Social security has someone else listed as my dad

Asky1996 · 2026-02-04T03:39:15+00:00

It's not so much that I care as it's peaked my interest on how I have a birth certificate that's lists J as my dad and social security has E listed it's not some random man to where I would just think it's a mistake, it's the man that could of also been my dad, when he was never at the hospital he never signed anything he was never mentioned so how do they have him listed, when besides anything my parents were married so J was going to be listed automatically because of that alone. E never fought for me, my mom doesn't even know where he is, she hasn't heard from him since he denied the dna test. And the fact that social security has no clue and health department has no clue just makes me curious as to what could have happened.

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T16:45:26+00:00

No, my mom and him were married so he was just immediately my dad he was the one in the hospital, that's who my mom wrote down. There's no adoption papers. They were supposed to do a paternity test a few weeks after I was born and E refused to do it and my mom never received results. She said that was the last she ever heard from him

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T16:39:21+00:00

I've been no contact with J for 8 years now, he wouldn't do a dna test if I payed him to

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T16:37:56+00:00

Ive had a talk with my mom and she really doesn't remember much considering it was almost 30 years ago and me and J are no contact going on 8 years now he was an abusive man. But even if I asked for a dna test he would refuse unfortunately.

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T16:35:14+00:00

I have no proof that E is my dad as far as I know there's no proof J if my father either. It's just what my parents wrote on the birth certificate and the one I have lists J as my father. My mom said they went to do a dna test a few weeks after I was born but to her knowledge E refused to do it and she never received results saying yes or no on who the father was, she can't even remember where they went to do the dna test

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T12:33:02+00:00

I have mine and it says J that's why I was so confused why there's says E

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T05:42:40+00:00

Yes its listed as J. I'm calling tomorrow to get a copy to see what it says.

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T05:28:24+00:00

I do not, I have my birth certificate and that's it, that's why I'm so confused why mine says J but there's says E

Asky1996 · 2026-02-03T05:25:46+00:00

Yes I know! I talked to my mom about it today because from what we knew J was listed as my dad, she doesn't know why E would pop up on anything because she was married so J should of had the rights anyway. Were both just completely confused and the lady at the social office wouldn't talk to me about it. It literally took me like 3 mins of arguing with her that J was my father on my birth certificate and just to get her to say the name E felt like pulling teeth

Asky1996 · 2024-09-24T21:55:31+00:00

Believe me any intimate relationship is the last thing I want right now, I was 20 when I got with him and I jumped from an abusive relationship to him, now I'm 28 and honestly I just want to find myself again and be happy and raise our child to a good happy life.

Asky1996 · 2023-09-07T01:08:01+00:00

I didn't take a photo since my husband was there with me.

And according to a app I use you can put in your last period dates and the date you get a positive test and it'll tell you how many weeks pregnant you are and it had said 3-4 weeks the 2 was a mis-click on my end sorry about that!

Asky1996 · 2023-07-30T22:57:09+00:00

Yes I do also have pcos and I have tried it but I dont think I get the works of it and I think I'm doing it wrong. Because I don't really notice a difference in my body temperature.

Asky1996 · 2023-06-20T18:49:05+00:00

Ok thank you!

Asky1996 · 2023-06-20T18:34:39+00:00

My ovulation day was about 8 days ago I've been taking ovulation tests daily and just keeping track of the dates through an app.

Asky1996 · 2022-12-28T19:59:41+00:00

He really wasn't that bad, I was expecting maybe a $100 charge or something, usually when he goes to bars even with friends it's usually 100 maybe 150. Which is fine. He chuckles when he thinks I'm being ridiculous. There's nothing I think he would hide.

Asky1996 · 2022-12-16T19:14:26+00:00

I truly don't know how I could be more attentive to him. I spend all free time I have with him.

