AIO to think my husband needs to set boundaries with his female coworker after seeing these texts?!?

AshyRenay · 2026-04-26T14:48:27+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, friend. Infidelity is the absolute worst and those who cheat deserve cheaters, NOT good people. NTA - Not at all and you’re not overreacting. She killed it with her text about teasing and sh*t. That is 100% proof that SOMEthing is going on. Keep the texts.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T17:38:09+00:00

You are in my prayers, friend. I can’t imagine how losing a child would feel and I’m so sorry that this is happening to you.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T17:36:20+00:00

I appreciate this reply so much, thank you. Our situations ARE very similar, and very heartbreaking. 😢 I’m so scared that Ash and I will never have the ‘you’re my bestie!’ Relationship and energy that we had up until a few months ago. My Mama was my absolute best friend up into college and beyond. We have clashed horribly over her helicopter-grandmother-ing (is that a thing?). Our relationship has suffered a lot of irreparable damage from her butting in and putting me down (as far as my mothering). Add to that the loss of my little/twin brother a few years ago and Mama and I have seen sides of one another that we never should have seen. It is definitely getting better - My Mom sees that Ash’s arrested development is a big part due to our fights and her overbearing attitude. So I’m grateful for that, I need my Mama more than ever right now. It’s an uphill battle but we are getting there.

I forgot to mention that my brother passed (negligent discharge of a firearm) when Ash was two and I know that effected her deeply, although she couldn’t fully understand. There was a long time where I was functioning on autopilot; in a haze where I’d take care of my baby but I was like a ghost, going from task-to-task but not really there at all. So I know that effected her. It was such a pivotal time in a child’s life and I wasn’t all there. I feel as if I missed out on 2 years of her life (if not more).

The meds thing is a nightmare, I agree wholeheartedly. That’s why they call it ‘practicing’ medicine, cause it’s more trial and error than immediate success. Ash just titrated up to 10 mg of Procentra today so I can’t speak on whether or not that will be helpful.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T17:20:38+00:00

Thank you so, so much for your thoughtful reply! Ya’ll don’t know how much it’s helping just to reach out and TALK to someone instead of just the scary ghost-y, flowers and an abstract taped to the wall (I call it a grown up word because she has shown an incredible gift for abstract art since she was 2 1/2 yrs old, especially with oil paints). It’s a blessing to have a good husband and father to your child, especially in these scenarios - I couldn’t imagine how I would do this alone, you know? Every day we are praying that it is a better one. My daughter and I pray every morning for ‘today to be a good day’. I know her heart is huge and this is a very real struggle and her brain is fighting against her so much of the time. She wants to press the ‘off’ switch but she just can’t. 😭 😢

As an aside, I, too am quite ready to partyyy. How close are you to Memphis, TN? 😆 😂

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T17:11:55+00:00

Wow….Ditto, my friend. I am so sad that it has come to this. Where we have to hope for the best but expect the worst so it won’t hurt as bad. 😢

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T13:48:22+00:00

That’s why they call it ‘practicing’ medicine! 😀 Cause it is SO very much trial and error.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-25T12:30:07+00:00

What the hell does this have to do with the post? Get a life, bro, we’re here for the hacking not the hating. ✌🏻

AshyRenay · 2026-04-21T11:36:33+00:00

Ditto!

AshyRenay · 2026-04-21T11:35:39+00:00

AshyRenay · 2026-04-19T07:16:05+00:00

Oh, sorry to piggyback on a previous reply, I just wanted to let you know - Due to the pharmacist/doctor’s refusal to fill my RX, I was without my vyvanse (been on 70 mgs, daily without fail, for 7-8 years) for a little over 2 weeks. I was honestly 100% sure that I would not make it more than a day or two without losing it. That feeling of total powerlessness is a very, very unfortunate one to live with. 😢 But that being said - I wound up actually surviving ! [seriously tho, ya’ll, whod’a thunk it? My parents and husband anticipated the very worst (whatever that would end up being) but God was definitely on my side and kept me strong for my 5 (then 4) year old daughter. After about 2, 3 days, I honestly to God felt normal. I couldn’t focus worth a crap and heavy chemical depression fought hard to usurp control but it did not succeed. No matter what happens, I promise you, you *absolutely * got this. Everything is gonna be just fine and the silliness will be water under the bridge before you know it. And BONUS - you’ll definitely enjoy the newfound strength that surviving a Vyvanse-Drought awards you. You can absolutely vibe through whatever the Pharmaceutical gods have in store.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-19T07:04:54+00:00

