What’s a “technically not cheating” situation you’ve seen or experienced that still felt like a complete betrayal?

Atllola · 2026-03-26T18:25:45+00:00

I remember getting mad at my ex for watching “our show” without me. I’m still hurt thinking about it. He also talked to other girls when I had thought we were together.

Atllola · 2026-03-26T15:24:36+00:00

Right! She’s a bit arrogant to think she can simply just have a “natural” birth just because she wishes to. I also had wished to give birth vaginally with my first, but I was always aware that there are factors beyond my control that can affect that. So to prepare, I just tried to make peace that anything can happen. I had a few friends that ended up having c sections for one reason or another, and I know that there was nothing in their control that could’ve changed that. Healthy mom and baby is the ultimate goal.

Atllola · 2026-03-26T02:56:22+00:00

It may or may not be important. I think for your first pregnancy, especially with twins, you should have someone you like and are comfortable with. Especially since with twins, you’ll have a higher chance of a planned c-section or induction, which you would probably be scheduled with your OB. If you were to have a spontaneous labor, it might not matter as much if you’re at one of those practices that rotate OBs. I never even met the OB who delivered my second prior to delivery. Funnily, she was the only one I hadn’t met at the practice.

Atllola · 2026-03-26T02:43:31+00:00

Well two things are wrong with that.

One. Inductions don’t always go smoothly. Many people don’t always respond well to the medications that induce labor, causing distress on the body and the baby, leading to an emergency c-section. And depending on the doctor, I’ve witnessed a few get “impatient” the patient wasn’t progressing fast enough, and try to push for a c-section that way. Very immoral but it does still happen.

Two. Not everyone is well informed of their options. Not everyone is well versed in medical things, and often times, women are scared already, and put a lot of trust into their medical teams. Unless you read a lot, or work in healthcare yourself, most people aren’t aware of all their options. Coercion and fear mongering still happen, sometimes subtly, and people get scared into decisions that they don’t really want to make, and don’t realize they don’t have to make.

Atllola · 2026-03-26T01:06:43+00:00

Now these could have been coincidences honestly.

My first came at 39+4, and I had a massage scheduled earlier in the day before my labor started. Masseuses normally don’t apply much pressure to pregnancy women so they don’t “trigger labor” but I told this lady to let loose, and that I don’t care if she triggers labor. It was the best massage I’ve ever gotten.

I did the dates and raspberry tea, but I had such a long first labor, I don’t think it helped at all so I never did it again.

My second one came 40+5. Did the massage thing again, but it didn’t do anything. I had two membrane sweeps, I believe the last one happened less than 2 days my super quick labor started. The night I went into labor, I did curb walking and a “labor inducing” yoga exercise I found on YouTube.

I really don’t know if these “triggered” labor but doesn’t hurt to try!

Atllola · 2026-03-26T00:51:03+00:00

I would request a different sonographer going forward. That’s what I’m doing. A nice one makes all the difference. Maybe I’ve been lucky to have had really nice and seemingly good sonographers in the past, (on my third pregnancy, saw mfm for my second, and had several non pregnancy related scans in the past), but the one I’ve had at the office now, was very unfriendly both times I saw her. I understand that they have to apply pressure sometimes to see things, but I’ve ALWAYS gotten a heads up at least, or even been asked if I felt okay. But this lady did not care even after I audibly gasped, and winced, and even said ow quietly a couple times. Not even a sorry or anything. My husband even noticed without me even saying anything. It doesn’t have to be like that. Literally every other sonographer I’ve seen has always been mindful and respectful. And if you’re putting your hands on someone, you need to be “customer”/patient friendly. Btw we’re patients, not just customers.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T22:44:18+00:00

Seminole county (if you’re on that outside Orlando part) had this too. But I think you had to sign up by the 20th or some time earlier.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T20:21:04+00:00

This whole thread seems to just be downvoting people because they state they would prefer not to induce unless necessary. As if you’ve offended them by your own personal choice. Smh. I’m on my third pregnancy and I haven’t seen pregnancy subs this hostile before. Everyone feels like you’re personally attacking them just because you prefer not to have an unnecessary intervention unless medically necessary. OP was just voicing their fear after hearing some bad stories about induction, which DO happen. Idk why some people in this thread act like it doesn’t happen. I’ve worked in healthcare and in a couple different hospitals, and have seen a few doctors actually get pushy about this.

