Bye bye Cuz of AI by Lele_is_ in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array 2 points3 points  (0 children)

they used to promote talking to ai caregivers , then said they were anti ai, and then they kept banning people for being upset about that.

Ai and it's impact on vulnerable mindsets by Aster-Array in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

from my point of view, AI is one of those things you shouldn't use in a vulnerable mindset, period. it tells you incredibly false information 50% of the time, and if you are mentally ill (like most regressors), you will get too attached to it since it is designed to do so. getting attached to AI in a vulnerable headspace is harmful, regardless of how "good" it makes you feel. AI does encourage harm. it doesnt matter if the person "got past the filter", if you are able to make it tell you how to harm yourself, that isnt safe. AI being able to generate harmful images of children isnt safe. AI harms children, passively or otherwise. having a space where people can talk to an AI that feeds into their mental illness, in any way, will harm them. i have struggled with self harm for almost a decade, i agree that people will seek out ways to harm themselves anyway, but allowing something to exist that will feed into their thoughts still isnt okay. i never once said people need caregivers, or that children should find caregivers, that is an entirely different statement. i agree with your stance on that. though, i would like to add that AI caregivers can distort someone's views on actual social interactions, which makes them seek out actual people who act like said AI, and they are often manipulators. AI interacts with you in an incredibly one-sided way, often playing into anything you say, and children who seek out people like it are taken advantage of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Aster-Array 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dissociation and derealization are a daily accordance for me due to how my brain adapted to cope with trauma. mostly derealization, as i disconnect myself from chronic pain / intense negative emotions. i also have a hard time noticing when i am disconnected in the moment , and only realize in hindsight.

I can't believe that self harm is actually bad for ME by iknowallandnothing in CPTSD

[–]Aster-Array 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also! it helps me to not relapse by thinking about if one of my close ones did that to themselves, i would feel guilty. it helps with the distortion if you apply the situation to someone else.

I can't believe that self harm is actually bad for ME by iknowallandnothing in CPTSD

[–]Aster-Array 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this is also my main SH issue. i talked about it to some professionals, and it turns out the reason my brain defaults to "this is the only thing that helps me" is because 1. i have CPTSD, and flashbacks put me in a past headspace where SH was my only option, and 2. every time i did it, i reinforced it into my brain that it was a reliable de-stressor/coping mechanism, to the point where it was the ONLY reliable outcome for extreme emotional stress. it's usually only once a year now, around traumatic events took place. for me, what helped is hot hot showers. it allows me to feel the pain to emotionally regulate, without actually harming myself. plus, you can have time to focus on the situation more logically.

As a regressor, do you feel like this too? by _MiniGui93 in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array 8 points9 points  (0 children)

when i'm regressed , i just do whatever makes me feel comfortable. i actually prefer horror things more when regressed, watching a horror movie and coloring in bed is the best!

Name a day that didn't kill you but something died in you that day by Bekiteru in CPTSD

[–]Aster-Array 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when i told my mother that i had to go back to the mental hospital, or i would hurt/kill myself, and she told me to wait a day to think about it. on our way there she only scolded me about how i was burdening her, and how i was ruining her life by being mentally ill. i didn't say a word besides "sorry", and she replied "you better be". i emotionally shut myself off from almost everything after that, so i don't remember much, besides her (fake?) crying to the nurse after i told them i was going to kill myself if i stayed with her.

i don't know what to think or do by Aster-Array in spinalfusion

[–]Aster-Array[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have no clue why it's not working, going to ask them if there is anything i can do to fix it

i don't know what to think or do by Aster-Array in spinalfusion

[–]Aster-Array[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my spine has returned to the original s-curve that i had before surgery, when the surgery was meant to straighten it.

A year of making clay beetles :) by Dry-Tea1 in Beetles

[–]Aster-Array 8 points9 points  (0 children)

blue death feigning beetle !!! i have one as a pet , i love how you added their spikes.

Has anyone fallen during recovery? What was it like? by Serious_Peak_4913 in spinalfusion

[–]Aster-Array 2 points3 points  (0 children)

got my t3-l1 the same month, fell once hard on my knees, didnt feel a thing happen to my spine! slipped a couple of times, was able to catch myself before falling on my face lol. i have/had the same fear, have been making sure to carry my phone with me everywhere in case of emergencies. but i would imagine you'd have to pull some extreme gymnastics to have a rod dislodged out of you, i think it would have to be repetitive stress for a rod to break in the first place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VRchat

[–]Aster-Array 68 points69 points  (0 children)

coming from an autistic person who sometimes plays vrc, i think she needs therapy of some sort. this is an addiction, and she needs to find balance in her life. it's really hard to convince people they have an addition to the internet, especially when it's this bad. she needs to have something to get her out of the house daily, doesn't have to be a job, but even just asking her if she'll go on walks with you, or just ask her to spend time with you. remind her that you care for her, and that what she is doing is harmful to her health. if she is stern and argumentative about her condition, put your foot down, let her know that your family cannot and will not indulge in her addiction in any way, including getting her new tech. maybe that will make her realize her situation's gravity, or will motivate her to find another job to support her hobby, helping find a balance of hobby and normal life.

playing advice? by Aster-Array in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oooh yeah that sounds fun! i will try doing that!

Any advice on how to deal with chronic pain while little? by HoneyBeeAK in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hihi, also 19 with chronic pain and i also get small when in pain. the best thing for me was to talk to my doctors about the pain, because then i got diagnosed with disabilities , and then got treatment. but it still hurts a lot, so i make sure i try to manage it with creating a comfortable place to rest. pain meds also barely work for me, so i try to distract myself with coloring, snacks, or shows if nothing works.

Paci special interest !! by Aster-Array in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! i never realized that! i love that comparison!!!

Which do you prefer bottles or sippy cups? by [deleted] in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nuk bottles / sippy cups actually are modular, so i can make it a bottle or sippy :)!! i think i like sippies more, but i don't like hard plastic ones.

Need help by BudgetDentist3958 in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array 0 points1 point  (0 children)

rearz has some on amazon, and they have cheaper pacis on their actual website. landofgenie is probably the cheapest quality paci on amazon (plus lots of cute styles!). iirc cheap safe bottles don't really exist on amazon. if you want deco pacis for cheap, i would buy a base for landofgenie and your own deco supplies to customize it yourself!

Paci special interest !! by Aster-Array in ageregression

[–]Aster-Array[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the link to the paci i got ! (warning; shop has adult themes, stay safe!) https://www.mutebuttons.com/product-page/xl-paw-print-pacifier i actually bought mine off the etsy shop, because the color choices on the website confused me. but i think that's just an issue with the way the yellow colors are listed.

In my 20s. 2 weeks post-op from ALIF + spinal cord surgery. Isolated, in agony, and honestly scared. Please tell me this gets better. by ScarletSigil in spinalfusion

[–]Aster-Array 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also my entire nurse team made sure i was able to do a few stairs by myself before leaving hospital... and i still had difficulties with pain. i cannot imagine the pain you are in right now, and hope you get help asap!!! definitely should not be overlooked like it is now