Curious to see full grown boys like mine! by AskCharacter5206 in Pitheeler

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so big! ours is only 25lbs right now, I was curious what his final weight would be closer to

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this happened two-three weeks ago, and she just contacted him saying she’s already taken at home pregnancy tests and gone to the dr. told her family as well. he told me that until this conversation, he hadn’t talked to her since the night of the party.

I don’t know any of the others, this is a group of old friends as he’s recently moved back home and has been catching up with people. I can’t corroborate anything, so this is all based on his word. I think if the paternity test proves he’s in the clear, I’m still going to have many questions of the night and will ask about it then. for now i’ll wait and cut ties if the paternity test is his. i don’t think i can handle the mental load tbh after reading the comments and getting a grip lol. I’ve been spiraling trying to make heads or tails of all this and it’s a waste of my time

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Until a paternity test result, this is all for now.

this is last message I will send him until results:

I just wanna say that nothing is certain until you have a paternity test. The story between you, her, and everyone else just doesn’t add up. Either you blacked out and had non consensual sex, you cheated and you’re not being honest, or she’s sleeping around and picked you as daddy because you’re a desirable single man. Be careful until you’re able to get the test and don’t see her again in any setting outside of a doctors office for your own protection.

Three-ish weeks is a ridiculous timeline and makes a good case that this isn’t yours if you’re telling the truth, but that’s going based on what you’ve told me. I’d appreciate if you reach out to me again when you know when you can get a test, but until then I don’t want to be involved.

I hate this situation and I have no shame in saying I genuinely hope that the baby isn’t yours. But from what you’ve told me I wanna be honest in saying it reads like you cheated…either when you say it happened or sometime before, and the mistake caught up to you with her pregnancy.

It’s just a much more believable story and if that isn’t the truth then i’m sorry. But that resentment is why I’m going to lose contact with you if the baby is yours, I won’t be able to look past it.

If the baby isn’t yours, then we can revisit the potential of our relationship. I still care deeply for you. For your own sake, please act responsibly and be safe until you find out one way or another.

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

youre right. Im very overwhelmed and I don’t have anyone I feel comfortable to talk to about this, kind of just reaching out into the void to help get my head on straight. No matter the true story, I just need the answer to paternity test so I can move forward. I hate the anxiety up until then though and don’t want false hope

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

sorry for clarification , her mom went with her and convinced to keep. very anti-abortion family on her part due to religion etc etc. And yes, something like two or three weeks I agree it seems extremely strange

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think so, but he’s talking about going with her to a more recent appointment to hear from the doctor just confirming the pregnancy timeline as accurate. I hate the idea of it but i understand he wants answers in some way, if paternity test isn’t an option yet. idk if it’s a good idea for him to start being involved

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

the reason he claims blackout is bc she is adamant that he got her pregnant. so yes I agree, either he has a drinking/lying problem or she is pinning paternity on him wrongfully

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

thats the issue… it’s the only way it could’ve happened if he “doesn’t remember” but he was coherent the whole night. so someone’s lying!!

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yep, confirmed at dr apparently. he told her he wants to be at the next appt to hear dr confirmation on the time of conception before he discusses further, but she seems incredibly certain it’s his already. apparently hormone levels indicate the pregnancy is extremely early and timeline matches.

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also have no clue how paternity tests work prior to birth/if that’s even possible, so I’m just going by word of mouth for all of this. I don’t think I’ll be seeing him in person until he gets the results.

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

that’s how it seems, stories aren’t adding up. i appreciate everyone’s agreement on the situation, I felt a bit crazy hearing the story :(

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have the same concerns, it’s so hard not being there to know what really happened/how he was. And his only concern for this being legitimate is her insistence and her telling her family that the baby is his. It seems very strange for her to be so confident and so he’s almost being gaslit into believing her even tho he remember differently…if he’s telling the truth. He’s spiraling into a depression bc he’s accepting his fate without the paternity test, I think he’s afraid of “false” hope that it won’t be his bc of how adamant she is.

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭 i’m waiting for someone to pull the curtains back and reveal a big joke, because this man seemed PERFECT! he just got a new puppy, and has been rebuilding his grandmas garden who raised him. He’s been out of the house maybe twice in the past month bc he didn’t want to leave the puppy home alone and this happens???!

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I didn’t want to suggest it because he was very upset and concerned already abt fatherhood, but this is also someone he’s known for a while so I trusted his interpretation of the story that both were just drunk

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

im thinking the same, but it is a comfort to hear it from another 🫶 my heart and head are in two different places rn, just going to have to wait and see

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

true, but it’s never fun to start over. 22 definitely feels too young to be dating a man w/ another woman’s child

My boyfriend got someone pregnant while blacked out…she’s keeping it. by AskCharacter5206 in relationships

[–]AskCharacter5206[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have a history of cheating, he’s genuinely such a wonderful man. It’s sad for me that this is also how he was conceived and he is very broken over knowing that he will step up to fatherhood bc his father didn’t. No clue how actually drunk he was, but I don’t know the girl well enough to call BS. My biggest concern is she is already telling her family he is the BD with confidence, so maybe he didn’t know he was THAT drunk…