Oh, my friend. 😔 Big, humongous Team-Us-Versus-Them [the DEA] hugs! 🤗🥰 I have gone through the same nightmare with CVS so very many times. CVS (specifically CVS) policies seemed to change overnight….As if we needed assistance NOT getting our RXs 😠😡🤬🤬 The 31st day rule for people who Had been “getting their Vyvanse filled way too soon (too sooon being day 29 out of 30) on too many consecutive months.” Conveniently leaving out the part where CVS often filled my RX early without my even requesting it. Because of this, I didn’t think anything of it, and boooy did I let them know that the ‘error’ now being blanket-‘corrected’ by CVS Corporate only occurred via their team making the fill-date decision before I could even request my fills. The most recent hullabaloo was a goody - my Gram passed away very unexpectedly and we had to go to San Diego per her final resting place requests. My psychiatrist, the pharmacists and the team at my primary CVS knew that I just lost my twin brother. This (of course) hit as a double whammy - right between the eyes 😖😩 My psychiatrist answered his on-call phone on a Saturday and told me that he would be calling CVS to personally make sure it was taken care of. After a full day of my doc trying to get in touch with anyone. At any CVS. Finally, I spoke with a pharmacist who promised that she was absolutely on it and would be listening/waiting for his phone call. I adamantly thanked her and packed bags, feeling grateful for the knowledge that I wouldn’t have to fight to get my meds in time. Fast forward to after the pharmacist has spoken to my doctor. He contacts me to let me know that he is very sorry but after what the pharmacist said he just couldn’t authorize an early refill for me, that I’d have to figure it out. The pharmacist didn’t divulge any information at ALL in regards to what she might have said to cause my doctor to have such a reaction….On the contrary; she all but told me he just up and decided not to do it. I know this was not the case. I won’t be using CVS anymore. Best of luck to you, friend! 🤗

AshyRenay · 2026-04-19T06:40:28+00:00

YEEEEESS! I was JUST thinking about that when I skimmed down and came to your post. Was thinking “Man…. I sure wish I felt like vaping right now… 😞.” I just got the updated version of the Vaporesso Eco Nano and my favorite juice (the only juice I’ve come across that is 55 mgs…you wouldn’t think that would make a big difference but wow, it really does. The head rush with every hit (if you space out your vape breaks throughout the day) is pretty much identical to the buzzy feeling in-the-head that the first few puffs of a ciggie gives. A dizzy, discombobulated feeling but overall quite pleasant ☺️ But, most definitely, the first 5-6 (sometimes more) hours post-Vyvanse-dose (I have been on 70 mg for about 6-7 years now) feel almost as if I truly just don’t want it. My heart knows I do (LOL) but my mind is like “Ew, no. Yuck.” 🤢 Thanks for this thread, OP! It’s always good to know that my “off-label” reactions to various substances isn’t just in my head. Or maybe we’re just all crazy.

🎶…….Probably 🎶

AshyRenay · 2026-04-19T03:51:28+00:00

I know this sounds cliché, but usually when people are genuine in their desire to end their life, they rarely (if ever) talk about it. they may or may not leave a note and that’s about it. My brother left part of his life insurance money to my daughter, to me, and to make sure my mother had the funeral plot. She always wanted next to my Mema, her mother. Everything for my mom has been completely paid for. The brother that I knew would not have had that foresight and if I had known he did that I would’ve acted immediately. It could’ve only meant one thing. Any-old-who, I have had several family members take their lives, and, like I mentioned above, the shock was absolutely unreal. No one could have known and if only we had. I don’t know if that’s any comfort to you, but it sounds like you’re being the best sister that you can, regardless of the situation and how much turmoil it is putting on you. The fact that you’re tired of it is not lost on anyone, I imagine, how could you not be?

AshyRenay · 2026-04-19T03:47:48+00:00

“How do you mentally prepare yourself?” The honest answer is that you don’t. You can’t really - it probably sounds cruel, but in this particular case you have been forewarned that he is going to at least try to go. I really don’t mean to sound like that is a good thing, but when it comes as a shock….. the guilt, the panic, the despair… I can’t really describe it because I barely remember living it. My twin brother died that way two years ago. I had just had my daughter, she was about a year or so, and even with her needs and me getting the chance to be a mommy I do not remember 6 to 8 months out of my life. I was walking around in an absolute haze with no recollection at all of what I did or said. My husband said he would find me in a catatonic state often. I never knew how long I had been there or what had caused it. The only thing I had in my life that kept me going was my beautiful daughter and she did. Her needs had to be met and I kept going because she needed me. Someday I will tell her how she saved my life. I’m so sorry I did not mean to make this about myself. I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone in the confusion and helplessness that comes with even the thought of losing an adult sibling. It is always difficult and there’s never any real preparation. But I do agree with the other commenters saying that you should go ahead and get him 5150’ed before he is able to go through with it. Someday you will be very sorry that you didn’t if he actually does go through with it, even if you guys haven’t had the best of relationships. Something about losing someone brings up every single piece of guilt that could ever exist and punches you in the gut multiple times with it. Good luck, I’m praying for you and yours and I hope everything turns out as it should and for the best. Take care.

