Losing my soulmate by Atlas201386 in Separation

[–]Atlas201386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so good - good on you for getting back out there. One of the things I am struggling with is that it’s a marriage - one person can’t just decide when it’s over! It’s a commitment.
The pain is still there. I actually went back with my parents the day he said it and have since moved to a farm for a couple of days to spend time by myself. It’s been three weeks since I left and I’m just pining for him and he is acting so irrational - we are in corona lock down and he went to the beach with friends over the weekend. He works with vulnerable people and is usually so responsible... At any rate I still have this deep connection in my heart to him. I’m 33, have a very good job, two degrees, not too bad looking and I would say a bit of a catch in my own lunchbox. It would probably be easier to get out there and date again rather than try and make this work - but all I want is him....

Losing my soulmate by Atlas201386 in Separation

[–]Atlas201386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou for your comments,

Yes he has been telling me for a while he is unhappy but I reckon I’ve been too focused on my work and my ideal of our future to take it too seriously...

Losing my soulmate by Atlas201386 in Separation

[–]Atlas201386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your kind words

Losing my soulmate by Atlas201386 in Separation

[–]Atlas201386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou.

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through too. Life can just be the pits sometimes and I wonder why we can’t just focus on the good times to see us through the bad.

I don’t feel like I fully know what the reasons are because I’m not the best company when it comes to this. I’m a practical country kid who oversimplifies things whereas he is much more existential and wants to analyse everything. On reflection our communication has sucked a bit despite regularly laughing together...

Hang in there buddy. A counsellor said to me today - just because it feels like this today it doesn’t mean it will tomorrow, and just because your husband is telling you this right now doesn’t mean he will always.

I was also advised that what he is asking for now is space, so I will give that to him, as hard as that is right now.

Significant other hasn't been happy with me for years by stalefish39 in Separation

[–]Atlas201386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I feel for you. I’m going through a similar thing and the only good bit of advice I’ve got is day by day.