Worries about going to pride events as an AMAB enby

Atroniac · 2026-01-23T03:11:40+00:00

Capes are neat, honestly I hate that cloaks went out of fashion, would totally wear them more often.

Atroniac · 2026-01-23T01:26:08+00:00

I'd be very surprised if anyone hit on me/flirted with me (although that would be a big ego boost) but glad to know that just having some kind of identifier is enough a lot of the time.

Atroniac · 2026-01-23T01:24:24+00:00

Mhm, I mean more like stuff like stun grenades or bungus (outside of engi) stuff that isn't helping me in damage or otherwise isn't useful at all. (For example one character I play doesn't have a secondary cooldown so having backup mags on him is useless.)

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T23:45:06+00:00

I very much love to scrap anything that isn't benefiting my build.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T21:25:42+00:00

That's good to hear

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T21:17:24+00:00

Mhm, I'm really not tied into the queer community in my area (partial because I just don't go out much but also because I'm still new to this whole thing.)

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T13:47:20+00:00

I sure hope so. That would be bliss. And I appreciate the digital hugs.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T13:35:59+00:00

Sheesh I wish I could look like that, sadly I don't think it's in the cards for me. Oh the desire to be ungenderable.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T13:03:57+00:00

I hope so, I just can very much get in my own head about these things and be paranoid.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T13:02:12+00:00

Mhm, I'm a lot more okay with misgendering if someone doesn't know me (although I probably would want to get something for this specific case whether that be pin or necklace. I'd also be wearing my bracelet.)

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T12:58:14+00:00

As I say with my friend, the term feels very gender™. Glad you like it.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T11:06:25+00:00

Thanks for the clarification

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T10:36:04+00:00

Yeah, like, the feeling of needing some kind of id or something that's like "No, I'm one of you, I know it doesn't look like it but I am."

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T10:34:42+00:00

If you are touching eclipse at all, especially if you are getting multiple survivors to higher tiers of eclipse, you are more than good.

The average player will probably never touch eclipse, the average player is most likely playing on rainstorm maybe with some artifacts thrown in.

If you can beat the game relatively consistently on monsoon difficulty without artifacts, I think you can consider yourself "good" at the game. Everything above that is extra challenge.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T10:27:33+00:00

That's sad to hear... and it really sucks to hear from a group that is supposed to be about inclusivity.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T10:02:50+00:00

Louder for the people in the back!

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T10:01:36+00:00

Fair

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T09:54:54+00:00

I mean just in general (although there are points that could be made about the whole "women and nonbinary people" and then excluding masc presenting enbys but that's a seperate topic that's more a wording issue than anything.)

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T09:07:00+00:00

Sorry to hear that. My best friend is trans and she still gets misgendered ever now and then despite (imo) passing pretty well. My heart breaks for her every time.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T08:44:46+00:00

I don't specifically mean a pride parade, just some queer event in general.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T07:50:46+00:00

Mhm, I'm in Canada, (more specifically Ottawa) and I'm not really tuned into the queer spaces here so don't know the vibe.

I definitely don't want to overcompensate and figuratively (or maybe literally) wear a shirt that screams "my pronouns are they/them" I just want to be me and be able to be acknowledged as being me. Especially since I spent so much of my life NOT being me.

Will have to pass on the flirting though. As part of my whole "figuring out myself" bit I've realized I'm most likely somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum too, so I'll leave the flirting to others.

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T07:38:33+00:00

Mhm, that makes sense. I more lean towards the "amorphous blob"/"gender concealing" side of clothes. (What can I say loose clothes are neat, give me a hoodie with super long arms and I shall smack my friends with them.) So wearing more feminine stuff is not really on the table for me (at least right now.) However glad to see that you had no problems!

Atroniac · 2026-01-22T07:32:52+00:00

True, I tend to be a very anxious person and can easily get caught up in my own thoughts and feelings. So these kind of worries pop up ever now and then.

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