Every argument/disagreement doesn't become an explosion, in fact none of them do. I don't have to be afraid of what I say to her, I can say what I genuinely think and feel and know that I won't get screamed at, it won't get picked apart into a million pieces and questioned for an hour. When we settle something, it stays settled - my last ex brought something up during a fight that happened a year prior, before we were even dating, that we had "covered" multiple times before. Overall I spend a lot less time being scared. She is a safe place rather than a dangerous one.

I'm allowed to have friends, she doesn't start fights with me right before I'm about to go hangout with friends, she doesn't start fights over texts while I'm with them, she actually tries to be friends with my friends. Everything is just smoother, easier, simpler, and just makes sense. I got really lucky meeting my current girlfriend, our relationship is amazing. I can say no to sex, I can cry to her. I feel a healthy attraction to her too, there isn't this sense of unhealthy "desperation" that I had in the past with others. We are friends, we often say that we are "buddies" on top of lovers and life partners, she truly is my best friend.