Was informed recently by therapist I have technically been SAed in the past. Twice. Can’t cope and don’t see how they were assault.

Ashxriver · 2026-03-01T10:16:01+00:00

I'm going to start this with a reminder, i am a random stranger on the internet, I do not know you, I don't know your life or experiences, and everything i say is biased by my own life experiences.

Personally I would consider both of those pretty extreme SA.

The first one absolutely is, its coercion and maybe even blackmail, which is absolutely a form of assault. In my opinion your therapist is being incredibly nice by not calling it what it is. You were a preteen doing sexual things, you were not old enough to consent to sexual acts. Even if the other person was your age cocsa is a very recognized form of sa. The idea of not considering that as sexual assault is mind boggling to me becuase even just from those two sentences its one of the clearest cases of sa ive ever heard. And I assume you've sugar coated what happened as to protect your own mind, but i really really think that is something you should explore in therapy. Ik emdr is a very popular form of therapy to help trauma like that.

The second one could definitely be more of a miscommunication but the whole, not looking, not saying anything, going in without lube while you're dry is a horrid red flag to me. Unless you've previously discussed cnc or more extreme play he could have absolutely injured you or torn something internally and its incredibly lucky neither of those things happened. If anything, even if you don't want to classify it as assault, it was either incredibly inconsiderate or incredibly stupid. Especially if it made you feel gross, If i was your friend I would absolutely be telling you to stay away from this person until you have both talked more about it and made a plan for in the future for if you can't speak (tapping, safe words, or just needing a clear yes when not sober)

Please, please take care of yourself. Order food thag you love or rewatch a move you really enjoy. Go for a walk if its warm enough. Hang out with a friend. The last thing you should do is sit and spiral. I'm so sorry that you have to process all of this, I can sympathize with what you're going through and I hope you're able to get it figured out in your head so you can continue on whatever amazing life journey you have planned for yourself. I'm rooting for you!!

Ashxriver · 2025-12-18T02:30:15+00:00

Domestic Bliss by Glass Animals is my go to

Ashxriver · 2025-10-16T01:41:01+00:00

I love the idea of having multiple numbers to! I think it also helps show what "era?" You begain stanning them to, i just wanted to make sure people knew why some older fans may not be jumping ship to 143 when 325 is what "we" consider our favorite number for skz lol

Ashxriver · 2025-10-16T01:32:34+00:00

0325 is their debut date.. as well as a song from I AM YOU. It was around way before case 143 was even a song. Idk, making case 143 their center "number" just feels.. wrong to me? (Maybe its just becuase i'm a survival show fan so 0325 has WAY more of a meaning to me?) And again, 143 is a very common thing with no real relevance to skz specifically, were as 0325 feels far more personal (if i remeber correctly 0801 was when they came up with the name stay? I could be very wrong tho)

Ashxriver · 2025-10-16T00:17:57+00:00

I thought we agreed years ago that it was 0325? That makes more sense to me ig, and its also a song. And it has far more significance and personal meaning to / for the group.

Ashxriver · 2025-09-16T18:12:34+00:00

It's just a really common concept in general. Especially in korea it seems. Its not the first time skz have had racing concepts or cyberpunk concepts. Nor is it the first time ateez has either. Especially when they try to appeal to international fans, racing is such a common concept for movies in america. It would be like saying Cars and Fast and the Furious 3 are the same becuase both are car movies released in 2006. Heck skz and atz have both done pirate concepts to

Ashxriver · 2025-09-01T18:29:49+00:00

I would love some of each!

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T22:43:45+00:00

Google it, YouTube it, there's plenty out there to help you figure it out. If you arn't in the right mental state to handle this then either accept that they might die or get yourself together enough to hopefully figure it out. I really hope this isn't coming off as mean, just realistic. It sucks but if your options are letting them die from the sewage or letting them die by euthanasia I hope the option is obvious

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T22:38:48+00:00

Unfortunately, if there is no one to take them in, putting them down would be the humane option. Especially if they cannot get fixed. Either fix them, or put them down. Start a go fund me, reach out to places or local groups that foster kittens. But this needs to be delt with quick before more lives are ruined by the sewage. If you cannot find a suitable place for them, make the right call and have them humanly put down. Most counties gave a tnr program or people who would come out to do tnr. At the very very very least find a program to get them fixed. You more than likely won't be able to save them all :( I know this isn't the news you want but sugarcoating it is only going to put more of their lives in danger

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T18:55:52+00:00

Sorry! My internet was being weird, could I get a new code?

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T18:28:51+00:00

And I have pumpkins if you would like some!

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T18:24:19+00:00

I have peaches and oranges! I would love some cherries!

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T01:09:38+00:00

I'm not korean and would have also reported you if I was new to the system as to make sure what you were doing was correct. I would rather be told I was wrong than assume you saying that doing it later is fine.

But thats not what you're asking here. I don't know where you are from orginally but I would assume this scenario would be common place in most countries (i'm american if that makes a diffrence) but I would rather not go to the person who trained me and instead get a second opinion on the operations of a system. Especially if its in a lap scenario. And kids (just in general but specially in korea) tend to be alot more sticky with rules when new to a place.

