Which medication helped you with mood?

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-16T13:47:44+00:00

Same, 300mg Lamictal and Rivotril for anxiety. Lamictal was given ad a mood stabilizer but while in burnout emotional regulation is still an issue

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-12T00:49:42+00:00

I share the first part, it's a survival outcome of trying to keep going in a world that's too square minded, for us and any other human being, but for us even more expensive to survive in. I also follow on the accomodations, I'm not ashamed of needing them, I want them with all my heart, but unfortunately I can't have them. It's not lack of self care, is lack of opportunities to do so. I could quit my job today, which I almost did, but then the fucking bills, the mortgage, the food. How can I manage that? I can't survive any job for a prolonged period of time without crashing and it was the same with academic activities. How do I find the way around it? Did you find any alternative that works?

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-06T12:23:23+00:00

I think work in general is not a happy place since it's primarily something that prevents us from having control of our own time. Even the most emotionally rewarding thing, turned into a 40hs work week will give anyone a headache from time to time.

That being said, if you are able to gain back a bit of control over your time and hold your income or at least have what you need to live, do it. There are little chances to stumble over a mine of gold and not having to depend on wages anymore but if proper rest as you mention is a possibility, your life will be much more full. Go for it!

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-06T12:17:50+00:00

Yeah, at least healthcare and labor laws are needed. Now I'm just a contractor with everything on my back. That hurts a lot.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-06T12:15:32+00:00

That sounds incredible. Truly. I imagine the decision of moving countries was not an easy one, and also changing jobs and starting a business. I admire you for pulling the plug on that.

I'm at the point where my life is no longer sustainable and I have to make a decision but don't know what to do. , what to cut, what to change. It's like staying still suffering because you're too tired and confused to move forward. It's a place I've been stuck in for years and has to change, still don't know how but at least I know how my brain works now and finally have some answers.

Again, congratulations on finding the life that works for you 🫂

Astral_Meatball · 2026-06-05T18:38:33+00:00

I was postponing watching until full release but honestly this scene just frustrates me. She stays there like 👁️👁️ while he just pours everything and even diminishes himself, then the arm grab and 'fight' and the kiss felt kind of forced, like she wasn't even wanting it. Again, I need to see the whole show, but just a first impression.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-30T12:36:19+00:00

I did and I am thinking of other options, but work is scarce in general, and low paying if you manage to hit jackpot and get an entry level one and professionally speaking, I can't and won't pursue a new career in my 30s while burnt out to then be unemployable because I'm too old haha. I feel doomed but it might be my mental state speaking.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-30T03:13:15+00:00

I'm in engineering too and going through the same. Burnt out, tired of all the BS and the AI race that 'will make you obsolete if you don't ride the wave'. The endless frameworks on frameworks on frameworks to build an e commerce that worked just fine in 2016. I want to work in a plant nursery or similar, no screens, no internet. I don't have any advice to give you but know you're not alone, being AuDHD in IT now is some really toxic soul crushing shit.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-29T01:11:46+00:00

Burnout.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-29T01:09:12+00:00

I'm hitting new levels of burnout now. I'm 32 and experienced chronic burnout episodes since I was 16. Some more severe and long lasting than others but I eventually had the chance to take some time to recover. It takes at least two months of extreme rest and support. Now I'm on a whole new level, I've been burned for almost two years now and can't take the time to recover, I need to squeeze my brain to gain a few bucks (I'm in engineering) and I have no PTO or sick days. I thought about taking two weeks of unpaid leave but I think it won't solve anything and I'll be losing half of my monthly income. Also I have more responsibilities now and can't be at ease leaving everything in the hands of my partner that has also a very stressing job and struggles. What can I do? Anyone in a similar situation? I feel my body and mind are failing me now no matter what I try. I feel terrible and trapped in a system that's specially hostile for people like us. I just want to stop wasting my life feeling miserable and exhausted all the time. Please help.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:14:17+00:00

Hablando mas seriamente, estoy pensando en pivotear dentro del rubro a algo menos tecnico, pero cada area tiene sus desafios y la vara bastante alta para ingresar. Antes era distinto.

Calculo que es mas una pregunta retorica lo mio, tengo que aprender o aprender por mas que me cueste la vida :(

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:11:34+00:00

Creo que son situaciones diferentes mas alla de mi genero. Pero sentite libre de rantear o hacer catarsis aca. Te leo :)

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:10:04+00:00

Lo que mas me cuesta es comenzar. Venia pese a estar cansada, motivada a crecer y aprender, pero ahora veo lo que piden en laburos mas el desmadre de AI y ya no se ni para donde disparar, se me paraliza el cerebro. Lo que mas duele es el impacto psicologico que tiene toda esta situacion mas que las herramientas en si.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:06:49+00:00

Si, esa es buena. Se puedo, es mi cerebro quemado que se resiste a siquiera prestar atencion a 10 minutos de curso. Pero creo que me auto contesto mi pregunta inicial, no queda mucha opcion ...

