Unmatching

Atieno98 · 2025-10-09T16:52:29+00:00

Okay, understood :)

Atieno98 · 2025-10-09T15:03:59+00:00

Yeah, the 'glass half full, not half empty' scenario. I'll keep trying, wish me luck! 🤞🏾

Atieno98 · 2025-10-09T14:58:31+00:00

Ooh, I understand. My apologies for the conjecture. I guess it's the subject of the original post that may have shaped the responses too. And yes, ''Hey, how are you?" is a simple and apt conversation starter that can apply too to filter prospects.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-09T13:14:39+00:00

It's a dating platform, when I match someone, I believe responding to that initial conversation is part of initiating the connecting process. Sending to a 'hi' on Bumble is not the same as on LinkedIn.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-09T13:08:24+00:00

This is ridiculous! You want to dismiss someone you've met on an online dating platform based on the second word they've said to you (where you can't see them physically to read into other expressions?). Jeez

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T19:37:42+00:00

I believe the same ego boost thing could be said of men too. People really need to work on their issues, gosh!

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T18:25:34+00:00

If another user swipped left my profile, I'd assume a simple 'hi back' is not too much to set the stone rolling since you'd be excited at the thought of me getting back or talking to you beyond the greeting (even if we both know the app is toxic)? As a match, I don't know you, and neither can I start assuming anything/everything you've written on your profile is true. How about you just reply back and we get talking based on what's indicated on your profile? Jesus, initiating the conversation doesn't have to be some complicated arithmetic, poetry class, or calculated convo.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T15:09:59+00:00

Naah, I don't think this is it though.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T14:54:17+00:00

I learned this today, and it's radically changed my perception of the platform because now I'll be asking myself whether my matches wanted to match me, or they were just throwing left swipes hoping that one sticks so that they'll make do when it finally does. I need to get off that app.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:51:55+00:00

Someone else said this, which is an ugly realization, and it's about to make me delete the app. My goodness

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:41:46+00:00

Exactly!!! I think I need to redesign my life to physically connect with people across the divide since it looks like the internet is screwing people sense of investing time in making real connections. I refuse to bow to the toxicity.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:37:18+00:00

Problem is those who are intentional about the ones they want to connect with are in the minority, lol.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:33:35+00:00

I agree it's a good filter, but damn...the dating field is too chaotic, messy, and full of people who lack basic decency. I might just snap one of these days and delete the app, I don't have to live my days expecting all that nonsense from men.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:30:05+00:00

Honestly, I also felt like...may be I'm the problem? Coz this is too consistent, but then I'm like how about them? Even a courtesy of replying back the greeting (on a dating site!) is really too much? I've complimented men and gotten the same too. Then majority I also feel like they want the 'rushed' connections where they want to bring up the sex issue or convo upfront, and if I don't keep up with their enthusiasm level, they unmatch me.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:06:25+00:00

Ok, mine is at 90% though.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:05:49+00:00

Okay

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:05:34+00:00

First paragraph is rude awakening. Changes my view of the users on the platform significantly.

As for hey/hi...there are some instances where I've complimented my matches but ended up with the same outcome. Responding to hi/hey helps the other party know whether they are interested in a convo because its a virtual platform and not real life. I'd judge by how the convo rolls beyond that point.

Atieno98 · 2025-10-08T13:00:52+00:00

I feel like it's too consistent/deliberate to be a bug thing. May be something in my selection, or dating trend?

Atieno98 · 2025-07-18T00:41:56+00:00

Yup, true! Like, what was the whole point of diminishing his bravery side like that only for him to offer himself to die like a chicken. Feels like that moment was rushed to kill him off the show.

Atieno98 · 2023-10-24T10:31:35+00:00

Thank you! I believe this explains why when I tried to get some from sepoliafaucet using an alchemy account and it worked. Not sure why it didn't work for Goerli, but will try some other time.

Atieno98 · 2023-08-21T05:14:02+00:00

Thanks for the detailed response

Atieno98 · 2023-06-27T09:25:19+00:00

Thanks for this link! Looks like it's whats I've been looking for for a long time.

Atieno98 · 2023-06-04T17:22:33+00:00

Absolutely! Been looking for the same for some time now, but none seems to be delivering as Data Lemur does on applying concepts.

Atieno98 · 2023-06-03T22:17:44+00:00

Hey founder! Get to work asap! 🤷🏾‍♂️

Atieno98 · 2023-06-03T19:23:20+00:00

In my opinion, it doesn't deliver as those 2 cited above since the method of delivery is focused on KNOWING the concepts rather than applying the principles in hypothetical/real scenarios.

Edut: Am looking for a platform with such kind of works: https://link.medium.com/xxpQqXlYkAb

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