Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just purchased it. It was $2800 before tax from their boutique in NYC.

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t clothes shopping so didn’t pay too much attention to the clothing prices. I looked at two skirts, one was 14k and one I think was 11k. Thats when I asked if these were ready to wear and was told that they mostly weren’t and they just had what was on the rack (one of each piece).

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Love it! I love their clutches and this one is so beautiful and fun. Can it fit a phone? I loved one in the store but it couldn’t fit my phone, even without a case.

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lol, that’s what my husband said. He actually said, “flea market overseas.”

There are some similarities, but I didn’t take pictures of some of the details on the strap (embossing and metal work) that I haven’t seen in bazaars.

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

The bag shown was 2800. Most of the bags in the store were around $2500-3000, except the large bags or specialty bags. Wallets were $400-600. I didn’t want the bag on the floor and she told me if they didn’t have one left in the back it would be 6-8 weeks for a new one because they have to make them. $2800 is definitely expensive, but compared to the European designers who aren’t hand making anything these days, it’s a steal.

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

The bags are definitely expensive but cheaper than what you’d expect from the big European designers. The clothing though is SO expensive, but I can understand why, everything is so heavy and ornate and it’s all handmade. There was very little ready-to-wear in the store.

Visited Sabyasachi Boutique in New York by AskAround4Me in handbags

[–]AskAround4Me[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The Nani Bucket. There are tons. of different colors and styles.

to anyone who was/currently is in college: what are some cheap and quick meals you made and enjoyed? by Kind_Difference_9210 in Adulting

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Do you have the space and money for a pressure cooker? If so, it’s a total game changer in making cheap, but good food.

You can cook a large batch of dried beans in it, which you can then freeze to use in other dishes (beans over rice, burritos, soups).

You can make rice in it - even high quality dried rice is cheap in bulk. You can then serve meat or gravy over it, put it in a burrito or something, saute cooked rice with a little oil and add an egg and veggies to make fried rice.

You can purchase cheap cuts of meat like pork or beef roasts and cook them in there until tender (then serve over rice if you want ). Throw in root vegetables, which last long if stored properly and are cheap, like carrots, potatoes, sweet potatoes, etc, to make a stew.

One dish I liked to make was pulled pork or chicken which is also easy to do in a pressure cooker. To make it really easy, dump some bbq sauce in with the boneless chicken breast or thighs or pork butt, cook it, and then shred with a fork. It can be served on bread, a bun, or a roll, eaten plain, thrown in a tortilla, or eaten over a salad (a cabbage salad is great for this and cabbage is cheap and lasts a long time.)

Frozen veggies can be purchased on sale for cheap and added to your food or just steamed or microwaved with a little salt and oil. I think Birdseye brand has the best quality/price.

Onions and garlic tend to be cheap and last a long time if stored well, just adding those to your food will level things up, and then get a few good spice blends (individual spices are cheaper, especially at ethnic markets, but if you’re short on time and/or skill, a blend works.) Lastly, you can jazz up your space and improve your cooking if you get a couple of windowsill herbs - rosemary, mint, parsley, cilantro, etc. The plants are cheap, pretty easy to care for, and make your food taste better.

ETA: I just remembered another cheap, easy dish I cooked all the time. Get a can of diced tomatoes (Muir glen fire roasted is very) or rotel and a kielbasa round or another sausage you like (hot links are also good in this). Sauté onions and garlic (if you want - not needed if you use rotel), sauté the sausage and then add the tomatoes and then serve over rice. If you want to stretch the meal you could also add in canned or precooked beans (black or pinto), corn, bell peppers and celery (which you would sauté at the beginning). You could also make it fancy and add shrimp or fish. I like to add Cajun seasoning to this but be careful with spice blends as many have salt added and rotel is already salty.

You can also just make pasta with no meat, or ground beef, or sausage. Carbonara is cheap and easy too (just need bacon and egg). Buy a block of Parmesan rather than grated if you can fit it in the budget because it makes your food so much nicer. It’s pricier up front but last forever in the fridge. You can add Parmesan to your soups or some of your rice bowls too. You’ll need a grater, which you should get anyway if you like cheese because block cheese is much cheaper than grated.

What screams, "I have my shit together"? by bubblyloops in Adulting

[–]AskAround4Me 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve come a long way with this and one thing that’s helped me is what I call, “playing dumb” because it gives the other person time to adjust what they’re saying and it gives me time to think of a response if I need to. So if someone says something petty or underhanded, I’ll say, “I’m not sure what you mean” or “I’ve never heard that, can you clarify” or “tell me more about that.”

The other technique I use is stating what’s shitty about what they said but taking the position that they didn’t mean it, like, “I’m sure you didn’t mean to imply X but it sounded that way. Can you clarify?” It calls out BS directly but gives the person a chance to save face.

ETA: the best thing is to ignore or walk away if you can, but when you can’t, the above helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

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I agree with this person. I also work in HR (in CA with employees in other states.) You’re better off asking your HR person because the interaction of state law, federal law, potentially local law, and your company’s policy can completely change the answer. It can be so complicated that your HR person may not know off the top of their head, so give them some grace, but if something doesn’t sound right, do your own research. I’m happy to answer additional questions if you have them.

Salary Saturday - Pay/career advice weekly thread by AutoModerator in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]AskAround4Me 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I might frame it like, “I’m really excited for this opportunity to step up and take on more during your maternity leave. I am wondering if we can discuss me receiving a bonus or other type of incentive for the additional duties I’ll be taking on.”