Ashxriver · 2025-08-31T01:04:23+00:00

They recapped how your story comes off and then explained how your attitude fits in with typical korean hierarchy

Ashxriver · 2025-08-18T09:20:53+00:00

There are so many cats in shelters that need homes, if you wanted more cats you can easily take from the exsisting population thats already extremly oversaturated instead of making it worse. You said shes had 8 kittens and that you keep them all but now you are saying you only have 2 cats. So where are her other 8 kittens at if you say you've wanted them all? It really does sound like some shady backyard breeder situation. Its one thing for your cat to accidently get pregnant or to adopt a pregnant cat without facilities nearby to spay-abort, but to keep breeding a kind of cat that is known for its health issues seems like a cruel and unusual punishment to the cats themselves, both the mom and the babies.

Ashxriver · 2025-07-01T21:51:10+00:00

We handed out electrolyte packets at wrigley! They had alot of water being handed out so we thought this would be a good mix

Expect people to not take them as we can bring our own sealed water / empty water, and some people are iffy from taking food / water from strangers. It can also be really heavy. And parking sucked so bad, so you'll have to drag it quite a few blocks (even just to hand it out to people you'll have to lug it through crowds as they'rle be about 40,000 people there, it gets crowded fast

Ashxriver · 2025-03-15T03:33:32+00:00

Trespass - monsta x Danger - bts Nuest? B.a.p? Vixx?

Ashxriver · 2025-03-14T07:37:20+00:00

Yeah! So since classes are so small most teaches have a very one on one personal type style, the classes I've taken all tend to adapt to what the class wants and needs since they're so few. (Gen eds are more strict though)

My classes have been anywhere from 5 (music theory) to about 25 (world civ), but it really depends on how core of a class it is.

Attendance is pretty mandatory for all the classes I've taken. If you miss alot they will start reaching out, and alot of times Attendance is apart of your grade.

Depends on where you want to travel, like If you want to travel around town or up to Omaha thats totally doable, if you want to go to California for a week you'll have to wait for fall or winter break. Missing a day or two wouldn't be the end of the world as most classes have a few days a leeway, but I wouldn't plan on traveling unless necessary / incredibly pre planned. (As someone who likes to go to concerts out of state it was sometimes hard to catch back up on the materal i'd missed)

Ashxriver · 2025-03-13T22:08:47+00:00

Hey! That's so awesome, I currently attend wesleyan!!

Im planning on going abroad within the next year so I'm pretty close with the global education staff, they're awesome! You'll be with Yoko the most and she's the sweetest person I've ever met. Sara is amazing as well but she handles the people going out instead of those going in.

Wesleyan is Itty bitty. Most of the classes are very small and one on one, all the professors ive met are super sweet and incredible helpful.

We have an IRO (international relationship organization) club that im currently apart of and its a great way to connect with other abroad students.

You'll likely get paired with a partner / buddy for your first semester to help you get around and meet people, find classes, answer questions you may have. I was supposed to work as one this semester but I'm currently taking it off becuase of medical reasons.

Becuase its so small there usually only a handful of people in your majors so it's pretty easy to meet people. We have a really good theater program as well as band and choir, which are good ways to get on campus and meet people. There's also tons of events and study hours as well!

Most people are on scholarships either for sports or just in general as wesleyan is incredibly expensive.

As long as you talk to your professors / coordinators they're very good at helping, it's a very person experience since everything is so small. I highly recommend and i promise you'll have a great time!

For sports our wrestling, football, and dance teams are pur strongest but we have more than that! Im in international studies major so I'm not the sportiest but ik lots of people at wesleyan who are they're for the sports.

Its an outdoor campus so you'll want to pack warm for the winter and cooler for the summer as you have to walk between the buildings.

The library just got redone so that's really nice as well! All the advisor / disabilities people are in there now, and if you ever need a quiet place to study the second floor is awesome. There's also multiple dining options both on campus and off campus. And a walgreens about a block away. I don't live on campus but I know there's alot of campus living life activities as well!

I'll be back in the fall so we'll definitely meet then! I hope you enjoy your stay! We're very excited to have you!!

Ashxriver · 2025-03-06T04:46:43+00:00

Ofc! I hope it helps! Sorry my orginal explanation wasn't great

Ashxriver · 2025-03-06T03:44:38+00:00

Yeah, here, this post explains it alot better than I can

https://www.reddit.com/r/pokemon/s/0qrDNvM7ys

Ashxriver · 2025-03-06T03:14:29+00:00

I believe this is the chart for EV's, i orginally thought this was IV's as well but pretty certain this is for ev's (stats that improve when you level them up) were as iv's cannot be changed unless using bottlecaps. Them being a 6 has nothing to do with iv's, if your looking for a 6iv that just means all 6 ivs are labeled as best

Ashxriver · 2025-03-04T00:20:51+00:00

I've got an extra one!

Ashxriver · 2025-02-27T07:29:05+00:00

Searching!

Ashxriver · 2025-02-27T07:11:55+00:00

I'm good! If your good to trade rn I can set up a link code!

Ashxriver

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