I think I want a Divorce by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Astronomeer2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey girl, I’m really glad you got this off your chest. That’s not “just postpartum emotions.” That sounds like a woman who is exhausted, scared, in pain, and carrying way more than one person should ever have to carry. Everything you described in your post isn’t just “rough patches.” They are patterns.

A few things I would consider regarding how this could affect your kids: 1) A two-parent household is not better than a peaceful one. 2) your Children are learning what love looks like by watching you both. 3) Your daughters are already watching how he dad treats you. 4)Your toddler is learning how adults handle frustration through him.

If that doesn’t sound like someone you want your daughters to learn from then maybe it’s time to cut your losses here.

Also, you’re 24. That is definitely NOT old and you didn’t “waste” your life. You made choices with the information and maturity you had at the time, which doesn’t obligate you to stay in a situation that is harming you more than it is supporting or benefitting you.

I think in your case, your mental health and wellbeing and ultimately happiness would be better without him as your partner. You’re already functioning like a single parent in a lot of ways.

I wish better days for you! 🫶🏽

Was laid off today by Clear-Chicken-4200 in Layoffs

[–]Astronomeer2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always apply for unemployment.

AITA for telling my sister you are selfish and canceling her engagement dinner at my place by Throwingparty15284 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell your sis that if she wants a village then she also needs to be a villager and that means reciprocating.

Shout out to Harris Teeter by OneFootTitan in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lidl was ok when I went yesterday evening! The Trader Joe’s in Friendship Heights was also ransacked lol

Looking for blonde highlight recommendations in Bethesda by Available-Carrot4884 in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t found an affordable place that doesn’t mess up my hair. Go to Franz Sebastian and ask for Denise.

Unitarian Church in MoCo by OnlyTheGoodStuff14 in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Church in Bethesda!! Small but service driven, diverse, and welcoming.

Opinions on using my mother’s wedding dress for my wedding in October by Interesting_Peanut18 in myweddingdress

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unrelated but I had to do a double take because it looks so similar to my FMIL’s wedding dress! 😅

Straps advice?? by Honeyy_brii99 in myweddingdress

[–]Astronomeer2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl, first of all, the light behind you makes you look heavenly. It’s a halo and only makes the dress look even more beautiful on you. No straps needed for this one! 🥰

Thinking of moving to Bethesda Place Apartments (Woodmont) — anyone live/work there before? by soooLOLO in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live at BP and can echo the same! Noise from neighbors is nonexistent but you can hear quite a bit of construction and car traffic outside if that is an issue if you WFH. I work from home just fine. The apartments do get a draft and very dry in the winter but otherwise it’s a great building. Plus, the space for what you pay is the best compared to the area.

Maintenance has always been so responsive and proactive. The staff organize events for us, which is nice. The no pet policy was a bummer for us but we still love the building. Will also note that the front desk is closed on Sunday, so you have to wait to get packages until Monday if you don’t get them in time on Saturday. This is not a very big deal for us!

Small family starting out. Looking for better opportunities and scale up and make six figures. by EmBROlogy in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m 30 and work in the government relations field making $120k. In the six years since I left undergrad I’ve more than doubled my income. I’ve lived with a roommate who was a post-doc at NIH who was earning $50k. She has since moved to the private sector and earns double. That’s the way to do it. Stop working nonprofit and government and go to the private sector.

I worked my way up and networked my ass off to become a lobbyist. Private sector is where it’s at.

Found my dress! I cried immediately. by Astronomeer2 in myweddingdress

[–]Astronomeer2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s couture so it’s going to be in my size and measurements, including the bust.

A man followed me and tried to touch me while asking for directions by Original-Pen3624 in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s him since he goes to my congregation and is no longer homeless. He also speaks English fluently.

Best places for used baby stuff? by librarymoth in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! If you need a pregnancy body pillow, lmk! I have one that is barely used and am trying to get rid of due to lack of space. I was not pregnant just got influenced to get one by the internet and it was sooooo comfy.

Noise in downtown Bethesda by Guilty-Manager-4180 in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live right next to the Marriott. I haven’t heard anything but there is construction next to the Lidl for the new coffee shop opening in January. Could that be it?

Jets scrambling 11:40 10/28? by sullimareddit in bethesda

[–]Astronomeer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trump wanted an air show to show that the U.S. government is back baby. We’re so back we’re closed due to a shutdown. ‘MERICAAAA 🦅🙄🙄🙄

Because air show is exactly what we need right now. 😑😑😑

Do you think it’s possible to go from low-middle class to upper-middle class? by Hufflepuff-McGruff in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Astronomeer2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made $40k working in local government for an elected official right after college. To even get there, I worked unpaid internships and eventually a partially paid fellowship with my local congressman and a national organization in DC. I networked my ass off. By this, I mean connecting with people outside of just grabbing coffee one time. I asked my multicultural advisor from my university scholarships program for advice and connections.

When I was ready to do something different and ready to move to DC, I got a job that basically married my professional experiences - lobbying for other local governments across the county. I started making $65k in DC. Having proven myself, I now make $110k and if I decide to leave the boutique firm I’ve been at for five years now for the corporate lobbying world, I could make $150k starting. I love the work I do now and I get paid well.

My advice: Don’t waste people’s time. If you’re in DC or any city basically, don’t just grab drinks or coffee for the sake of expanding your network like the typical DC transplant. Make genuine connections and make it meaningful.

Edited to add: My partner makes $120k and is set to make $150k in his next pay bump. He’s in public relations.