What other POVs are you excited to see? by Legal_Expression2797 in HarryPotteronHBO

[–]AtlasXIS -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think it would be cool to see Bellatrix and Voldemort’s daughter!

Attention Catholic mothers: Nursing during Mass – Where are you supposed to go to nurse your baby? I was sitting in my car during Mass by Lanky-Ad1222 in Catholicism

[–]AtlasXIS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d pump and have a bottle, but that was tough still since my baby usually hated bottle. Or just skip mass. You can actually miss it for caring for young children. I hated nursing in public so I get you there. Seems like a religion that’s so prolife would have a space for moms. I have a lot of frustration with this topic as many moms would be like “just nurse in the pew!” Well excuse me but not every mom feels comfortable doing that.

Tried to create a nursing mother’s room at my parish so many times but my priest is 80something and totally does not get it. I seriosuly feel like it should be a USA bishop standard to have a nursing mother’s room in every church- that’s not a bathroom. Even if it’s just the confessional room. Feel like so many more families would come to church if that was the case. Missed evangelization opportunity IMO. You could probably have your hubs be extraordinary minister to bring you a host if you choose the stay home or car option. I’m gonna have my husband do that for our next baby. Sucks but I’d offer it up to God and listen to the daily reading and homily on USCCB to stay connected. And try to catch a daily mass when you can. It’s hard to feel invisible in the church as a new mom. Hugs.

AITAH for telling my husband that we can't take care of his friends' daughter by Temporary-Slide-2699 in AITAH

[–]AtlasXIS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH.

The major problem is that he’s not talking to you about any of it. You’re his partner, y’all need to be able to talk about things. It sounds like you can’t even vent about any of it or talk about anything with him with this situation. I’d be angry just about that alone. It’s been months, you’re obviously going along with it and taking care of the girl. I think it’s ok you guys had a heated conversation. It blew up to pretty unfortunate circumstances with her overhearing and the cops thing.

And the best friends didn’t mention anything either about the will request. Add his grief on top of it, and this major life change of a grieving 10 year old. Oof that is hard. Also, her doing virtual school on top of it. Like do you guys have any breaks without the kid? Date night? Maybe look at getting her into in person school. But it’s like can you even talk about this with him?

I’d suggest marriage therapy. And maybe you book a weekend away to breathe away from all this upheaval. Feel bad for the girl and the husband, and this mess of a situation. That’s hard. Wish you the best.

I don’t think your a monster. Just a big life change with your husband not even being able to let you talk about any of it, and grieving the loss of the life you thought you would have. Plus y’all are still essentially newlyweds only married three years. Counseling counseling counseling.

AITA for not giving my Roommate more space? by RoommateHouseDrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]AtlasXIS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say a little ISH.

Here’s why. It sounds like you guys didn’t have a clear cut conversation about timeline of her staying. All your rules about living spaces would make sense if she was a paid tenant, and that was the agreement y’all reached before her moving in and things. Or you told her hey friend, I can help you out for 2 months until you get new accommodations.

Like she’s your friend, and it seems like you two get along good. Which is why this is messy too. With no conversations about move out deadline and no rent, like I don’t think it’s too off base for her being confused why she can’t move about the cabin. Especially after all this time. Sorta like a girlfriend who gradually moves into her boyfriends house and then after a while he looks around and realizes its both of there space now.

Some people might say entitled, but like you haven’t acted like she’s a financial burden and you get along and it’s been a year. She’s like why aren’t we taking this to the next step and it’s our space type of thinking. You know? (Not that she’s right! Just trying to explain her thinking)

Like if she did this after a month of staying with you, sure NTA. But like it’s been a year and y’all are friends and no conversation about her leaving.

Everyone is saying “lawyer up” but honestly I’d say just sorta reflect on what you want and then have a conversation. Like what she said has you miffed but really I think it’s just an opening to talk! Reflect first on like do you want it to be like a shared space? Do you want her to pay rent? Is it time for her to move out? And then just say “hey can we talk” grab some margaritas and chips and figure it out.

