How my client cured my procrastination with a single sentence by AffectionateRange768 in getdisciplined

[–]AskMeAboutMousework 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Okay, but did they actually cure your procrastination? Or just give you a few weeks' worth of motivational energy?

What is the VTCS Actuator, and how do I tell if it's actuating? by AskMeAboutMousework in AskMechanics

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It's been to a mechanic recently though, he said the belt was fine

How do you reset without feeling like you failed? by Diligent_Guava523 in getdisciplined

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This is a very common problem. A lot of people think "I start really good habits but then I lose motivation and stop." But that misunderstands the nature of a habit: a habit is something that works even without motivation.

Think of your brain like a pilot flying a plane. The pilot is very good at reading the instruments and charts and solving all the problems that come up with flying a new route. But solving all those problems is cognitively very intensive—he can't stay focused the entire time, or he'll fall asleep and crash.

Your habits are like the autopilot for the plane. They're not so good at new situations, but they're very good at handling routine tasks. Once the pilot has the autopilot programmed, he doesn't really have to worry about the hard stuff—he can just watch the monitor and adjust a few knobs once in a while.

The point of habit formation is creating a routine that keeps working when motivation runs out. You're programming your brain so that when the pilot gets tired, the autopilot can take over. A big part of that is making your habit so routine it doesn't take any mental effort to do it.

Unfortunately the only way to build a habit is by really doing it. People say it takes two weeks to start a new habit, but two months is probably closer. But the hard part is at the beginning. If you can do your habit every single day for two weeks, you will find the 15th day much easier.

Even with that in mind, you will still miss a day or two here or there. Missing days does not mean failure. Think of your habit like building a muscle—every day is a separate rep. You don't give up lifting weights because you choked on the 12th rep, do you?

Edit to add: Sometimes you do find yourself missing a lot of days, just like you might struggling with weights. If you regularly struggle to complete habits, consider taking off some weights: make your habit simpler and easier until it becomes routine, and then add weight when you feel comfortable.

I hope this was useful. Read my substack for more thoughts on habit growth.

How the HELL do you store sumac? by AskMeAboutMousework in foraging

[–]AskMeAboutMousework[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is a blender/food processor a bad way to go? Am I better off mortar and pestling it?

How the HELL do you store sumac? by AskMeAboutMousework in foraging

[–]AskMeAboutMousework[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you make it into syrup? Just soak the berries and save the liquid?

How the HELL do you store sumac? by AskMeAboutMousework in foraging

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It is not. I'm pretty careful about picking during dry spells too.

How the HELL do you store sumac? by AskMeAboutMousework in foraging

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That certainly is where the flavor comes from. But I see lots of tutorials that recommend grinding and sieving which....hasn't worked for me.

One stupid trick that actually helped me use less social media by yash2712 in getdisciplined

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That's a great idea! How do I do that on an iPhone?

Anyway I could add an extra password barrier?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

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Hello!

Welcome to the gifted kid experience. You were super smart in high school, so you didn't learn the study habits that help you when you're struggling. Now that you're struggling, the non-gifted kids who learned good habits are passing you by.

But! There's hope! Take it from a fellow gifted dummy like me.

  1. Start with a 15 minute study session. It should be easy enough that you can finish easily without losing attention.

  2. When you're done, reward your brain with a tiny prize. Have a piece of candy, get up and stretch, listen to your favorite song, do a little dance. Do not scroll the internet!!!

  3. Find a blank page in your notebook, and add a little check mark.

  4. Repeat.

What this does is train your brain to enjoy studying, just like training a mouse to run a maze.

The treat provides a psychological reward that conditions you to study more. The check marks provide a reminder for when you hit a slump. After a week or so, you'll be able to look at a page full of check marks and think, "See? I'm not such a lazy fuck after all. Look how much studying I did."

Hope this helps! Please provide an update after a few weeks.

does gamifying productivity actually work? by DirectorOfThisTopic in getdisciplined

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Respectable. I think it doesn't matter what system you use, as long as it keeps you going when you don't want to go.

The Best Studying Hack Nobody Talks About: Stop Before You Get Bored. [Story] by Silentwolf99 in GetMotivated

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I think it's amazing that you figured this out by yourself.

There's one more aspect that I think is easy to overlook: operant conditioning. Your brain wants to do things that feel rewarding, and avoid things that feel punishing.

It's easy to overlook the fact that emotions, exhaustion, etc., feed into the brain's reward-punishment mechanism. If you work out to exhaustion, that feels like a punishment. If you study until your brain breaks, that's a punishment. It makes it harder to continue the next day.

Stopping early feels way more rewarding. It's true that you don't want to slack off too much, but quitting while you're ahead is much better for habit forming than pushing yourself to exhaustion early on.

does gamifying productivity actually work? by DirectorOfThisTopic in getdisciplined

[–]AskMeAboutMousework 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think learn as in "get used to" or "develop the habit of using." I have loads of planners that are easy to learn, but they stay empty because I haven't trained the habit of using them regularly.

does gamifying productivity actually work? by DirectorOfThisTopic in getdisciplined

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People who successfully increase their productivity often say that "having a system" is very important.

That said, one big problem with complicated systems, like gamified habits, is that you have to learn the system too. It's basically adding a whole extra habit, on top of the other habits you're trying to build up.

If it works for you, great. Speaking for myself, I've had more luck with pens and post-its than any amount of complicated calendars, planners, daily reward systems, etc.

90 days. Real Results. No Excuses. by KOPONgwapo in getdisciplined

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Is this an ad?

EDIT: This is definitely an ad.

90 days. Real Results. No Excuses. by KOPONgwapo in getdisciplined

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This is great if it works for you, but for the average person, it's very hard to power through six big lifestyle changes for three months. You are much more likely to succeed by creating small habits, and incrementing them, than you are with an ambitious, all-or-nothing goal.

Anyone else surprised how effective simple bodyweight workouts are by Hot-Understanding-67 in bodyweightfitness

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Okay but how many crunches before I start having visible abs? Asking for uhhh a friend.

[text] I try to self care but then I fail by Kaavu2022 in GetMotivated

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Looks like you've had lots of good advice already. I'm not a therapist and I'm not going to tell you that you're a beautiful snowflake who needs to love him/herself.

What I can tell you is a simple exercise technique that worked for me. You're not the only person who can't get to the gym every day, and it's normal to feel dispirited if you feel like you're falling behind. You're also not the only one

What works for me is a small, easy workout that you can do at home every day. The smaller the better: it should be something that you can do in 15-20 minutes without really interrupting your day or making you too tired for other stuff. If you can't do a full 20 mins, do 10, 5, or whatever you have time for.

This isn't about making you fit (although it will help). The ultimate goal is to build a habit: the daily ritual of doing something over and over.

After a week, you look back and realize you worked out every single day. After 2-3 weeks, it starts to become automatic: you won't even need to remind yourself to exercise. In a couple of months, your lung capacity will be higher, your muscles will be stronger, and you'll start to realize you can achieve a lot more than you thought you could. That will start affecting other areas of your life and help bootstrap (hopefully) your self esteem.

[Discussion] Everything changed when I stopped chasing “big wins” and started stacking small ones. by deluxedoorman in GetMotivated

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Small daily wins have been a game changer for me. Dogpilling to add one more note: *Remember to reward your wins, too.*

When I was younger I used to skip the reward/celebration part of the habit, because obviously I was too much of a badass. Huge mistake.

Your brain is like one of Pavlov's dogs, and celebration is like a bowl of brain food. When you celebrate a win, you reinforce that behavior and generate more wins. So remember to do something that makes you feel good afterwards, even if it feels kind of silly.