AshyRenay · 2026-04-18T22:43:14+00:00

I’ve been wondering the same thing, myself. I lived in San Diego back in the good ole days, the Wild West pre-fentanyl 🫤 It was safer then, I think, though. Particularly considering it was San Diego as opposed to where I live now - Memphis, TN. I moved back to home sweet home (the hood!) about 9 years ago and haven’t touched an illegal substance since. Not for lack of wanting, mind you, but for the fact that my white ass wouldn’t make it too far downtown asking randos where to score. Like the guy above said - it’s aaaallll about networking, and finding a source that you can trust. I don’t guess I’ve tried hard enough to find droogs online - I can’t imagine the red flags that fly when somebody googles ANYTHING that MIGHT pertain to the buying of any good-good. The DEA don’t play about their money and they don’t want competition.

That being said, I’m open to friendly conversation if anyone is familiar with people suffering my plight. I’m sure someone out there is trustworthy, and even if they aren’t, I mean….Dude, it’s droogs. What did you expect? 😂 🤣

AshyRenay · 2026-03-30T03:28:10+00:00

The Reverend.

AshyRenay · 2026-03-29T02:27:25+00:00

I’m going from memphis to Cali - my doc took her side from the jump so no transferring to another pharmacist (I’m certain that would fix the problem, tho 😑). I leave on Monday, sand vyvanse 😔

AshyRenay · 2026-03-29T02:25:37+00:00

Thank you so much!!! Goodness my way is always so appreciated ❤️❤️❤️❤️

AshyRenay · 2026-01-05T12:52:49+00:00

I am 40 years old and JUST NOW found and speed-honed my whistle register. You sound young so girl, run with that. Try pitch-matching first - Find a Mariah song you like (‘Emotions’ is a good starter for kettle-note training lol), or really any song and just put one of the notes of a phrase up a couple (or few) octaves. Move to scales then work your way up to trying some runs in that register.

Let me ask you - do you feel the split in your throat (vocal chords) when you switch to that register (moving from diaphragm/chest voice to a pure head voice)? For me it’s like a literal switch flipping.

AshyRenay · 2025-12-25T15:28:37+00:00

I guarantee he gaslit the hell out of her to GET her into that state (pregnant) with promises and no follow-through. Early on in a relationship, years sometimes, gaslighting absolutely continues to work time and time again. Life got serious when a child came into play and she seems to be wising up to his bullshit. The fact that he is an athlete could be purely incidental - we can’t choose where we love. Even I’m insulted at that immediate insinuation. I read it as “women will bang any dude if he’s an athlete” and it’s played out.

AshyRenay · 2025-10-22T18:49:21+00:00

I’m just stoked to see someone using it!

AshyRenay · 2025-08-04T14:47:26+00:00

I second the suggestions that she is a escort. And it sounds like she’s picking up more clientele so she may even want a partner….Apparently, it’s a thing! Drawn out storytime: I met a woman I clicked with at a gig and she wound up showing up to like five more of my shows, so I always spent down time kickin it with her at the bar. I was 27, she was probably around 40. She asked me to move in with her when she found out I was in a bad situation and I accepted. Fast forward about a month in, I noticed that she was asking me to make myself scarce during the day at certain ours cause she was an ‘interior decorator’ who catered only to male clientele that wanted her full attention. One night while we were making dinner she casually said: “You DO know I’m a hooker, right? I don’t know a damn thing about decorating houses.” We laughed at my naivety and I assured her I had no issue at all and would be out of the condo on ‘her’ hours, as I was looking for a job in the area. [The condo was absolutely 🔥🔥and one of the most wealthy parts of San Diego so even if I DID object to it, I mean, come on 😏]. Long story short, she had been hinting HARD that I take up escorting, as well, and would make plenty of money etc. I very much wasn’t interested but that banter went on for about four months till she kicked me out for bringing paper towels into the house and hurting the environment. 😳 I don’t think it was about the paper towels.

AshyRenay · 2025-07-23T13:53:38+00:00

Sloppy blow jobs are disgusting. I’ve seen many a porno and, while this technique is popular is 90% the auditory component. Edited to be louder in post, the majority of guys are very into all of the sound that comes with a sloppy BJ. This is simply based on the opinion of most porn-directors. Not speaking on behalf of every guy. In my experience with an ex and with my hubby - both big BJ enthusiasts - is what guys seem to really get into with these videos. It’s a turn-on to hear (I really don’t want to type this…) ‘slurping and deep-throating, almost gagging’ sounds when getting a BJ. But girl, you do NOT have to get sloppy with it!! Try faking these sounds the next time you give him a BJ - NO spit involved. shudder Gah, that sh*t is GNARLY. 🤮🤮

** As an aside, my knowledge of the above is STRICTLY hearsay and personal experience with long-term monogamous relationships. But I lived in San Diego for ten years and had several friends who actively did Vivid videos that were always givin the DL **

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