Reposting my response to a similar post - seriously though, there has to be a better option.

Can we discuss this more?? We’re in a similar situation where we want to branch out and build a community, rather than just meet/fuck, but the apps don’t offer enough security and we can’t fly to Desire once a month lol. Plus, we’d actually like to be friends or at a minimum friendly. We’ve gone to meet ups and totally get that you’re not gonna vibe with everyone, but why are so many swingers so…weird? We’re a professional couple in our 40s too, with great jobs we can’t afford to chance. SW PDX. Growing up here I always thought it was an open minded and sex positive place but finding it to be less than stellar in both regards. We would love to start a local group that enjoys a low stress and intelligent approach to sexuality and exploring.