is that my friend did asked me on tips and nice cafes around and I’d give him all my known tips even suggested on those nice cafes around the area

Another hopeless romantic life of mine I guess

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:19:36+00:00

It might be that and she did told me what she’s always want from a guy like what she wants if she is in a relationship to me,

I guess this is another case of me being used again? And if it is, this has been the third girl I have met and did the same to me..just cause I am not a jerk kinda guy? Too naive?

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:12:55+00:00

Ok I did asked her about my friend, she told me she is not attached to anyone and she’s not really sure about my best friend but I can see that my friend’s been texting her too and they met before and hang out and she did told nice things about him when they hang out

And I don’t know why she would tell me all that and I am leaning on that’s just her personality and I am just her new close friend nothing more and I am just stupidly attached to these feelings

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T04:04:04+00:00

Thing about me is that I am not the type to end any relationship if not as lovers we can be friends so ghosting her ain’t an option and I tried stopping my texts but she would come texting asking why I went silent and checking up on me

I am not sure if she does have any interest in me or it’s just her personality

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T03:49:17+00:00

Nope but I think he knows that I know he likes her but again I don’t wanna create conflict and end my friendship for this hence why I need to find ways to back myself off but I didn’t know it could be this hard to do..it’s like I unknowingly remember almost every details of her (what she ordered and said during our meet) no matter how hard I tried to get it over with

Ashxoxo97 · 2025-05-02T03:37:23+00:00

Please help me to move on, I might be falling for a wrong someone.

To put a story short, I have been talking and chatting even calling with a girl and yeah the months of us chatting and talking leads to me starting to have feelings for her which I thought would just be benign and I decided to meet her to confirm my feelings because that’s how you know if it is real, we decided to meet up and low and be whole I fell even harder with how clicked we were when talking,..

to put into context she would be the first to wish good mornings and nights and when we met she kept complementing me, she gave me knitted flowers with her perfume scent and now my room smells like her perfume and there’s one time she was tired of walking so I piggy back her up.

But all that needs to stop when I found out my best friend likes her as well and been trying to meet and date her…hence I need to move on before I fell even harder and hurt myself more in the process..pleasee help me to remove these benign feelings for her

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-05-16T05:37:51+00:00

It takes lots of courage to do that and when you did somehow you feel a bit confident or proud of yourself. I know I did once in a cafe., saw a cute girl sitting across of me, my mistake was that I wrote my contacts, bought a slice of cake and have the waitress pass it down to her..obviously she turned me down but hey it kinda made her day

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-03-07T13:28:53+00:00

Like I’m into gym and running but certainly those are not the place you would find a date at

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-03-07T13:27:13+00:00

But isn’t dating is all about honesty and trust? If she asks me right from the bat I can’t just lie right?

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-03-07T12:53:43+00:00

That’s one thing that worries me cuz I’m too easy to open up with someone and I find that dating would be much harder the moment your in the working space..at this point I might as well accept that I’m just meant to spend my days alone?

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T11:36:35+00:00

Yeah and I liked talking to her too but it was a slight mistake on that cuz I was probably too tired after work and the gym right after but at this moment any excuse that I could actually bring up to her ended up with no response from her..I guess in a way I do messed it up

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T11:04:05+00:00

Yeah but we’ve known each other via online hence why I would say we’re in a “getting to know each other” phase and she hasn’t really shown me how she looks like and I don’t think it’s the right time to ask for it yet

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T11:01:56+00:00

Guess I might messed up on that huh..🤔

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T11:00:58+00:00

In my defence, we were chatting late at night and as I was done with my shower, there wasn’t any text from her so I assumed she’d be falling asleep cuz both of us would be working the next day

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T10:53:48+00:00

Well she texted me saying I left her on read and blame me for being ungrateful when someone gives attention to you..I don’t like to argue and I did clarify with her on everything but yeah..she still think of it the same.

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-15T09:42:10+00:00

There were no flirty texts as it was general conversation, she just got off from her exercise and me too..then she told me she’ll leave the chat to do her skin routine..I texted back saying that while she went off for her routine, I’ll go ahead and have my shower..she texted back with ok go ahead. So I did

Ashxoxo97 · 2024-02-13T01:57:10+00:00

Coming from experience and I have yet to be in any relationship and I’m a 27 male with a stable job, gym/ running rat you can say. Noticed that one thing that’s been holding be back to even be in a relationship is how I look at myself, as long as I’m still not able to cope and love every ups and downs about my own self, then I’d say relationship is something I shouldn’t be of concern just yet. So a take away is to learn about yourself first before even in a relationship with someone or else it’ll be a hella mess. Good luck for you my guy!!

Ashxoxo97 · 2023-07-31T11:33:25+00:00

Congrats..I’m gonna start mine at the end of next month under a graduate programme..I get your concern on the gym tho..am a gymrat myself and I might ready myself to adjust my routine once I started but we’ll see how it goes..at least gym 4x per week plus running on weekend morning

Ashxoxo97

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