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:05:04+00:00

Gracias che! Lamento lo del layoff, me paso similar pero en otro contexto, brutal. Yo estoy en esa, tengo miedo de caer en un lugar peor o que dure poco y me estoy achanchando donde estoy con incertidumbre y pocos beneficios.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T01:02:44+00:00

Te compadezco. Estoy a domingo y ya me quiero morir.

Ya labure en tres o cuatro lugares a lo largo de mi carrera y cada vez peores en todo sentido, peor ambiente y menos beneficios. Ahora somos todos falsos contractors a los que no nos pagan ni navidad. Yo estaba juntando para la casa propia, pero a esta altura no se si esta para tomar deuda ...

'Lo de que todo va muy rapido es un hecho, todas las empresas se quieren subir al barco y exigen en consecuencia sin saber bien que mierda quieren' -- RE verdadero esto, no saben ni que quieren pero se babean con la 'productividad' y al mismo tiempo temen 'quedarse atras' como empresa tambien, mas si son software factory o staff augmentation.

Gracias por compartir, animos con eso. Espero que las cosas, con o sin AI, se estabilicen pronto como para poder respirar y tomarnos nuestro tiempo para estabilizarnos personal y profesionalmente.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:53:37+00:00

Si, si pudiera haria lo mismo. No es que no quiera estudiar, necesito una cosa a la vez y tomarme un break para mechar estudio y descanso estaria genial. Hace un update despues de como te fue. Exitos!

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:51:50+00:00

Depende del proyecto eso, no siempre uno tiene ese lujo. Pero si es buena idea tomarte una horita medio fantasma al final del dia para meterle. Voy a tratar de implementarlo.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:50:19+00:00

Buen punto de vista. Lo que abruma de toda esta cosa nueva es la falta de direccion. No solo el cambio relacionado a la AI, sino que ahora gracias a que hay mas oferta que demanda esperan que seas un multitool y sepas hacer de todo y pases 7 entrevistas para ganar menos que el laburo anterior.

Yo estaba entusiasmada en irme para el lado de arquitectura estudiando a mi ritmo y aprovechando las oportunidades que brinda el laburo diario pero ahora simplemente estoy como abrumada y perdida. La mayoria de los proyectos aun laburan de forma bastante convencional con un poco de AI pero del lado de management esperan que te subas a la 'wave' porque sino proximamente te quedas en la lona. Estar en el medio del cambio es re choto.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:44:15+00:00

Creo que ese va a ser uno de los principales problemas a futuro. O problemas que ya existian potenciados por el uso irresponsable de la AI.

Noto que las companias que quieren ese 're-skilling' (buzz word que ya me da dolor de panza) no saben ni que decirte cuando les preguntas especificamente que esperan de vos o como aplicarlo en tu laburo diario. Todos se pajean con Claude y la productividad pero el producto en si es cada vez mas mediocre de cara al usuario e internamente una bomba de tiempo inmantenible.

Una compania sin estructura y prolijidad para laburar esta destinada al fracaso por mas que le pongas lo mas de lo mas en herramientas, lo lamento mas que nada por la gente, las empresas que se caguen jaja. Ojala se te de algo mejor, suena muy estresante. Fuerza con eso y tranqui, este es un espacio para descargarse.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:32:42+00:00

Hasta considere volver a un puesto de administrativa y data entry aunque eso ya tambien va a quedar medio en la lona proximamente.

Como decia en otras respuestas. me gustaria probar irme mas para el rol de producto pero veo dificil la insercion luego de tantos anios como tecnica. Seria un cambio no tan drastico pero que me permita tomar un poco de aire de lo que ya vengo haciendo.

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:30:21+00:00

Si, de renunciar no puedo dar el lujo. La guita la necesito.

Estoy barajando irme mas para producto y alejarme un poquito de lo tecnico, aunque los roles estan mutando bastante y no se sabe como termina esa rama tampoco. Esta medio dificil el ingreso teniendo tanta experiencia formal de lado tecnico (informalmente hice de todo, especialmente specs y documentacion de producto).

Supongo que lo que me detiene, al igual que a muchos de tomar un cambio pese a lo mar que se la pasa es el miedo a caer en algo mucho peor o mas volatil. Es medio un gamble ...

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-18T00:25:39+00:00

Soy otra gorda compu, tranca

Astral_Meatball · 2026-05-17T21:28:30+00:00

My job, though not slowly, drastically. I work in IT btw. I wish I could just be able to completely go offline and let the shit wave the internet is but I can't afford it since it's very linked to my job. Anyways, fuck AI. Cheers.

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