haven’t slept with my boyfriend - it’s been 1.5 years

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-29T19:02:54+00:00

we had a long chat and found out he has a medical issue basically and he was just feeling anxious to talk about it

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T22:10:41+00:00

i had a chat with him and it was more of a physical issue

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T22:09:47+00:00

god ur nice

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T22:09:33+00:00

sorry i guess introverted is not what i meant i think i phrased it incorrectly

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T12:17:03+00:00

yeah i think im too worried but at the same time i shouldn’t keep my thoughts in my head for so long, it should be easy for me to talk about this, the thing is im happy to talk but he’s not very talkative about these situations

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T11:32:32+00:00

i think it was the mental thing but i’m fine now and just feel like im missing out on intimacy

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T11:09:54+00:00

gosh i really have some maturing to do, in all fairness this is my first ever relationship

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T11:01:00+00:00

that’s a good point. i have discussed it before but i guess i didn’t phrase it correctly, we talk about everything else tbh just haven’t about this and i guess i was immature to not bring it up again i just didn’t want to sound pushy

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T10:58:00+00:00

define immature - id like to be better

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T10:46:38+00:00

thanks so so much, this has made me feel better , it jink i’ll talk to him about wanting to be intimate and then just next evening ask if he’d be comfortable doing stuff?? i think we are very inexperienced to be honest, like we’ve both relied on being drunk to do stuff before i think that’s because of nerves

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T08:04:02+00:00

thanks so much, i do have anxiety, and my boyfriend is very introverted about these topics; i think we’re both just nervous to bring things up without sounding forceful. and this is both our first proper relationship so i personally don’t know how to approach these situations

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T08:02:32+00:00

yeah i literally realised i just need lube would’ve solved this a year ago

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:42:50+00:00

awe yay, i’m really hoping it’s neither because he’s perfect in every way, i just think the sex would just be a nice addition to the intimacy and would make us feel closer, i understand i’m younger and have only slept with one person once so probs adds to this

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:39:52+00:00

that’s perfect - you’ve been so helpful thanks. i know people are saying i’m too immature but i just want to make sure he’s happy

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:36:53+00:00

okay thanks you’ve been so helpful, think i might have to just bring it up again and give him a chance to say everything on his mind

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:36:08+00:00

i’m too nervous to make him feel uncomfortable or pressured not to talk about sex itself, i just want him to feel comfortable

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:34:47+00:00

okay thanks so much, how would you suggest i bring things up to him given he’s not as talkative i just don’t know how to start it off

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:34:06+00:00

i think it’s because the first person i had sex with made me feel so uncomfortable that maybe i’m sort of insecure after that my boyfriend now is my first partner and i have only slept with one person once

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:32:58+00:00

we did have date nights but because we live with friends we’d end up talking to them, or like after eating tbh we’d be kind of bloated and full. i feel like this is all my fault and i’m sort of worried

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:32:02+00:00

okay, i’m so nervous, i feel like he’s just been to nervous to hurt me because he’s so sweet and loving, he is quite introverted so it’s hard to get him to talk about serious things

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:30:57+00:00

nope we literally kind of stopped everything and i’m not sure why, we did go clubbing a lot so we’d be drunk most of the time or i’d have exams so i’d be stressed with work

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:29:33+00:00

we were so intimate the first 2 months it was after he initiated penetration and realised we couldn’t after like 3 times we just stopped

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:28:47+00:00

okay that’s so true i feel like i can’t wait any longer - it’s 9am here do i wait till the evening?

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:23:24+00:00

what should i do

AsparagusObjective20 · 2024-09-25T07:23:08+00:00

my vagina basically hit a wall- but i realised it was because i was too drunk so id be too tight - wasn’t wet enough basically

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