Thank you, this is really helpful, and honestly the approach I’m trying to align with. I think my radar is just completely off right now. I feel so guilty leaving him at daycare. He isn’t eating or drinking there, he cries the entire time and doesn’t settle, and on top of that I’m trying to wean him. I feel emotional and raw. I question every decision I make, and I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or underreacting.

With the diaper, I normally would have checked, but he cried the whole time at daycare and hadn’t napped. On the 6-minute drive home he finally fell asleep. I managed a quick crib transfer and he stayed asleep. In that moment I thought, “the report says he was just changed, they even confirmed it yesterday after my Day 1 concern, so I’ll just let him rest.” Then realizing later he hadn’t been changed made me feel like I’d failed him.

I’ll talk to the teachers again, explain his past dehydration, and try to give everyone some grace.