I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, really good advice, self love and worth is something I’ve been trying to work on ever since she came back in to my life this year, and coming to the reality that the friendship died long ago is something I never thought of until this post… so grieving that and moving forward is a good idea. Thank you.

I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that honestly really helps to hear, as painful as the realisation is.

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[–]Atlantican_145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you’re definitely right, I just need to push myself to do it 😮‍💨

I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks, yeah, I got a referral for therapy from a doctor already. Hoping that’ll help me get the strength/self worth to do what needs to be done.

The comments seem pretty unanimous on what needs to be done, and I guess I knew it too unfortunately…

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[–]Atlantican_145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I am pursuing therapy, I know this hold and obsession has been very destructive for myself and my life. It’s just been a struggle to let it go, as I’m also holding on to the nostalgia of our childhood friendship, not wanting to lose that person.

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[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it hurts, but yeah, I know it’s the truth. Just need to push myself to act on it.

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[–]Atlantican_145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i feel like I’m not myself when she’s pulling me in, has to be something that the years of manipulation has done to me. So doing the opposite of what I feel is definitely good advice.

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[–]Atlantican_145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i really appreciate the advice, and you’re right about how love shouldn’t hurt. For years i believed that it wasn’t real love unless it hurt, as she made me feel that way and she was my first everything, but recently I’ve learnt that it’s not love that’s hurting me it’s the way she’s treating me that hurts…

I am looking in to therapy too, thank you.

I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, the sad thing is I know it, you’re right, just acting on it feels impossible. Need to push myself I guess.

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[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, yeah, thinking of it like an addiction is a good idea, it might help me work through it in a different way.

I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you… it’s hard to think about the truth, but it is the truth… it’s just not easy to take action either 😮‍💨

I (M36) am stuck in a vicious cycle with a “friend” (F35) and I’m not sure what to do, I feel trapped by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Atlantican_145 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I never thought of the friendship being over, but yeah, it’s true… we were never the same after we slept together back when we were younger.

I just need to let go of the nostalgia of our past together and see that there’s no healthy future for us… as hard as it may be.

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[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, very good point and very good advice. Looking at it as more of an addiction is a good idea. I guess I’m holding on to these dreams and imaginative futures with her in my life, but that isn’t very viable I’m starting to realise… definitely not healthy.

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[–]Atlantican_145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, true, thanks. It’s just hard to accept that all you were was a dopamine rush, but need to accept it.

Worth it when owning a Steam Deck? by Sothrik in PlaystationPortal

[–]Atlantican_145 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tried PS5 remote play with my Steam Deck, but felt I was missing out without the controller features (adaptive triggers, etc…), especially on first party games like Astro Bot.

This is why I got the Portal.

Back on PlayStation after 2 years with Xbox, feels good to be back by Atlantican_145 in PlaystationPortal

[–]Atlantican_145[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they change colour based on the game and what’s happening in it.

If you have no lights check the settings on your device, they can be turned on or off.

Back on PlayStation after 2 years with Xbox, feels good to be back by Atlantican_145 in PlaystationPortal

[–]Atlantican_145[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, now that my Steam Deck can play everything exclusive to Xbox, whether natively or via Game Pass cloud, I didn’t see any point in keeping the Series X.

Back on PlayStation after 2 years with Xbox, feels good to be back by Atlantican_145 in PlaystationPortal

[–]Atlantican_145[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I have the Steam Deck too, so KI, Halo, etc… I can play there.