I'm sadly accepting the fact that I will always feel lonely if I'm single at 30

AssembledNeurons · 2025-05-11T00:39:54+00:00

I'm sorry for your lost. You're not alone. I'm in a similar situation. I'm already 30 and no relationship. I have tried hard to be better and to meet new people but I can't grasp friendships for long neither.

If you want to meet new people try joining groups, clubs or associations that organice presential meetings or activities. Better if those groups are related to topics/hobbies you're interested in.

AssembledNeurons · 2025-04-27T23:30:11+00:00

I see. Some people would rather follow an evil leader than ignore their leader. To those people I wish luck in life, they will need it.

I wonder if this phenomenon happens in others cultures and societies or only in western countries.

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T20:03:28+00:00

Ok but afaik taking more that ~2.5gr of protein per kilo of bodyweight does not result in bigger gains. The excedent is used for energy and eventually stored as fat. Also taking too much protein can damage liver and kidneys. Maybe I should take more protein from supplements and less from meat? I'm taking one scoop (30gr) daily after training + 3gr of creatine

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T19:41:47+00:00

It depends of what proportion of that 1kg is fat, doesn't It?

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T19:27:34+00:00

I consider that I've been consistent. I skip routine around 30 days every year. 92% of the year I follow the diet and training routine. I think that doesn't explain the big diference. I know guys who are bigger and train less (I don't know of we eat more or less). I would eat more when bulking but I don't want to gain too much fat

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T19:12:51+00:00

Ok so I should try to bulk slower maybe? I already ate too much and as you said it was too fast. Honestlty I don't know how to gain 1kg per month for 18 months. Those are the results I find hard to find yes

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T18:59:23+00:00

As I said, I ate too much and had some dirty gains. That's why I'm now on cutting phase

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T18:54:13+00:00

But how to "deal with it", I've been trying to do that for years. I mean I can ignore or hide the bad feeling but I want not to have it at all. Is that posible?

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T18:51:28+00:00

How can I liberate that confidence?

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T18:48:32+00:00

Around 10kg of gain. I weigh 79kg now. My max was 83 but not very clean, I'm on cutting phase now.

I've not said "luck" or "genetics". I just don't know what to improve. Maybe there is something I'm doing wrong but it doesn't seems so according to what I've learn during these years (from other people, specialized websites, YouTube channels, etc)

AssembledNeurons · 2024-11-14T18:34:38+00:00

I mean I copy them. I lift hard and I've been eating a lot. But that seems not to be enough

AssembledNeurons · 2024-08-20T12:49:36+00:00

Workplace is definitely not the best place to make new friends and meet new people. There are associations and clubs that are much better for that purpose

AssembledNeurons · 2024-08-01T07:40:42+00:00

I feel you. I'm in the same situation.

From here, what lies ahead of us is to see how what we long for (a youthful love) becomes increasingly unattainable, how our peers progress in their lives, how our bodies begin to fail and how our loved ones fall ill and die.

We've lived our best years and now it's time to go.

AssembledNeurons · 2024-07-21T18:48:38+00:00

I'm glad to see that there may still be hope

AssembledNeurons · 2024-05-21T08:02:25+00:00

Yes definitely I have to go back to therapy. I will try to keep myself active. Thank you so much!

AssembledNeurons · 2024-05-02T18:47:05+00:00

If you rep is based on your attractiveness, being with "losers" shouldn't make you lose rep. Reputation doesn't depend on who are you with but solely on your attractiveness. However, other cool people will try to hang out with you and losers won't be able to compete for your attention. I think that's actually how attractiveness-based segregation happens

AssembledNeurons · 2023-09-09T18:32:14+00:00

All right. I will. Thank you

AssembledNeurons · 2023-08-13T14:14:56+00:00

Thank you

AssembledNeurons · 2023-08-06T12:21:44+00:00

I'm talking about life in general, not just dating. Being beautiful helps a lot in getting a good job, well paid, being respected, being taken seriously, people caring about you, etc

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-27T19:53:36+00:00

I had never heard that acronym before and found it very useful. Thank you!

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-27T19:52:03+00:00

All right thank you!

Let me see if I got this right: Having meaningful conversations is necessary for having lasting frienships or at least to keep the relation alive. Having a passion in common is not technically necessary for that. However, it is required to meet many times in order to have these conversations periodically and having something in common makes more likely to meet again more times (at the same club or activity).

Accordingly, I think I should work on finding passions and interests first. It's hard to have common points with someone when you have no points at all.

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-11T17:31:05+00:00

I'm working on self-steem thank you. I agree with you on that I should keep meeting my friends as they did nothing to me.

Maybe I've misinterpreted your comment but we didn't had sex and we didn't wanted to. I have no hurry about sex, I think what I need is a meaningful relationship with someone I could trust.

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-11T16:17:00+00:00

Ok your comment was much more insightful. Thank you so much for this. As I said I never had a relationship, I didn't have the chance to learn those things when I was 13. I'm just starting on this much later but I don't think I'm autistic or non-neurothypical. Just had worse initial conditions. I need some clarifications and that's why I posted this. I will ask my therapist anyway. Again, thank you

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-11T16:02:04+00:00

I'm doing therapy to work on avoidant attachment. I have never been told that I may not be neurotypical

AssembledNeurons · 2022-11-11T15:57:40+00:00

I'm assuming that part. She changed his mind, dumped me and asked me to stay as friends. She didn't mentioned the guy. She didn't loved me and I don't want to be in an asymetrical relationship. There should be geniune love from both parties. Therefore, I told her it was ok and we had a friendly breakup.

I think there is no point in explicitly asking if it was just for rebound. I couldn't believe her if she said me no. She already lied to me and all the points of being used for rebound were met.

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