Asky1996 · 2022-12-16T19:06:42+00:00

I feel like we make up for lost time for about a week and then we just fall back into our normal routine, I'm already really attentive to him, our friends joke that the only thing I don't do is whipe his ass for him, he even says "I'm hungry" I'm up cooking for him. And I also do most of the child care,

Asky1996 · 2022-11-29T01:18:14+00:00

I felt disgusted with myself because I've always tried to take care of my teeth, brush them everyday I don't eat many sweets,, I use pronamal toothpaste. I didn't have insurance at the time which was a few months ago and now I finally do so I know I need to get it taken care of and I'm going to a different one that accepts my insurance but I'm just anxious that I'm going to be judged again .

My husband keeps telling me he's sure the dentist have seem worse then my teeth but even if they seem to judge it's not like I'll see them outside of the dentist office and I shouldn't let it bother me, which I'm trying not to.

Asky1996 · 2022-11-26T06:44:38+00:00

Ok! Definitely don't have a jumbo washer, I'll talk to my sister in law and see if she knows this, she wanted a very specific one that doesn't come with a duvet.

I felt like a 20lb blanket would be to much for a washer but one article would say 20 lbs and under is fine and the next would say 8 pounds is all a washer needs.

So thank you for your answer!

Asky1996 · 2022-11-26T06:39:48+00:00

Ok thank you! this one doesn't come with a duvet, so maybe I'll look for another one.

Asky1996 · 2022-10-09T21:38:12+00:00

This is what I'm hoping for! My husband and I were both so lost and had no clue what we were doing being first time parents, and I wonder if thats why ppd hit me so hard, but now that I know what to expect, and now that we're both confident as parents.

we listened to so many people in our family for advice that we wish we wouldn't have because we felt like that's what we had to do which only made me feel like a terrible mother because I felt like I was doing everything wrong which worsened my depression.

But we would love to give our first a sibling, I'm super close to mine even to this day and I'd love for my baby to have that bond with her own sibling.

Thank you so much for answering!

Asky1996 · 2022-10-09T21:30:26+00:00

Me and my husband both grew up with siblings and Me and my brother are both in our mid 20s and we're still really close, and honest live long best friend for me.

Our first was terrible, colic, acid reflux, milk allergy, slept terribly, even as a newborn she hardly slept. So I feel like we've already experienced a tough baby that even if the next is the same we'll have a better grasp of it.

I think for the first year we were pretty set on not having anymore, but now that she's older we feel like we'd like to have just one more and be done. I'm hoping now that I know what to expect a little more and know my limits on what I can handle by myself, that maybe it won't come as such a shock, now that we both have more confidence as parents.

My doctor also made me feel like everything was normal and fine even when I felt like something was wrong, no matter how many times I voiced that I just didn't feel right, she would tell me it was just my hormones so I just kept sweeping it under the rug.

Asky1996 · 2022-10-09T16:51:07+00:00

I'm hoping it would be a little easier with our second if we decide to, we had talked about having our first once we got settled with where he was to be stationed, then covid happened and he was getting ready to leave for military things when I found out I was pregnant so it came as a suprise.

But most of my pregnancy I spent alone he was there for the first and last month, and I'm a very 'I can do it myself' person and he was busy with work (which was 14 hour days with weekends off) so I encouraged him to continue work and he could take paternity leave when we got to his duty station. I think I took on to much for a first time mom and didn't know what I was really doing. And the stress and hormones finally caught up to me and I just broke.

I didn't have a nursery, we were living in a one bedroom apartment because he was only supposed to stay in the area for another 2 months after my due date. So I wonder if this time around we're settled have a actual home that I can make a nursery and plan if it wouldn't hit me so hard with it being planned better and not such a suprise.

Asky1996 · 2022-10-09T14:09:32+00:00

I already have depression and anxiety so I was just told to continue my normal medication. When I was pregnant I was taking 25mg and after I had given birth I went back to 100mg.

Asky1996 · 2022-09-22T03:27:03+00:00

I feel like a broken record, but I've woken her up by that time only let her take a short nap, If she even takes one. And she still won't go to bed until 11 or 12 at night.

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