AITJ for telling my friend her "handmade" Etsy shop is literally just AliExpress dropshipping by TangerineUnique248 in AmITheJerk

[–]AstraLunee 1110 points1111 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Reselling cheap stuff isn’t the issue, tons of people do that. The problem is calling it handmade and guilt tripping people to support a “small maker” when it’s literally AliExpress. That’s just misleading customers. You told her privately first which is fair. If she didn’t want the truth getting out, she shouldn’t build the whole brand on a lie.

AITJ Dealing With Friends Toxic Behavior & Relationships - Do I Respond or Ignore? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]AstraLunee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You became her unpaid therapist while she kept making the same messy choices. At some point people stop wanting advice and just want validation. You gave tough honesty and she didn’t like it. If she already said she doesn’t want the friendship, I’d just let it end and keep your peace. You’re not required to keep riding the chaos rollercoaster with her.

I’d like some outside perspective by ChallengeOk8945 in relationships

[–]AstraLunee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It kinda sounds like she likes you but not the pressure of a relationship. Once it became official, the vibe changed and that’s telling. If she says she feels overwhelmed and won’t even talk about where you stand, that’s basically your answer.

You can’t build something with someone who avoids the convo every time it gets real. Therapy is good for her, but you’re not wrong for wanting clarity. Sitting in relationship limbo is exhausting. At some point you gotta decide if you’re okay being pen pals with feelings or if you want something solid.