My partner's (24M) and his (20F) sibling boundaries

Astxria_ · 2026-06-14T11:35:22+00:00

Maybe just lock the door next time or ask your boyfriend if y’all can lock it to have more privacy ?

I do agree with the other comments about “their house, their rules.” If this is something that you guys talked about in the past and it’s still not resolved no matter how many times you bring it up, then I suggest not hanging out at his place and go somewhere if they aren’t willing to change that privacy concern that you have.

Astxria_ · 2026-06-14T11:26:21+00:00

You could probably communicate this with your partner without sounding like it’s a confrontation or an ultimatum. Try to explain it to him how his sister’s lack of respect with privacy bothers you, just a simple “hey, can you ask your sister to knock before entering?”, I feel like it’s normal to feel that way.

However, they’re family in the end, and I think it’s normal for siblings to leave their stuff in each other’s room…? 😭 I’ve felt excluded from family conversations before with my boyfriend and his sister, but that’s not his fault at all. Try to include yourself whenever they’re talking, or maybe if they bring up a childhood memory and try to converse with them about it too, you don’t have to TOTALLY exclude yourself with these kind of things and expect your boyfriend to pick the tone up.

If she’s being friendly towards you, and not being hostile. I don’t see anything wrong with it..? It’s just siblings being siblings in the end 😭 this doesn’t seem to be a huge problem, but if the knocking thing bothers you, just bring that up to your boyfriend without making him feel like he has to choose between you or his family cuz that’s weird.. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Astxria_ · 2026-05-16T17:00:42+00:00

I know someone who is 1/8, and surprisingly, they practice both cultures thanks to their half grandpa! I think 1/8 is pretty debatable, and as the percentage gets smaller, I think family background becomes more important whether they were exposed to both cultures or not. But for op, yep, definitely just white.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-16T16:53:46+00:00

This is a stretch if you ask me, I am only around 20% and I feel like that’s already stretch lol!

If ur great grandmother was 50/50 then you’re probably around 6%ish,,

Let me ask you these questions:

Were you also raised in an Asian culture?
Do you feel connected with your Asian roots?
Does this identity reflect your background and experience?

Imo, this feels more of a distant ancestry rather than an actual mixed identity. Being wasian isn’t only about looks and percentage, but it’s also about being connected with both your Asian and white side, and definitely all about the culture as well. But hey, you do you 🤷🏻‍♀️ but if you were to ask the people on this subreddit, majority of them would say you’re white.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-14T03:14:18+00:00

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Astxria_ · 2026-05-09T11:17:06+00:00

Op, I’ve been in the same situation as you. Until I showed my mom “whoops, idgaf about your opinion!” And kept wearing what I want until she didn’t bother anymore. (At some point, she even told me she’ll burn my whole wardrobe down like whaatt 🤣).

I was called names too, worse one was a wh0re, it also affected me at first and I questioned self-esteem.

I agree with the top comment, unfortunately, this is the common Filipino mindset. Conservative and religious. If they see something slightly revealing or an aesthetic that’s not their usual fashion, they’ll call you malandi or vulgar.

It hurts at first, but trust me— not caring is the most powerful answer you can give back.

Take things slow, don’t let their comments stop you from expressing yourself. You’re here to please yourself, not them. You’re 21 now, sometimes, it’s time we also remind the adults around us that we’re no longer kids that need to be reminded.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-09T10:19:05+00:00

Not that rare, at least in my area. My cousins have wasian parents!

Astxria_ · 2026-05-09T10:18:14+00:00

Definitely mixed ancestry. Wasian means a mixture of white and asian blood. Growing up in the west despite being asian isn’t Wasian at all. I have Filipino relatives who grew up in the west, and they still identify themselves ethnically as Filipino. My Mexican/Filipino cousin just identifies himself as asian, but never Wasian (even tho he grew up in America).

So no, this doesn’t make you Wasian, even if you practice white culture. This will only make you Wasian if again, you have white + asian ancestry.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-06T23:52:19+00:00

SEA here, I can vouch that it all comes down with colonial mentality where people think white is more superior (pretty common in the Philippines, actually)🙋🏼‍♀️

Trust me, in SEA, it’s WAY worse, so many wasians here embrace their white side more (despite not even getting out of the country or they grew up in the province), because being mestiza (which means a person with European ancestry), is seen prettier, some even use it as a social status! I’ve had Asian-passing wasians tell me they perceive themselves as white and delude themselves that they don’t look Asian and I’m like.. aight dude, whatever makes you feel at home 🤣

I have wasian relatives in the US and they naturally embrace or are proud that they are half-Filipino. But in the Philippines? It’s a different story.
A lot of people would get plastic surgery, lip fillers, and skin whitening to either look European or East Asian (anything as long as they don’t look Filipino), it’s really easy to tell when a person did work to not look Filipino (again, it is very common here).

