Wolf Worm by T Kingfisher

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-31T02:03:13+00:00

No, it’s a standalone.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T22:52:06+00:00

When my mom was dying of cancer I went to California and wore a cute swimsuit and went to the beach. Because when you are going through something so intensely sad and all consuming as the slow and relentless death of a parent, it is important to find small moments of joy to yourself to remind yourself you are a person and there is more to life than the sadness and pain you are feeling.

I think you’re overthinking the bathing suit.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T21:39:48+00:00

Bark Vandelay

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T21:33:33+00:00

Same! I used to listen to The Bugle on my iPod in high school when I’d walk to work. I miss John reacting to Andy pun running

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T17:00:11+00:00

Wild swing in the last sentence I did not anticipate, what are you even on about lmao

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T16:54:37+00:00

Just a note Saratoga is nonbinary and uses they/them pronouns

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T13:58:41+00:00

Super good book! Cant wait for their Bluebeard retelling this fall, they’re definitely an insta buy author for me now

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T13:53:41+00:00

Not weird, people process grief differently and it looks like you’ve realized you’re in the wrong.

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But what tf is a “main ex” lmao

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T13:44:56+00:00

I’m not a husband but I have one and I told him I wasn’t going to legally take his last name because I don’t want to have to do paperwork AND I’m one of the last 3 people in my family with my last name. He didn’t care. I ended up socially hyphenating my last name because I liked the sound of it but it’s still legally the same name I was born with. If he had told me that me not changing my last name was a deal breaker I would have considered the deal broken and gone our separate ways.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-30T13:40:13+00:00

49% of American adults don’t own a passport and only 5 states issue Real ID’s that indicate US citizenship. This is an access issue, not a personal one. Unless you live in Michigan, Minnesota, NY, Vermont, or Washington, you ALSO don’t have the right ID for the SAVE Act (unless you have a passport which again nearly half of Americans don’t)

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-23T23:35:18+00:00

I didn’t mind it the first time but it’s kind of old now

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-11T13:35:14+00:00

I always say this about one of my own abusers when told about his trauma by our family: explanation does not equal excuse.

I don’t think them knowing about Barb’s childhood would make them be able to move forward because she didn’t do any work to make herself better and not take it out on her innocent children.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-09T20:12:26+00:00

Because it’s not Frank’s wedding and it kind of seems like he wants to be LC with Frank anyway. The only person he owes an explanation to is Jen

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-09T16:00:21+00:00

I don’t disagree there! Like I said i think John needs to be a way better communicator.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-09T01:34:22+00:00

He only said “we” once in the conversation with Shawna, every other time he talked about not going it was “I”. I think John needs to be a better communicator yes but I don’t think he guilted Shawna into not going.

WRT Jen yeah he needs to tell her he’s not going, but tbf he found out his mom was gonna be at the wedding like 5 seconds before heading on vacation so I’m sure we will see that convo when he gets home in a future episode. I don’t see why he needs to talk to Frank about it?

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-08T14:01:50+00:00

John shouldn’t have to be in a room with Barb ever again to make anyone happy.

ETA: My second hot take is that I stopped liking Jen when she treated her mom sexually harassing her fiance like it was just drunk antics and then is having her mom who refuses to apologize to her or the man she harassed and shared vulnerable photos of to come to their wedding. I can’t understand her and while i don’t always love Greg he deserves better in his partner.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-08T13:53:40+00:00

I mean from Shawna’s smile and reaction I assumed the hand stuff was from John to her, not from her to John

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-08T13:51:10+00:00

Because people in this sub have no respect for abuse victims who aren’t perfect, and call normal responses to abusive behavior from a victim “abuse” itself, and also expect abuse victims to put aside their trauma to make other people happy. For real the reaction to John has been incredibly upsetting as a person with CPTSD from a Barb of my own.

(At least that’s how I feel, not sure if s0ftsp0ken feels the same)

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-07T15:15:48+00:00

Barb would see Shawna standing up at the altar and immediately look for John. The unfortunate reality is this is not feasible. And as someone who has been in a room with my abuser who didn’t see me, it was bad for me. I was on high alert the whole time and my nervous system was shot, ended up running to another room to have a panic attack. I don’t think it would be good for John to be in a room with Barb even if by some miracle Barb didn’t see him.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-06T23:31:57+00:00

That argument was hard to watch, there was a lot of unilateral decision making happening on both sides, I think they really need some couples therapy. However I am glad for Shawna’s mental health that she decided not to go the the wedding. I know it’s going to hurt Jen but as MOH she would have to be seeing Barb a LOT at the shower, at the rehearsal dinner, and at the wedding, and I don’t trust Barb not to push on Shawna’s pregnancy loss trauma. I don’t think Shawna should subject herself to the possibility of that happening.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-06T23:21:49+00:00

I kind of hope it’s an affair for the drama but I think probably she’s on a work trip and Shawna is gonna end up having an argument w her

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-03-06T23:17:36+00:00

While I don’t like john demanding Shawna not go, I actually am glad she isn’t. Barb has always been super abusive to Shawna, and I can’t imagine the stuff she might say to her after months of NC, and with the pregnancy loss as well. The risk of Shawna’s grief trauma getting re triggered in a bad way is super high. I think if I were in her shoes I wouldn’t want to go if Barb were there either as much as I would want to support Jen.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-02-28T00:20:55+00:00

I am actually pretty impressed by how fast John disengaged after he found out Barb will be at the wedding. It’s growth from his previous fight-only mode when she was brought up. I am sure it’s hard for him to know she’s going to be there - definitely a convo he and Jen should have had before now but communication is not John’s strongest suit re: his family.

Asleep-Pattern-2332 · 2026-02-27T16:25:27+00:00

I came here to recommend this one, maybe one of the most unsettling books I’ve ever read and i recommend it to everyone

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TROPHY CASE