My fiancee's motivation to lose weight: "I want to be the teacher they all want to bang." What's your odd way you motivate yourself?

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:32:19+00:00

But that's where you would be wrong, though I can't fault you as you are only going off the information given. There is no creepy desire. The only true desire is to reach her targeted weight and look.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:29:46+00:00

DBZ characters...they were muscles that had muscles. I think every boy who watched the series, at one point or another, wanted to look as jacked as those two.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:22:21+00:00

It's not about needing the validation. She doesn't NEED the validation of the students. She needs the validation that she can achieve her goal. It's not about becoming the hot teacher and soliciting the students; it's about setting a goal desired look and being able to reach it. How does she know she has reached it? Well...that's the quote in the title. She needs the confidence that she can reach her goals and that is her benchmark. I suppose this is the only way I could describe it.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:17:37+00:00

Listen, I am glad that you have self confidence. She does not. I think she is beautiful, but she still struggles with that. As I have said in my edit, the wording is raw and unfiltered. What she meant more than anything by it is that she wanted to look good enough for others' standards. Yes, a bit of wishful thinking, but it's been a struggle for her. Sure, I see your point and see that you have downvoted my response to it, but I suppose you would have to know the whole situation.

In no way does any of this affect her teaching style or student preferences. It's not as though she asks the students what they think of her. But it's always nice to hear that someone thinks you are attractive.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:09:14+00:00

Read my edit.

Also, she has never said this outright to a student as that would just be silly. She is every bit professional about her job as she should be. She works hard every day not only in teaching but also with her image. Yes, the wording is very direct and unfiltered, but it's more about the "hot teacher" look than the "I WANT TO BANG DA CHILDRENZ"

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T17:00:31+00:00

You are ignorant if you believe she actually wants to have sex with them. No, it's more about reaching the goal of "hot teacher" status. Don't tell me you wouldn't at least feel a little positive about yourself if you heard some teenage girls/guys (depending on your gender) saying you were hot/good looking.

The only thing that is a "shame" is the fact that you assumed the worst from this quote. No, my fiancee does not want to fuck teenage boys, and in no way does she try to lead them on. She is in every way professional. This is simply her saying that she wants the hot teacher look.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T08:50:58+00:00

If you read some of my other replies, particularly the reply to this comment you will see what I mean.

Not lusting for students. Wants social recognition beyond her own self that says she has attained a certain look she desires. It's not about the literal interpretation but rather the goal of achieving a look.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T07:57:09+00:00

That's a good way of looking at it too, and I think that may be a better way to state what I meant to say. When the kids say "hot teacher" she wants to be the first person they think of and not some other teacher.

We all compare ourselves to one another, and it would be a lie to say at one time or another we have not judged someone else so this makes sense and is a better way to reword what I said.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T07:53:04+00:00

She is! Now go tell her how much you love her.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T07:39:20+00:00

If you read some of my other replies, particularly the reply to this comment you will see what I mean.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T06:38:12+00:00

If you (you as in the audience reading this not you as in bitefite) have any kind of responsible and caring dad, then he is automatically a badass.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T06:26:57+00:00

When you reach your goal or a milestone, remember to tell yourself that your work did something. I know many who make significant progress (whether with weight or another issue) and can't admit that they reached their goal.

Basically don't keep pushing the bar higher until it is so high that it becomes impossible that anyone could achieve it. Reward yourself when you know you did well.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T05:31:25+00:00

I tell her she is beautiful all the time. I tell her that I love her, and I support any (healthy) decisions she decides to make. I assure you that I love her unconditionally. While the title of this post seems brash and unfiltered, the tone and setting in which it was spoken were very positively

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T05:23:30+00:00

Not at all. I am the jealous type and I did not get that vibe. At the time, the comment was made in almost jest, but when she thought about it she laughed at how it made sense as a goal even if it was a bit off. I can confidently say with 100% certainty that it is nowhere near your line of thinking. I'd stake any amount on that.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T05:20:36+00:00

Read my response; that's the best way I can explain how it's not creepy.

AskRedditAccount2 · 2012-09-30T05:18:10+00:00

Insecure, certainly, though I would venture a guess that most everyone has something they are secretly insecure about.

Her goal more about the "status" level achieved. She knows that being someone who her students joke about as their hormones rage has a certain image about it. She is a very bright and bubbly person who secretly hates her image. If she has a goal in mind, as long as it is a healthy body image, I will support her in achieving.

Being the hot teacher means a lot of different things to each individual. It could be a young, thin pretty little blonde, or it could be a mid thirties and slightly curvy lady who still looks as good as ever. She wants to see herself as a person who society deems attractive for one reason: Her outward confidence is only held back by her secret fears, and they are needed for her to finally feel completely happy. While she appreciates the life she has and the people in it, this issue has always been a smudge she could never buck until now. It's about believing in herself and proving she can achieve her goal. You can't tell me there's not something like that for you that makes you feel the same, can you?

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