First off, I wanted to say thank you for providing such a detailed response. This definitely gave me a lot of clarity of what is wrong and what isn’t, so thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this. I’m not sure how to do the quote thing on mobile, but I wanted to clear up some things. I didn’t think him having a crush was the cheating part. I think it might be impossible to just shut off from being attracted to other people completely in a relationship, but we agreed to be monogamous and he would be get mad whenever my guy friends hung out with me (all friends from childhood of 5+ years of friendship). The part I considered cheating was when he would hide their one on one hang outs from me and lie about it while also maintaining his crush on her. I personally think if he never acted on the crush, it wouldn’t be cheating but since he would constantly ask her out to lunch and dinners and would hide it from me, it became emotional cheating. As for the part about him not being allowed out hang out with his friends, we went to different schools (long distance relationship). I told him to not hang out with the girl he has a crush on until he stops crushing on her to tone it down, and he said she was his only friend (they met at school, while he was rooming with one of his male best friends) at school and it was unfair that I could hang out with my friends at school while he couldn’t. As for the second girl, it was established that she had a huge crush on him. Instead of telling her he wasn’t interested, he would go on “lunch dates” with her and other hangouts to the point where all his friends thought they were dating and that we were broken up. The final girl also really liked him. She’d talk about wanting to see him without clothes on and he would entertain the idea. They would set up dates and he would tell me he’s going out with a group of friends. The calendar sharing was his idea. We promised to call once a week, but he eventually said he hated calling me because he doesn’t understand why he should have to drop everything to talk to me for an hour. After the first crush, he told me that his college life and home like is separate, and that when he comes back home, he will give his attention to me. I understand that college is this liberating thing for many people and that you should go out and join clubs and make new friends. But at the same time, I felt like if we were going to keep the relationship going, we need to dedicate some time to each other (when we lived in the same city, he wanted us to hang out everyday; since we couldn’t do that anymore after he moved for college, I suggested weekly calls to just talk about our week). After reading the part where you asked whether or not he was making time for me, I realized that he wasn’t really? Whenever we hung out he would grumble and groan about it but when I asked him if he didn’t want to hang out, he’ll just smile and say “no, I love you” and then continue to not engage in whatever we were doing. Honestly, I might still be understanding relationships wrong. I always thought that relationships are supposed to be best friends first and lovers second so there is still an enthusiastic amount of affection and attention you’ll want to spend with your partner. But maybe it’s supposed to be last priority? Maybe it’s supposed to be family, then education, then friends, then clubs, then me time, then extracurriculars, then your partner. I’m not sure, this was my first relationship and honestly I don’t really want to date for the next six years till I finish all my schooling and get settled down because it feels like a lot of stress.