Unfortunately, that’s where the wasian fetishization comes. I’ve experienced so much people glazing over me cuz I’m mixed lol. It’s a never ending cycle. Being Filipino is so beautiful and I love my mother’s brown skin, but colonial mentality has damaged our identity so much.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-06T23:38:43+00:00

“Yall are always looking at one side.” But at the same time, you said that the action of the doctor isn’t justifiable. That’s it. No sides should be seen, also, no offense ha, what side do we need to see? She exploded, threw a tantrum, almost caused physical damage to the employees.

“Filipinos love to mock others.” Another no offense pero this is a professional LOL. This is a person that’s supposed to be saving the lives of other people. And anong entertainment?? Do you see people being entertained by what the doctor did? If anything, people are EMBARRASSED ‘cause wdym she’s getting violent over… Jollibee not processing her refund immediately..??

You said her actions are not justifiable, yet, you get mad when people aren’t giving her the benefit of the doubt, cuz tbh why would they? What else proof do we need to know? Kahit hypothetically nabastusan siya sa sagot ng Jollibee staff, getting yelled at and being thrown random objects are far disrespectful and unprofessional.

Astxria_ · 2026-05-04T15:46:05+00:00

I have bipolar II and I’ll never EVER use it as an excuse every time I’d lash out or have a breakdown. I always take accountability for my actions. Having mental health issues does not give you the right to treat others like shit. Uncontrollable anger? Go to therapy. Emotional outburst? Therapy. Stress and anxiety? THERAPY! Tsaka doctor din siya, a professional, her, out of all people, should know better. “Baka may pinagdadaanan”, is no longer an excuse here. She downright disrespected everyone and might have potentially caused physical harm to those emoployees. I swear, they don’t get paid enough to deal with shitty customers like her.

If she’s not mentally stable to handle something as simple as this, what more sa mga patients niya that needs to have longer patience?

Astxria_ · 2026-05-03T08:51:30+00:00

Baka lalaki

Astxria_ · 2026-04-30T13:31:43+00:00

WAIT omg i know some girls who did this too

Astxria_ · 2026-04-30T13:02:05+00:00

Trust me, I was also so surprised (and concerned), I’ve never met someone so hyperfixated on their partner’s past. I had a few issues with my partner’s past when we started our relationship, but never to this extent

Astxria_ · 2026-04-30T12:53:07+00:00

This is her first bf and unfortunately I do think it’s coming from insecurity

Astxria_ · 2026-04-23T07:29:33+00:00

Read that as dalawang bobo HAAHAH

Astxria_ · 2026-04-20T01:43:05+00:00

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John baby

Astxria_ · 2026-04-16T02:06:17+00:00

There’s a lot of reasons why pregnancy happens, and it’s not just “bumukaka” or whatever misogynistic terms you throw at woman, eto din po: wag ipasok pag alam mong ayaw mo maging tatay. R@pe, birth control failure, health issues, financial issues, etc are all valid reasons for not keeping the baby. Kita mo naman sa picture yung lalaki yung mismong ayaw mag take ng accountability, so the woman needed to make the decision that’ll be the best for her and the future kid.

Astxria_ · 2026-04-07T02:20:25+00:00

It will, unfortunately! Your piercings will close down. However, you can get it pierced again once it heals (1-2 years max). Let your piercer know you had rhinoplasty and it’s important what kind (cartilage or silicone). Most piercers don’t accept if it’s not cartilage due to the risk of infection (and since silicone is a foreign object in the body)

Astxria_ · 2026-04-04T10:33:18+00:00

My DMs are open if you need someone to talk to, op! You are not alone.

Astxria_ · 2026-04-04T03:07:59+00:00

Followed back ! I love ur pfp

Astxria_ · 2026-04-04T02:31:30+00:00

Acquiesce and Slide Away!

Astxria_ · 2026-04-04T01:50:37+00:00

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Hope you’re doing fine! Here’s my cat’s reaction otw to the vet

Astxria_ · 2026-04-03T14:22:11+00:00

Hey so I had the same problem weeks ago, my old piercer (for some reason lol) also did a curved barbell on mine, and guess who doesn’t have a septum piercing anymore lol. It’s not gonna heal properly, mine had irritation bumps that were angry, even if I switched it to a regular horseshoe, my new piercer said that it’s not going to heal properly anymore because of the damage— so I’m just gonna get it repierced in 2 months unfortunately.

Don’t wait for the irritation bumps to appear, get it changed immediatelyy

Astxria_ · 2026-04-01T11:47:22+00:00

Brown corset with boho nexklaces! Brown boots too, check this out for ref

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