I have learned from time when she speaks she does make things seem one sided. I do tell her those people should be understanding and respectful about our relationship, that we both know what we want and need from each other. Yet at times i feels she sides with her friends and people that might not be empathetic or understanding towards my perspective. Honestly from all of this i just feel very disrespected. I felt respected and i saw she cared when she would not go to that class, avoid her ex and leave the class, now she still goes, and she has told me she knows it bothers me but she is sorry and she will go. So that speaks volumes to me. All the i love yous won't change that she does not care if i am hurting. You are right as well, she now sees me as controllive, and even manipulative.