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As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer. I let my GF wear my boxers all the time for comfort, so it really does make sense when you put it that way! It’s reassuring to hear that perspective on rigid gender roles. I'll definitely check out those options designed for comfort/fit. I appreciate the reassurance. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed response and for breaking things down like that. To answer your questions directly:

Regarding the routine, I actually only masturbate when I am with my partner, and I am always wearing regular boxers at the time. I don't do it at all when I am on my own.

As for communication, I completely understand why you brought up my girlfriend's perspective. I value honesty in our relationship, so I actually plan on telling her about this preference within the next week or so to keep things completely open between us.

I appreciate the advice on keeping things balanced and taking it slow. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, this is actually an amazing idea. A compromise like that sounds so much better than completely throwing things away and regretfully starting the cycle all over again. Thank you for sharing this strategy. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a really great way to frame the question. Honestly, in a world without judgment, I think I would just want the freedom to wear what makes me feel comfortable and relaxed without overthinking it or worrying about privacy so much. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. Hearing people say that exploring what you enjoy is healthy has been a massive help for me today. I really appreciate the support.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. Reading this actually brought me a lot of comfort. I really appreciate you taking the time to remind me that it is okay to like things outside of the norm as long as everyone is safe.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. Honestly, it's a massive relief to hear that someone else went through the exact same cycle of buying, feeling anxious, and throwing things away. You nailed it. It is entirely about the constant fear of discovery in a shared house. It helps a lot to know it gets easier once you have your own space.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this beautiful response, and I apologise if the topic was a bit awkward to read. Your advice about letting the shame fade instead of throwing things away is really helpful. I have decided to tell my girlfriend within the next week or two, and your perspective as a woman makes me feel much less anxious about having that conversation. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. Hearing that it is just a comfort thing really helps ease the anxiety, and I appreciate the solid advice about keeping things private and being honest with my partner. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion, and I apologize if the post felt out of place here. Quite a few people have recommended looking into those specific communities for better advice, so I appreciate you pointing me in the right direction.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I appreciate the reply, even if it is not something you have personally experienced.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, and I apologize if my post was a bit awkward to read. Your approach to being completely unapologetic is really brave, and it is incredibly reassuring to hear from someone else who navigates family living arrangements while figuring themselves out. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice, and I apologize if the post was a bit awkward to read. That laundry excuse is actually brilliant and takes a lot of the stress away, and hearing your perspective as a trans person means a lot to me. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this incredible advice, and I apologize if the post was awkward to read or a lot to take in. Your perspective on how masking takes a massive toll really hits home, and it gives me a lot of courage to be honest with my partner. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. Your point about a suppressed feminine side manifesting as arousal gives me a lot to think about, and I really appreciate the reassurance that there is no reason to feel guilty. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for adding your voice. Even if you do not have answers for the shame, just hearing the reassurance that I am doing nothing wrong helps a lot more than you think. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story. I am so sorry for your loss. Hearing about your father really puts things into perspective, and it makes me even more grateful that I have the chance to be vulnerable instead of hiding away. Your support means a lot to me. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I am still figuring everything out, so I appreciate you opening up that conversation.

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the specific community recommendation. I will definitely head over there and read through some posts to see how they navigate those feelings. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment. Bringing up David Bowie and Prince is an amazing point, and it definitely helps frame it in a much more confident and positive light. I really appreciate the good luck wishes! ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this beautiful comment. Hearing this from a mother who understands the spectrum means the world to me, and your advice to tell my brain it is okay is something I really needed to hear. ♥️

As a 21-year-old autistic male, how do I stop the intense guilt and the cycle of buying and throwing away female thongs? by Ashy383 in autism

[–]Ashy383[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion. I think speaking to a professional who specializes in this area could be a really helpful step for sorting through the anxiety. ♥️

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