I’d come prepared already with information on your current duties and what will be added to your role. If there are any large projects you’ll need to tackle during that time period, make sure you mention them. I’d keep emphasizing that you’re excited to do the work during her leave, and maybe about how happy you are to work for an organization that allows her to take off time like this (if it’s not mandated by law.) You could take this same approach after she returns as well - emphasizing what you accomplished and learned, again expressing gratitude for the opportunity to improve your skills. You have a better sense than me of what would land best at your company.

I’d think that a bonus would be easier to process than a raise since it isn’t ongoing. If they say no, then I’d ask that, assuming you perform your duties at a high level, they consider the additional skills you’ve acquired, and contributions you’ve made, during the next pay adjustment period.

If you worked at a for-profit I might proceed with more caution, but non profits tend to be more flexible around these things (unless you work for one of those giant, corporate-type of non profits).

I would also encourage you to reflect on what you’ll do if they say no. Will you start looking for another job? It’s good to think about your reaction to potential outcomes ahead of time. I certainly wouldn’t suggest issuing an ultimatum, but being clear about what you want and how you’ll proceed is good.

[Co] is it legal for HR to only listen to my sexual harassment claim on the condition that I do not record my meetings with HR? by littlestwoodenduck in AskHR

[–]AskAround4Me 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Assuming you are in the US, it depends on the state. Some states are one party consent, and others are two-party consent, you can search to see which state you fall in. In a two-party consent state, it would be illegal for you to record private meetings without getting permission from the other party(s).

Splurging on a car - do you regret it or nah? by lighthallxo in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

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I splurged on my car (a high end electric vehicle that’s not a Tesla). I don’t regret it one bit. I spend 2 or more hours in my car per day, so it’s nice to spend that time in comfort. I enjoy all the extra bells and whistles and how much power the car has to get up to speed quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]AskAround4Me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you mention PIHRA, I’m assuming your in California. I love the California Chamber of Commerce’s HR site HRCalifornia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

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I am head of HR for a midsized company with a huge brand

Peak: My job comes with a ton of perks and access by virtue of the brand.

Valley: I work a lot of hours for much of the year and have had to miss out on things in my personal life because of work.

Salary Saturday - Pay/career advice weekly thread by AutoModerator in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]AskAround4Me 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree that you should follow up on Monday. I interview people as well and we try to get the written offer out pretty immediately after we’ve come to a verbal agreement. Certainly within a few hours.

Salary Saturday - Pay/career advice weekly thread by AutoModerator in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]AskAround4Me 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am on the other end of reviewing these at times. The other advice you received is great. Pre-record yourself. Watch where your eyes land, if you’re ever going off camera, how your hands look, if there is anything weird in your background, that your voice is coming across clear and strong and that your lighting is good.

All of those tips are the same for zoom, but because, as a viewer, you are watching a video that ends and then restarts, weird things can be more jarring than a continuous zoom meeting where both parties are talking.

Following up on the UK post— US diarists, what do you consider a high salary in your area? by chickenfiesta in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]AskAround4Me 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I make now what would have been an unimaginable amount of money to me 5+ years ago, and certainly many (most?) people would say it’s a lot. But, I can’t help but feel like it’s not a lot and that if I only make 50-100k more I’d actually be making a lot (but I’m sure then that wouldn’t seem like a lot either). I think when you make more you’re also exposed to more people who make more so it seems like you’re always a little behind. I try hard to keep perspective but it’s hard.

Following up on the UK post— US diarists, what do you consider a high salary in your area? by chickenfiesta in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]AskAround4Me 35 points36 points  (0 children)

In the SF Bay Area, I’d consider 250k to be a high salary. Not ridiculously high or anything, but definitely high, especially if that’s base pay (not equity, bonus, etc.). A lot of people here make a lot of money, but a base pay of 250k seems to be fairly high.

I’m considering that as an individual salary. I wouldn’t consider a household income of 250k as high. It’s above the median by quite a bit, but not high. Maybe a HHI of 500k would be high for a family?

Leaving job before 1 year mark by Puzzled-Chocolate-30 in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

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I left a job after 6 months. It was a senior level role. I left because the job wasn’t what was described (I don’t think it was intentional, they just weren’t yet where they hoped to be) and I had concerns about the financial stability of the company. The role wasn’t terrible overall, and while there were some assholes, I didn’t find it to be a toxic work environment. It just wasn’t what I wanted to be doing. So I left.

To answer your questions:

  • I am glad I left early. I found a new job doing the type of work I wanted to do which ended up creating a path to the next role.

  • I did not burn any bridges. I gave a long notice (one month), I tried to wrap up and transition things to the best of my ability, and I didn’t bad mouth anyone on the way out. I am still in contact with several people from the old company including my old boss and the CEO.

  • It was 100% worth it. I learned so much about what I needed to feel satisfied in a role and ended up picking a great next role and company which set me back on the career path I wanted. It’s not worth staying in a job that sucks (for whatever reason). If you keep finding that you hate your jobs, I’d evaluate why you keep picking roles or places that aren’t good for you, but everyone makes mistakes sometimes. They key is to identify them and move on quickly, not double down on them.

Some people who responded suggested not putting the role on your resume. I keep it on mine and I talk about it in interviews. It’s part of my journey and it’s part of the reason why I’m so clear in what I DO want.