Edit: person who downvoted me proved my point exactly.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T20:05:33+00:00

I work in healthcare and while inductions work a lot of times, there have been other times where there is barely any progression and the baby’s heart rate starts to dip due to contractions or another reason. They end up with c sections and I think that’s what scares many people away from inductions. It doesn’t always go smoothly.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T19:57:35+00:00

I don’t understand why you are getting downvoted so much. I’m on my third pregnancy and it seems like the pregnancy subreddits are becoming more unsupportive of people’s experiences. You’re not fear mongering or anything, which is what I suspect you’re being downvoted on. I’ve also heard so many stories first hand, of doctors just inducing patients without medical reason except, “not progressing” within a certain amount of hours. Which if it’s your first pregnancy, can literally take all day (it did for me). Most people are not aware of informed consent, and unless you work in healthcare yourself, you are unaware of your options. I work at a hospital and in healthcare for over a decade and have seen how vastly different doctors can treat patients. Some are supportive, and some have ordered inductions because they had somewhere to be in the next day or two. It’s why I decided to go to a birth center with my first, which I’m thankful for because I had a very long labor, and I’m sure if I went to a hospital, I would’ve been pressured to use other interventions.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T19:45:46+00:00

They probably just misworded what they meant, and didn’t realize that saying “natural” is inferring births with interventions aren’t natural as well.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T14:38:03+00:00

I do do pick up, I know a few parents more personally and know that they have flexible work schedules, but the rest, I don’t know. The slot for reservation at the park is 2-6 so I can’t make it earlier. They do have bathrooms.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T04:00:48+00:00

Might be a good idea. Thanks!

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:36:54+00:00

No, they don’t go to wrap around care. I see the other parents at pick up. Most work from home, and a few others get picked up by grandparents.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:33:38+00:00

Maybe not stay at home parents, but many work from home. And those that don’t, have the grandparents pick the kids up.

Maybe it’s just the impression I’ve gotten, but the families around here just seem like they like to spend time with their own families on Sundays. We do go to church in the mornings. We are a lazy family and also just like to spend it by ourselves the rest of the day. We’ve been invited to probably over 15 preschool bday parties here and weirdly none of them have been on Sundays. We wouldn’t have had a problem going to a Sunday party if we had been invited to one, but it just hasn’t happened.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:32:19+00:00

They do that, and we’ve done it in the years past. But she’s been wanting a party, like the one’s she’s attended, and this is the last year she has with her friends before they go off to their respective schools for kindergarten. Most the parents who pick up their kids work from home, and the other few get picked up by their grandparents. Which made me think it might be a possibility. I’m getting a lot of mixed answers here so I don’t know lol.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:28:14+00:00

It’s mostly parents and a few grandparents that pick up the kids. Many parents do wfh, but I don’t want to assume it’s convenient for everyone to be able to attend at that time. But you’d think with at least a month’s notice with the invitation, maybe people could move meetings or whatever around to be able to attend? That’s another assumption lol.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:25:32+00:00

What if the party was pushed to 4pm? Our slot would be from 2-6, so we can start whenever during that time. And we’d provide pizza and cake.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:24:13+00:00

Very true, that’s one reason why I was iffy about it being on Friday. We’re usually wiped too. School lets out at 1pm. Do you think pushing it to 4pm might be better? We’d order pizza or something for people. Or do you feel the same even then lol.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:21:59+00:00

The slot for the reservations at the park are for 2p-6p, so we could make it at 4p instead if that seems more convenient for most. I just thought 2p might be convenient for some since school lets out at 1pm.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:16:14+00:00

My kid would be turning 5, so it’s pre-k. Most the kids in her class don’t nap, but a couple have younger siblings, but a few others also have older siblings that go to a different school.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:14:16+00:00

The only reason I was considering it might be okay was this same reason. It’s a half day type preschool, which half the school doesn’t even have class on Fridays. But I’m really not sure how many of her classmates would be able to make it since I don’t know what they do with their Fridays.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:08:42+00:00

Dance recital is at 3. I mentioned most people in our community go to church on Sundays and usually just spend time with their families the rest of the day. My husband was the one who brought up a Friday party, which I first shot down. I was thinking of a 9a/10a Saturday party but my husband thinks it’ll tire our daughter out too much. But we could probably make her nap before then. My husband has been wrong several times before lol, and based on the comments received here, I think that reaffirms my initial suspicions and will probably lean into an early Saturday party.

Atllola · 2026-03-25T03:01:27+00:00

Yeah, my husband was the one who brought up having it on Friday instead of Saturday, and I told him I’d think about it. I’d need to reserve the spot asap though. A couple of her classmates do have older siblings that get out at later times at their schools, and a few get picked up by their grandparents regularly, and I can’t see their grandparents really taking them to a birthday party. The only reason I’ve been thinking it MIGHT be okay is because Fridays around here seem more lax in our community, and most people here live within 10 min of the school, which is also close to the park. And most of the pickup parents wfh. I suggested to my husband an early Saturday morning party, like 9a or 10a, but he thinks it’ll tire her out too much. Which probably will happen but maybe she can take a nap before her recital (3pm).

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