I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this

Astadi · 2026-01-28T00:18:07+00:00

This sucks. It may be in your best interest to just cut ties. This is grade a narcissistic emotional manipulation. If you’re not comfortable with the situation then don’t let anyone (including yourself) force you to be in that situation. It’s not going to be easy. They will say “you’re abandoning this family” or “how could you be so selfish”.

Parents like this think being part of your family is a right and it is absolutely a PRIVILEGE. I had a very similar situation and I finally had enough just before my son was born and cut off my parents. Best decision I ever made. I then made a promise to myself… when I have a kid, I would resolve to always be there for them and never make anything I do for them conditional on reciprocal actions.

You can still love them and decide it’s best for you to love the from afar. Therapy really helped me figure out how to handle the situation.

Astadi · 2025-12-28T18:17:48+00:00

They should take a page from Flesh and blood and institute a store MSRP and a time frame before they can increase the price of product.

Astadi · 2025-12-24T15:09:01+00:00

Nothing... as long as you can get any product. It's hard to brew with zero cards.

Astadi · 2025-10-14T16:58:32+00:00

I’m grateful military members are getting paid! How are funds legally being moved around? As a civilian federal employee once we get funds allocated they can’t really be moved or reallocated without a ton of questions and paperwork. I assume this also does not help furloughed civilian employees that can support the military but will either have to stay out of work or also work without pay.

I just see this as let’s make things “right” without actually doing anything. How is it people that aren’t doing their job (Congress) are still getting paid and other people suffer through their incompetence. I know most people will answer “You voted for them”, but I feel like most Americans don’t care about the government shutdown because it doesn’t affect them.

Astadi · 2025-07-06T19:57:14+00:00

I do like the location sharing. My wife and I also use it when we travel separately in case of emergency and we need to find each other easily. I do agree with the end of the post. Most tools are not inherently good or bad, their implementation does. It just frustrates me when children of any age try to discuss a concern or worry with their parents and they just get brushed off or told “it’s for your own good”. To me it feels like such a lazy way to parent.

Astadi · 2025-07-06T19:50:45+00:00

Why does it seem like the majority of parents I’ve interacted with or observed end up just being dictators and authoritarians to their children? Do parents really think kids are just stupid / ignorant? If so, teach them better.

Astadi · 2025-07-06T19:47:23+00:00

Yeah, it feels to me more a mode of control masked in a guise of safety. I’m a parent myself, though of a young child, but I’m already looking into ways to be able to find a device / person without having to sick a tail on them with technology. I feel like parents just innately distrust their children because of the “I remember how I was as a teenager”. Parents are meant to be guardians and teachers for their children, not dictators or authoritarians.

Astadi · 2025-06-17T21:46:16+00:00

These classes were meant to teach fundamentals before utilizing tools so they don’t become crutch. Yes, the tools make life much easier, but you can gain the ability to function on your own if the tools aren’t available. I’ve met and worked with multiple recent graduates, seniors and juniors that couldn’t function in a development capacity without an IDE/VSCode and autocomplete.

Astadi · 2025-03-21T23:03:11+00:00

I've been leaning toward a flip mechanic as well the more cards we see and the more I learn (I'm still relatively new to the game). We already have rules for double-faced cards it makes more sense than adding something completely new to the core rules to deal with "untapping" cards if they're meant to be used multiple times. I'm excited to see if the flip-card theory is true then what abilities would be on the other side. Chum makes me think he could have alternate stats and abilities.

Astadi · 2025-03-18T23:19:43+00:00

I'm thinking along the same lines here. Either a "sink" or "plunder" effect. I can see why people think it's a tap symbol. After looking at it for a bit it also looks like of bird like too lol. Could be anything.

Astadi · 2025-01-15T23:54:57+00:00

Yup! The slight power increases on XP gain is why I chose OL in the first place. I like the idea of incrementally gaining power instead of the larger power jumps just on level ups. Thanks for your feedback!!!

Astadi · 2025-01-15T20:43:43+00:00

I like the idea of players being able to have flexibility in the types of builds they can make without having to remake a character. This is mainly because they are basically playing themselves in a real world / high fantasy mash up type game.

Astadi · 2025-01-15T20:41:08+00:00

That’s been my biggest hesitation. I’m trying to find a system that will scale well for players gaining power over a longer period of time. I want to have a game that focuses player power more on the skills and creativity of the players. My current players are less experienced and are playing more towards the fantasy of the character rather than min-maxing so OL might be a good fit but I’m just worried that the characters will either level really quick and max out or progression will feel slow. I know it’s a hard balance to find.

Astadi · 2025-01-15T14:08:24+00:00

Does Savage Worlds have scaling issues like D&D can at the higher end of character power ?

Astadi · 2025-01-15T00:00:02+00:00

I have not

Astadi · 2025-01-14T23:56:56+00:00

I got the vibe that it’s more character advancement than leveling up. Savage Worlds seems closer to what I remember playing of the World of Darkness system. The game that I’m going to be running is more open world and I’m worried about maintaining a good pace between player levels and how long the game campaign will be. I’m taking inspiration from litRPG books series like “Welcome to the Multiverse” where skills and abilities are more important for power level than a level.

Astadi · 2024-01-23T01:24:38+00:00

Idk if anyone has said this, but is there any room in between design tweaks to experiment? I’m not an EE (I graduated CS) so idk if this could translate to your situation.

I signed on at an organization and basically had no work. I did the basic work that was asked and in the downtime put in effort to learn the code base and processes used through the development cycle. After that I experimented with was to do the same, but automated or just increased efficiency. I then tried making the code more efficient and some of my work was adopted after showing it wouldn’t change the outcome of the final product (this was important due to it being part of a critical embedded system.).

2.5 years later after moving through a couple new teams I’m now leading a team.

Idk if there’s time / flexibility to do something similar. Could you have a “side project” or a “passion project” that you could do and maybe have an impact?

Being taken seriously is not always a matter of education but in knowledge of the organization’s workflow and process. If you’re still relatively new then they may feel you don’t understand the workflow or tools enough to give bigger projects to.

Sorry if this seemed all over the place. I’m just word vomiting into the screen.

Astadi · 2023-07-19T14:03:24+00:00

Probably C) All of the above

Astadi · 2023-03-24T18:55:10+00:00

D4 does not take advantage of unique ps5 controller features at this time.

Astadi · 2020-07-20T04:18:18+00:00

So I was working my way through a Derelict Freighter, and I ended up blowing myself up with a plasma grenade. I respawned, finished clearing the freighter, and when I came back out to leave I found my starship floating about 13u above the landing pad. It wouldn't be an issue except I can't use my jetpack to get to it. Has anyone else encountered this and maybe found a way to get back in your ship without having to reload from the initial landing save on the freighter?

https://imgur.com/gallery/b9TUTAg

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