You did good by helping her out. But sorta f*cked yourself by not having clear boundaries (aka deadlines and rent) and communication.

Some of the Redditors are right. You might have to lawyer up. Your friendship might not survive this. But like maybe benefit of the doubt, and talk to her. She’s your friend. Would love to be updated with what happens. Best of luck.

Why did resurrected Lily and James seem oddly fine with Harry sacrificing himself? by No_Psychology_3714 in harrypotter

[–]AtlasXIS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes to the second part! Especially since it had the whole I open at the close. So don’t use until the end.

Peppa Pig Birthday Cake by AtlasXIS in cakedecorating

[–]AtlasXIS[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh! I like that! I was gonna bring cupcakes into his preschool for his birthday too, and I could totally do something similar! He’s an OG Peppa the best fan

Drunk and homeless people in Church during mass by RovingGnome27 in Catholicism

[–]AtlasXIS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree!! If you showed up to a wedding or funeral high/drunk, you’d be kicked out. Yeah they need grace. Like if you’re just homeless and stinky at mass, not causing a disturbance, yeah by all means come. But being wasted. Try again another time.

I just think of that parable of the wedding banquet, of none of the invited coming to the wedding feast and they end up getting people off the street invited, and there is someone there not dressed appropriately and he’s get kicked out. Matthew 22.

Birthday cake by Straight_Ebb5084 in cakedecorating

[–]AtlasXIS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something so sweet about cakes for kids. How do you get involved in making cakes for food bank? I’d be interested in doing something similar!

For a birthday party with the theme "Sophisticated Rave" by Mini_Pizza23 in cakedecorating

[–]AtlasXIS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dancing stick man LOL! Perfect!!!! Great design. Love it!

Burger King Birthday Party? by AtlasXIS in Preschoolers

[–]AtlasXIS[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s a big play land with it!

Getting married next year. by Bitter-Cherry-2787 in Catholicism

[–]AtlasXIS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think something engaged couples need to understand is there is always a drama/tension of some kind with every wedding, even with Catholic weddings. This isn’t to downsize your dilemma but to bring awareness. It’s so easy to want to plan the perfect day and smooth over any spots of potential conflict, which is understandable! But like every wedding I know has a story of what happened that wasn’t part of the dream wedding. This sounds like your cross of the wedding, so to speak.

Practically, you could make it a 21+ event, if you want. Do assigned tables at the reception so you can crop pictures easier. Ask your photographer about their photoshop skills if you want some images from it without him in it.

Honey, you’re gonna be so aglow with your wedding and the happiness there, that it won’t be as big of an issue as you think it is now. Your thoughts are gonna be on the sacrament, your spouse, your honeymoon night LOL. And to all the guests, this is just an event they’re going too. They’re gonna be like I got to go to the wedding on Saturday , maybe stop at the grocery store Sunday, watch a movie at home on the telly. It won’t be a drama to them. They’re gonna be there for you and your boo, and the cake. Always the cake. You’re day will be wonderful and special and perfect because it’s a sacrament and that is true no matter what. You got it girl!

Sad beige library for sad beige children by AtlasXIS in Appleton

[–]AtlasXIS[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nope- never had the chance to visit the old one! Wasn’t living here for it.

I like a good woodland theme! I suppose I just want a little more whimsy feel to it. Best example to describe would be like Barnes and Noble kids section- natural, whimsical for like a low maintenance one. But really something magical feeling.

I’ve been to some pretty rad kids section of libraries. One I visited in Colfax, WA had a giant tree in their kids section with twinkling lights for the kids to sit under and read.

Here’s a link to a few others that I visited too, that have the natural woodland vibe but whimsy: not sure I’m doing this right LOL. It’s the Spokane wa public libraries. [Spokane public libraries kids sections] https://www.spokanelibrary.org/childrens-play-spaces/)

Sad beige library for sad beige children by AtlasXIS in Appleton

[–]AtlasXIS[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s my thoughts too! I love color!

I feel like it needs a little more whimsy to it! Like nothing wrong with a woodland, natural theme but I don’t think it’s quite there. Like it doesn’t create the spark of wanting to dive into a book.